i was married to a very good man but i lost him over stupity. beliving this other man who wasnt much. only after one thing i cant belive i belive him but like a nu i did and now i lost every thing i really loved my man . over a lie. and i had never ever once cheated on him but things happened . and wished now they hadent . my life.s over now loosing him he was always there for me no matter what . i really messed up over this other one if any has and advise please let me know and please dont judge me i was in the wrong i know it now thank you all
2007-12-11 16:41:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i had never cheated on my husband till i fell for this other man.s lies hook line and sinker.
2007-12-11 16:43:55 · update #1
seem.s like. hook. line. and sinker. caused . you a marrage. and good man. if you belive everything a man tell.s you your in for a big hurt. havent you learned from losing what you called a good man. not to be rude but othr men will look at you as what you did. a cheater. and a whore . a woman who loves her man dont do him like that as well i aint judgeing you. seem.s you have done that so stop thinking so. and learn to keep your legs together. ok wasnt that what caused all your problems to start with . my opion?
2007-12-11 17:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't and hope I never do. It is easy though to believe something like that. Especially if you are feeling vulnerable or lonely or whatever it was he used to lure you. Since you now know that some men can and will say the right thing at the right time if you ever find another love you will remember this and be more wary in the future. Also if you find another love I would just tell him things didn't work out between you and your ex (if you get divorced that is) and you don't want to talk about it. That will help because you don't want the new guy if you get one to think you will do the same thing.
Guilt can be a terrible thing and you have paid the price but now learn from it and you will be happier. I promise.
2007-12-11 17:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by bssd12000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself into therapy to find out why you cheated so it never happens again and how you can deal with the loss of your ex-husband. Also, find out from your therapist why you would want to get back together with your ex-husband. It sounds like you weren't in love with your ex-husband, you just like the fact that he was good to you. People who are in love don't cheat. People who used to love don't cheat.
You will find someone new to love, but you really need to learn about yourself and why you cheated on a great husband before you can seriously date or marry anyone else in the future.
PS - Get yourself an education so you can write and spell correctly. You really come across as one of the more ignorant people on this website.
2007-12-11 16:52:26 · answer #3 · answered by Dina K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should of thought about it before cheating on your husband. I don't blame him for not wanting you. Now you have to pay the consequences.
You need to work on your grammar. That is why they have the "CHECK SPELLING" feature. Use it!!!!
2007-12-11 16:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by conny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn how to spell and form complete sentences first, kiddo. Education is the key to your future.
2007-12-11 16:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by johngolfs2002 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating even if it happens just once... you did something.. that brought you consequences... you cannot have your cake and eat it too.
2007-12-11 16:46:06 · answer #6 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling. Sometimes our actions have consequences, and you need to face those consequences and deal with them. God bless!
2007-12-11 16:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Did you try and reconcile with your husband by telling him exactly what you have told us here? Worth a try!
2007-12-11 16:45:55 · answer #8 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋