Family & Relationships - 11 December 2007

we cant b together,we were together on and off since we were 14,now we're 21.I know we'd make great friends,but@this point, we need to be apart,completely, for at LEAST several months...even the smallest attempt at conversation leads to either jelousy, or rekindling feelings, which lead to drama...(trust me, it has been a cycle of break up and make up for the last 3 years)...those options=INEVITABLE. we NEED time apart....its just that, he is ALL i have kown in so many ways for the last4of the7yrs. I mean,I have my friends,family,college, but...since we were 14 we've been each others ALL...I just dont know how to move on, so that I can get to a healthy point within my self&mayb even with him or both so that we can either be friends, associates, or nothing. I mean, Ill always love and miss him but that can be healthy..i just feel so sad&lonely, i dont kno how2deal...what do i do in this healing period? talkin2him is NOT an option, even if I wanted to because it was his decision also

2007-12-11 16:47:50 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

with the holidays coming up, i let my emotions get the best of me. i have decided to write my estranged father. a little background info: im 21. he mvoed out when i was 9. before that, he was a very abusive man to my siblings, mother, and me. my siblings sometimes contact him, and know that he is a drug addict on the brink of suicide. ive held a grudge for so long, but i know if he did die, id be devastated and probably never forgive myself. so ive decided to write him a letter for christmas. in this letter, i want to make a few points. one being that i love him. another being that i want to work on our relationship someday but that im working on mine now. and i do want to tell him to clean his act up. do you have any ideas/suggestions on what to say or how to say it? is it beyond my limits to tell him to clean up? i really have no idea and id rather not tell my family to ask them for help because theyd be critical and what not. any help is so appreciated! thanks!

2007-12-11 16:45:39 · 9 answers · asked by Brittany 2 in Family

2007-12-11 16:45:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Well I just can't stand her sometimes.

2007-12-11 16:42:58 · 21 answers · asked by papoose52cat 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Because I am posting in this section, I do not want any immature people and/or responses.

People first date and ask others out because they like them. Eventually, that develops to a sense of caring. The guy cares a lot about the girl and vice versa. They both will be there for each other. Eventually, this turns into the commitment of marriage.

Now my real question is: in the early and middle stages of a relationship, most people only have a young sense of caring. They can't always be with their partner, but they will try to be there if they can. How is this any different from a close/best friend?

The reason, that I have always held, for desiring a relationship (if I ever get close to getting one) is so that I can hold the girl and let her know that I will always be there for her. Even if her family has forsaken her, she will always have me.

Now that I think about it more, how is this different from a best friend? Yes, I do not treat my good/best friends this way, but is the line really that close?

2007-12-11 16:41:56 · 6 answers · asked by niiro13 7 in Singles & Dating

She's the middle of 7 siblings. Shouldn't she have choosen one of her 5 sisters. Not a DISTANT cousin. I'm pissed off.

2007-12-11 16:41:45 · 26 answers · asked by papoose52cat 1 in Weddings

i was married to a very good man but i lost him over stupity. beliving this other man who wasnt much. only after one thing i cant belive i belive him but like a nu i did and now i lost every thing i really loved my man . over a lie. and i had never ever once cheated on him but things happened . and wished now they hadent . my life.s over now loosing him he was always there for me no matter what . i really messed up over this other one if any has and advise please let me know and please dont judge me i was in the wrong i know it now thank you all

2007-12-11 16:41:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-11 16:41:03 · 9 answers · asked by Poppy 2 in Friends

What do you look for in men physically not personality wise.

2007-12-11 16:36:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-11 16:35:44 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Boys have some ways to get over their ex like: playing game all day long, getting a new gf, hanging out with friends.....
I cant do those thing... lol ... i dunno how to get over this boy .... we have been together for 3 yrs... and just broke up for 2 weeks
... he told me he wont come back, and he finds his own way to keep his mind busy... so ya... its just me who has problem now ....PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEE HELPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP

2007-12-11 16:35:29 · 4 answers · asked by tinkerbell 2 in Singles & Dating

i went 2 a movie with this girl on our first date and it went really well i think but when it was over and we talked on msn she said that it would be best to stay friends because her other 2 exs arent friends with her and she doesnt want that happening and i assured her that it wouldnt and it sounded like she beleived me but its only been 3 or 4 days since she broke up with her ex and i thought she was over him but shes not and now she said she'll see when i asked her if maybe some other time but is that good or bad i really need to know cuz its driving me crazy and i feel really bad and depressed

2007-12-11 16:34:38 · 6 answers · asked by Tony F 1 in Singles & Dating

Over the past two months I became friends with this girl in physics class. She always makes an effort to talk to me and be nice, and even made me a cd for me a while back after she asked me if I liked a band. She also copied notes for me and asked me my number recently, so we could study together. When we got done studying and I was walking to my car she stopped and picked me up and we talked in her car. We went and got coffee at school the next day after she waited a few mins for me to finish our exam. She also dropped out of her lab project group to be in mine after I couldn't get in hers. She asked me to goto church with her recently, and we've studied together outside of school and I've hung out at her house a few more times. In passing the other day she said didn't want a relationship when talking about this guy from church that called her...we hang out at her house at least once a week and she invited me to study with her today...I just can't tell if she's being nice or what.

2007-12-11 16:34:32 · 4 answers · asked by cracky 2 in Singles & Dating

I'm having a party and i invited a guy i have a crush on.
Help me with some simple flirting tips?
I always come on a little too strong, and scare guys away some times.
i'm not going to hang all over him but i am going to give him a hug!
kthnx

2007-12-11 16:32:52 · 6 answers · asked by lorelei 1 in Singles & Dating

im in love with this guy but were just friends were not dating but he said when i get unpunished and we hangout more he would probably see me as more than a friend. and hes always asking me if i wanna have sex with him and i always tell him no im not ready for that im still a virgin! and he respects me for that and he would do anything for me were really close friends he said im not just another peice of ***! but i love him so much and i really do think im ready to have sex with him. should i?
i would not just have sex with anybody i wanna do it with him cuz i love him and i think im ready to. but do yall think i should?

2007-12-11 16:31:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Basically to give some background. I worked with this girl. She was five years younger than me. I'm turning 23, shes turning 18 this month. I liked her, she never knew. She always hit on me, every summer we worked together. I was her boss my family owns the retail stores. I always rejected her, due to principal. I would have been all over her if it wasn't for the age difference, fact she was a minor, etc etc. My family always wanted me to date her because they would always mention how we worked good together, had same interests etc. I don't think I realized how much I liked her till I left to go back to college. I realized what a mistake I had made. I then tried to get back into contact with her over Christmas last year. I misinterpreted some stuff cause I am a moron, and ended up writing a letter to her apologizing to her thinking that I broke her heart. In reality she was breaking up with a guy and in a bad mood, her IM profile stuff and facebook stuff wasnt for me.

2007-12-11 16:28:40 · 7 answers · asked by DMan 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-11 16:26:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

do u think you should live with your girlfriend before marriage to get to know her more internally and make compatibility or after marriage since we both know we going to get marry soon.

2007-12-11 16:24:53 · 21 answers · asked by pro 1 in Singles & Dating

I just married my husband 2 months ago and I am 4 1/2 months pregnant. We have been together for 5 years and in the 1st or 2nd year i had a restraining order against him because he was getting abusive. After he had gotten himself together (i thought) i attempted to drop the order but couldnt because he hadnt attended the court ordered anger management classes so as far as i know it still stands. Suddenly, now that we have gotten married, got our first place and are expecting a baby he has gotten abusive again but i dont pictures, etc... my question is, if i leave him now, he is threatening to take custody of the baby. is there anything i can do to prevent that being that the baby isnt born yet? do i have to put him on the birth certificate, etc?

2007-12-11 16:24:42 · 7 answers · asked by Alicia 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I have been married for 4 years . We ended up in financial hardship and had troubled paying rent. He came to me about a friend he knew who needed a place to live tomhelp with rent. She ended up moving in with us 4 months after we married. I always had a suspicion something was wrong but could never put my finger on it. I ended up pregnant, and everything was just weird. I delivered the baby and 5 weeks afterwards found out they had been having a affair for 4 yrs. We ended up going to counseling and everything was fine. he had no contact with the other women until she had contacted him telling him that she hopes everything is what he wanted. Apparently, he emailed her using wrk email and they had another "1 night" stand, and she became pregnant. To make things worse, I am now pregant with his 2nd child and do not know what to do. He told me she wants nothing to do with him, and that he was just a sperm donor...I want my daughter to grow up with her parents, & not a broken famly

2007-12-11 16:22:08 · 27 answers · asked by Elise0202 1 in Marriage & Divorce

how 2 get custady of my dauter her mum has her

2007-12-11 16:20:02 · 6 answers · asked by aliamitab 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-11 16:20:00 · 16 answers · asked by Girl 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Okay, so i used to be freinds with this guy, and one day he stole a bunch of my stuff and now he won't give it back. My parents cant do anything about it though! But the problem is he thinks he is so cool, and now, wherever i go, there he is. he is always trying to be freinds with my freinds, just to ruin my life! What can i do to make him go away?

2007-12-11 16:18:42 · 5 answers · asked by happyguy555 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

My girlfriend of 2 and a half years called me tonight. We were having a good converstaion untill she asked me "would you be mad at me if another guy gave me a back massage?" So I replied "who gave you a back massage", and she said "Just tell me if you would be mad." I finally got her to tell me that a guy mike at her work gave her one, and she told me "it was so nice he went all the way down and *signs*". I told her I was dissapointed because I don't want other guys touching her, and if she wanted a back massage she can ask me for one anytime. But she says her back hurt and I told her that was no excuse because mine hurts as well as I do heavy lifting at my job and I have been sleeping on the floor for the past for nights (I'm waiting for my new bed to arrive) and I havent asked anyone for a back massage but her. It wouldn't have made me as upset, but I know that previously while we were dating a guy from her work has hit her butt, flirts with her, hugs her, and as she says "made her" kiss his neck. She is a hostess at a restaurant so I don't know how he could have "made her" kiss his neck.. but I am getting mad about all of this that is going on at her work. Do I have a right to be upset or am I overreacting? All I told her is I don't want other guys touching her but she wouldnt agree to it..

2007-12-11 16:18:11 · 13 answers · asked by Maxwell 1 in Family

2007-12-11 16:16:26 · 10 answers · asked by marilyn b 1 in Family

it just seems like everthing i say the in-laws have a better story.its the hoildays and i know i will see them.what makes it even harder is that my husband father remarried a woman.well my huband brother married the woman oldest daughter.so we get it from both couples.

2007-12-11 16:14:33 · 5 answers · asked by shoe_gurl 1 in Family

Plantiff attorney represented X wife of Judge. Plantiff asked Judge to recuse and he refused. Motion to Disqualify filed. Now what?

2007-12-11 16:13:57 · 2 answers · asked by Ann S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Recently I met this really nice guy that I just attracted to straight away.
He calls/sms’s/emails me all day why im at work coz he works 3 blocks up from me… and he drives me home on a Friday when its like an hour out of his way…
We started having sex but he told me his not sure if he wants a girlfriend or just casual sex.. but then he said that he loves spending time with me and he doesn’t just want to have casual sex… im sooo confused!! What does this guy want??????

2007-12-11 16:11:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Im supposed to get married the first week of next month, but lately I've been feeling different towards my mate. Asking myself if its the right thing i'm doing..I'm 22 and he's 25, I talked to him about it, but he said not to worry, everything will be okay. He has Major mood swings now and then, and thats one thing i cant stand...

We're also doing a city hall marriage, and i'm telling myself this is not what i ever envisioned.

IS this the way you felt before your wedding? please help!

2007-12-11 16:11:20 · 10 answers · asked by emreldjewel 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I really love my boyfriend. Things are just a little comfusing. He cried when we had sex because it hurt me. He tends to cry in public at theaters in sappy movies. He cleans and cooks. I love his personality but I do not want to be the man in the relationship. I don't want to break up with him but I think that it might have to come to that. Help me.

2007-12-11 16:09:15 · 10 answers · asked by Ditzy 1 in Singles & Dating