She's the middle of 7 siblings. Shouldn't she have choosen one of her 5 sisters. Not a DISTANT cousin. I'm pissed off.
2007-12-11 16:41:45 · 26 answers · asked by papoose52cat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Maybe she choose the cousin so not to piss off the other sisters. If your close enough to feel you should have been MOH, then your close enough to talk to her about how you feel.
2007-12-12 03:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by kimandryan2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was all ways told that the Maid of Honor and most of your brides maids are family and one or two Friends that are like family.
I cashes where it is more than one or to sisters it is the one that is closes to the Bride.
I know how you fell. I was so made when my brother-in-Law got marred he did not include me in any thing for the Wedding even tho my husband walked with his sister in the wedding party. He did not even tell his mother-in-Law that his big and only brother was married and had two children. I was not even invited to the Wedding because his mother-in-Law did not know. So yes I can under stand why and how pissed off you are.
I told my brother-in-law off and You should do the same.
2007-12-12 08:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you disagree with your sister's choice the Bride DOES have the right to select who she wants as her honor attendant.
What makes a great attendant?
Supportive, low-maintenance friends, co-workers, and family members make the best wedding party members. The Bride and Groom should avoid people who are self-centered, selfish, forgetful or have other obligations (family, financial, or employment).
The Bride and Groom should never feel obligated to have someone in their wedding party just because they are a brother or sister.
When considering a Maid/Matron of Honor or a Best Man, the Bride and Groom should ask themself how this friend or relative reacted in the past when you have sought their help or assistance. The key word here is RESPONSIBLE. Will he or she be there when you need them the most . . or will they be chasing their children or sitting on a bar stool in another room?
Answered by: A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant
2007-12-12 06:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by Avis B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, don't worry about it too much. She doesn't love you any less. My half sister didn't chose me to be her maid of honor, and I know I'm closer to her than her other two half sisters. Also, if one of the five girls had been chosen, four of you would be hurt because she didn't chose you. And maybe your cousin has been through weddings before and has more experience then the five of you with weddings. That experience would help her make her big day more enjoyable. Also, keep in mind that she's the one getting married, not your family.
2007-12-12 00:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by Starfish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's her wedding, not yours. My sister's getting married in 6 weeks, she choose 3 friends to be her bridesmaids, not her 3 sisters. We don't mind--I was frankly relieved that I didn't have to buy a dress that I wouldn't be able to wear again. You can be pissed off all you want, but it's not going to do you any good, and will only stress out your sister even more than she's probably already stressed. It's also only going to make you look bad to the rest of the family, so please get over it.
2007-12-12 01:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she was trying to avoid picking one sister over another and hurting everyone's feelings. So she chose the cousin so no one would be jelous of the others.
I do have to say, you prob should forget pissed off. Either way this is her wedding and who she chooses for the bridal party is up to her
2007-12-12 02:31:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm planning to pick a cousin instead of my sister (only sister) as my Maid of Honor.
My thought is that she might be doing that to avoid picking any one of the sisters as MOH and the rest being "down-graded" to bridesmaids.
It is a personal decision, and one that she has hopefully thought long and hard about.
2007-12-12 10:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is certainly no law that says she has to have her sisters, and it is her wedding so her choice in whom she asks, I can understand you being upset by this but think about it, perhaps she cannot afford to have 7 bridesmaids (and all the grooms men that seem to accompany the bridesmaids in US weddings) and rather than causing a fight between you and your sisters she has chosen someone neutral, your cousin.
2007-12-12 02:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all... i'm lucky enough to have only one sister. A) its her wedding, she choses who she feels is up to the task. She could be sympathetic to your busy lives and went for someone who would be more available. If thats not the case, move on to b.
B) by chosing someone who wasnt a sister, she avoided a fight amungst sisters! I know your mad because she didnt chose one of you.... but how mad would you feel if she chose one of the sisters that WASNT you!? how would your sisters feel if she chose you instead of one of them?
C) Why are you pissed off? Cuz she didnt chose you? i really dont see what you have to be upset about. You should happy for your sister, and offer a helping hand. Shes stressed out enough as it is without having to worry about a family skwable over something VERY simple.
2007-12-12 01:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by loki_only1 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, it'd make sense if she only had one sister, but obviously, it'd be hard to choose between 5! Give her a break. The wedding is about the bride and groom... not the wedding party!
2007-12-12 19:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by ennie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she chose the distant cousin because she didn't want to have to chose between her 5 sisters. I mean, imagine how hurt the other 4 would've felt. She was probably trying to spare all of your feelings. Don't be too hard on her. After all, It's her wedding. Merry Christmas :)
2007-12-12 00:48:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋