2007-12-11 16:26:55 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i need help on what to do. i want to kill myself, i am so upset I even gave in. it was a one time thing, and he kept saying how it should have been us if anything that got married and had kids... and now i may be pregnant. i hope there is someone else out there reading this and has gotten pulled in with old feelings... im so scared and confused.
2007-12-11 16:29:12 · update #1
this is not my character. i am NOT a homewrecker. but after that incident... i am! i have sinned. if i find out i am, do i get an abortion and not even tell him? or do i give it up (my parents will KILL me, they are not understanding) and not tell him? or tell him and then what, break apart his family and both of our lives? im in need of answers.
2007-12-11 16:35:58 · update #2
sadly enough i do not have anyone to talk to. they will only yell at me and be discouraged, as i already am. hence, why i am posting here... i will take a test, i just dont know when. i was already a week late and THEN had sex. so im not even sure how soon i can test. i know its best to try not to stress.. but it is so unbelievably hard to just wait..
2007-12-11 16:45:11 · update #3
and thank you for those who are so quick to lend advice.. i need it and i appreciate all of it.
2007-12-11 16:46:17 · update #4
Just wait until you get a positive pregnancy test. Don't panic. Do you have any parents or friends you can lean on for support?
2007-12-11 16:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jen70 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. Don't kill yourself.
2. If you're truly concerned about sin, then that means you know that everyone has sinned and that's part of being human. You know the story, I'm sure, but there's a guy who came to take on all of our sins...
3. Go get tested...and while you're at it, you should get tested for STDs. This guy's no prince, and the more you know the better off you'll be.
4. If you are pregnant and keep the child, he needs to pay support. You can't be concerned with wrecking his family; chances are they already know he's a jerk.
5. If you choose to abort, make sure that you get counseling before and after. You're already showing the heavy impact guilt has on you; it will get worse.
6. If you choose to adopt the child out, rest assured that you've given a family a great opportunity to have a healthy kid.
Breathe...relax...things work out.
2007-12-12 00:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by help_me_moses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray about this, I do not know how spiritual you are but now is the time to ask the lord for forgiveness. Breathe, relax, get a test done and pray that you are not. The last thing you want is to be pregnant from somebody else's husband, despite that he claims to not love her she is still his wife in the eyes of god so do not allow yourself to further get sucked in deeper than you are. Pray for the best and prepare for the worst. If he really cared that much about you then you would have been wifey from day one and not the other woman. Be careful because he might just be shooting the breeze. Please pray. Take care...
2007-12-12 00:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by Alexis 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear, you were this guy first. Please go get a pregnancy test, and, never ever think about harming yourself. What is done is done and can't be "redone", so, all you can do is look toward the future. If you aren't pregnant, you have learned a lesson and won't be with a married man again. If you are, then, you have to deal with the situation at that time.
Please go talk to anyone that you can.
Don't trust him, though, dear. If he cheated on his wife with you, he would do it to you, also.
If you need to talk, dear, you can email me. It will be ok.
2007-12-12 00:30:05 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda h 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try and get a blood test, they can tell better than a pee test. More accurate.
If you go see a doctor they might be able to refer you to some help and support services even if its just for counselling, or if you need a place to stay...
Good luck....
Please go to the doctor. They can help.
2007-12-12 00:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would u ever even TALK to a married guy let alone sleep with him. are u that insecure. there is not excuse. then to NOT use protection or be on birth control. what about this mans poor wife. he obviously cares about her. has he left her. no. did he marry you. no. why would u put urself in this situation?
2007-12-12 01:03:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...well first off, I wouldn't get an abortion if I was you, if your not gonna be a good parent to it, the least you can do is put it up for adoption don't kill it!!!! Um..secondly, Idk about telling him, he does have kids of his own, and why wouldn't he love his wife? Why would he marry someone he didn't love? Are you sure he is telling you the truth?
2007-12-12 00:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they all say that so they can get them some. wait & see what he thinks and tells about you if you are pregnant. ill bet he denies he was with you. stay away from married men. they have families to spend holidays with and will .
2007-12-12 00:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by joes_mom86 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step one. Call the police if you are serious about killing yourself.
Then find out for sure if you are pregnant.
Next stop worrying about this guy and worry about yourself. Nobody is going to fix you and your life but yourself. You can do it, if you want to.
I will pray for you.
2007-12-12 00:32:49 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Reality Check...... If your for real get professional help, hurting yourself is no joke. believe me when I say "your not alone", there's people out there that have your back, including us, lets talk this out ! give us more info.....
2007-12-12 00:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by lenzix5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋