I asked my boyfriend if he's ever hit a woman before(he told me he dragged his sister by the hair once),and he said he did once and he gave his girlfriend a black eye,he said he would never do that to me,if i got him angry he would just hit the wall or something. My question is if he's done it before could he do it again?
2007-12-11 23:58:32 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes.........The fact that if he gets angry and has to hit something is very worrying.....my bf gets angry but never has to hit anything to release it, i would tell him he needs anger management or something, honey u don't need to be worrying that if he loses his temper he could hit u, that's not normal, happens often yes but not normal...because u start doing that then u never do anything to make him lose his temper which means u lose ur own identity as u end up doing, and agreeing with EVERYTHING he says and does....this is from personal experience but i got out, it took 10 years but i did it.......so don't let him do it to u
2007-12-12 00:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Leopard never changes his spots sweetheart. If he could drag his own sister by the hair and give a girl a black eye, he would do the same to you if he really lost his temper. Sounds to me that he would be a good candidate for an anger management course. His answer of hitting the wall instead of you is a load of rubbish, he's not going to risk breaking his own hand is he! Sorry love, but if I were you I would walk away from this guy. Take care.
2007-12-12 00:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by Tammy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In a fit of temper people will do things that they would never do in other situations. The circumstances of his altercation should be clearly understood. It may have been something very unusual to provoke him into striking someon.
Nut that does not mean he will not do it again. You should advise him that he should get anger management classes. A boy, generally, is more powerful than the average girl. Girls are not really interested in fighting in the first place. Defending yourself may not be possible if he was to become angry again.
You had better think about the situation. Also, if he has come from an abusive family, his tendency will be to continue the cycle and that put you in jeapordy.
You must take care of yourself first. Then do what you can to maintain the relationship. If you feel unsafe, then the situation is not good for you.
2007-12-12 00:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by organbuilder272 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Chances are he'll do it again if you are in the way when he's angry. He says hel hit a wall or something, but if you are the nearest thing or in reach it'll be you, so either dont make him angry or if he's getting angry give him space, not a good way to live but the choice is yours
dragging his sister by the hair was probably when they were young, but giving an ex a black eye would have alarm bells ringing
2007-12-12 00:03:34 · answer #4 · answered by poli_b2001 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So sorry to say this to you. And I know others are going to say the same thing and we all hope that you listen to us.
Yes
For anyone to hit another person that is in them. They will do it again as that is part of their nature.
Please find a new boyfriend. Start pulling away from him slowly. I dont want him to be violent to you. Stay with family and surround yourself with people.
Careful and wish you the best
2007-12-12 00:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely yes. Do not believe him, this person already has a pattern of violence against women, his sister and ex-girlfriend, without some kind of counselling he will repeat his behaviour. My ex husband used to hit the wall, then it was punch through picture frames, then it was throw chairs and put holes in the walls, and then it was hit the children which is when I left, believe me when I say this is not the kind of relationship you want.
2007-12-12 00:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by melelllan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once an abuser... always an abuser.
It isn't a fair answer because I suppose people can change but I've never seen someone that hits when they are angry change their ways.
Hitting at all when he is angry is a bad sign, a mature adult doesn't need to 'hit' when they are upset. You probably won't listen to these answers, but at least you probably won't be surprised when he does hit you.
Do yourself a favor and find someone that knows how to control themselves.
2007-12-12 00:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by Harley 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well of course he could do it again. It is immature to hit a woman, or to hit anyone for that matter. You better think about moving on from this relationship before you have a black eye, too.
2007-12-12 00:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes, he would eventually hit you an d not the wall. He has hit before and if he gets mad enough he will hit again.
2007-12-12 00:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by candyroses68 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is very likely that he will do it again. if he can drag his own sister by her hair, then yes he can hit a woman again. A lepord doesnt change his spots!
once a wife beater, always a wife beater! (i know your not his wife but you know what i mean!)
maybe thats why his ex and hinm didnt last?
For your own safety, stay away.
hope this helps!
2007-12-12 00:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋