Family & Relationships - 11 December 2007

Im in college and its nearing the end of the year and i feel very alone,im always trapped inside my own mind and i feel different to everybody!I dont think anyone will like me and im sure they definitely wouldn't if they knew the real me,im horribly flawed personality wise,im always sad and anxious and angry and zoned out and get constantly angry at my parents,i live with them but im just sick of it and i even dream about friends ive had in the past now.I just feel so lonely but i dont think othere people would ever even like me,what do i do?im doing well in college and i attend all of my lectures but thats about the only thing that is keeping me connected to 'life' other than that i just get lost inside my own mind and im dreading the holidays as im going to be trapped inside my head,i dont know what to do!

2007-12-11 01:58:46 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Ok I posted a question yesterday about letting someone go, here's what I wrote....
There's this guy that I have mad feelings for, but he doesn't feel the same way. I am going through a lot right now and it would be nice to have him around, but he barely even wants to talk to me anymore. I don't know what I've done to make him feel this way. He's a really nice guy( the whole reason I fell for him in the first place) but I don't think he cares like he used to. We were really good friends. I talked to him today to see if he wanted to go out,but Him and his boys might go out tonight if they don't then we could. I know were only friends, but it's not enough for me right now. I've thought about calling him back to tell him don't even waste his time trying to fit me in his schedule because I don't want to go out. To tell him that I care about him way too much to be just friends. I'm sick of feeling like I have to practically beg you to go out with me. I want to tell him not to call me again. Even though I really like him I'm tired of feeling hurt, but I'm scared. I don't know what to do right now I want him in my life so bad but if this is all it's going to be I don't know if it's worth it. I don't want to regret it. Can someone please help me......should I let him go? what shall I do? What shall I say to him?
He replied back saying that I'm way too dramatic, it's not that serious. I act like I don't know that he works six days a week and the day he's off he takes of his business. If I don't want to be friends that's my choice and my loss.
First off why do guys always seem to twist things around making it seem as I'm in the wrong. Do you think I did a stupid thing. I'm just so tired of waiting for him to have time for me. I know he works a lot, but a month ago he was working just as hard but we were hanging around eachother about 2 times a week. Then right after I tell him how I feel it's seems as if he doesn't want to be around me b/c he makes every excuse in the book. He goes out almost every night with his boys, but he's tired or don't have time for me. It's not even about him not wanting to spend time with me cuz even if he did I don't want to be one of his boys. I have feelings for him and want a relationship with him. You all can be honest am I loosing my mind? DO you think I'm being too dramatic? I would lik some opinions and what would you do if this was you?

2007-12-11 01:58:45 · 2 answers · asked by tc22 3 in Singles & Dating

My husband is deployed and this is our first deployment. he doesn't come back for another 10 months (in the army). I was just wondering if we were to have sex again, would it hurt again, like the first time? does the hymen grow back? if so, is there any way to resolve this so that when he comes back it won't hurt again? i just need some good answers. Thanks!

2007-12-11 01:57:30 · 12 answers · asked by annoyingchick87 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My question is legally can my sister live with me? I am 24 years old, I am a Director of Marketing for a Catering Co, I live in Baltimore Md. My sister is 16 years old, and lives in Texas with my Mom and her step dad. My dad and grandparents live in Mississippi. Will I was talking to my sister and she wants to come and live with me. The reason is because of her stepdad, and stuff going on at home. I told her I want to go to the authorities and handle matters that way. But, she doesnt want me to. So, I am going to respect that. I asked my grandmom if my sister could come live with her (she said she couldnt live w/my dad which is possibly best). I dont think she will get along with my grandmother because my grandmother just thinks she is manipulative and a liar.

So, I want to her to be where she is loved. I know I dont have kids and it is a big responsibility, and i haven't seen her in about 6 years because of my mother but.

Anyways legally can she live with me?

2007-12-11 01:53:31 · 4 answers · asked by sarahglian 2 in Family

smoke a joint every once in a while after the kids go to bed. I crave it so much every now and then, it also helped me sleep when I back in college. So if it was totally legal and it was only occasionally, would you?

2007-12-11 01:51:40 · 84 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

On sunday, I was busy with so much work that I didnt get into bed untill 4am. I couldnt wake up the next morning to go back to the routine of getting myself and my daughter ready for work and child care. So, at last minute at 7am, I decided to just stay home. I had already gotten up and started to get ready, but decided against it, so instead of getting back in bed with my husband, I decided to stay on the couch( not to disturb his sleep). At 8am, someone was at my door, they rang once, than twice, therefore I had to get up and when I got to the door, a girl was at my door claiming to be asking for someone whose doesnt live at my home. Red flags flared up. 8AM Wrong Door...okay. I found it odd, and didnt want to think the worst. But seconds later, my husband phone was ringing. Dumb. So naturally, I ck his phone and answered it..hung up. So, I continued to ck his phone overall. And the same person that hung up , is the same person that text, to say, I am here. I waited.

2007-12-11 01:49:25 · 24 answers · asked by SecretsGyrl 2 in Marriage & Divorce

curious people!

2007-12-11 01:49:22 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i just got out of a 6 year realtionship , actually my highschool sweetheart ever since i was 16. she has now turned 21 dumped me for another guy and times are pretty tough! All my freinds who i thought were my freinds have turned there back on me and i litterally have no one in my life right now im actually have to start over from scratch with freinds i have known for ever and my life as i know it! is there ne one that has known anyone in a similar sitiuation or anyone that has been in that sitiutation and how should i deal with it how to meet new freinds and so forth please help! im now 22 and just want to live my life i know i can come back from this i just need to realize it! thanks

2007-12-11 01:47:31 · 8 answers · asked by newstart7885 1 in Singles & Dating

If I think he likes me by driving around my house or tries to talk to me once at the pharmacy (I didn't have time to talk to him), should I go ahead to talk to him at his shop even though I went there twice three years ago? He never asked me out yet. I am not sure if he is interested in me, but he asked my mom about me last year when she was in his shop. What can I do? I am confused.

2007-12-11 01:45:46 · 13 answers · asked by CC 2 in Singles & Dating

what do you think of a woman who makes the moves, not over the top and demanding but just after what she wants and being upfront but not slutty..someone who makes the first moves, does the texting, a bit of chasing, is it good or bad?

2007-12-11 01:43:02 · 33 answers · asked by graceygirl 1 in Singles & Dating

or anyone else at my daughters upcoming wedding in Jamaica? The ministers fee is included in the package, but we have no idea how much they're paying him. Also, do you tip the photographer?
Thanks

2007-12-11 01:42:30 · 9 answers · asked by tess 6 in Weddings

Actually, they are my husband's aunts and uncles. They always make fun of me because I like hanging out with their kids (who are younger than me by 2-10 years, they are all different ages.) I was never close with my own cousins so I like hanging out with them when we go out to parties and such and so does my husband. The aunts and uncles always have the same boring convos, don't get me wrong, I don't avoid them at all cost, we hang with them too for a bit, then we go and sit with the kids lol. Why is that weird to them, is it because I'm married?

2007-12-11 01:40:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

So...
I told my husband tonight that I wanted to seperate and that I thought it would be best for us if we were apart.Well, at first it went over ok, then **** hit the fan. Needless to say he is not happy about this! He said that I am giving up on him and that he needs my help, and I said that there is nothing for me to do, I have givin him all the help I can, but that the rest is up to him.
The thing is...like I said...I have been with him for 5 years, married almost 3 years. He started anti-depressents about 3 weeks ago, he says they arn't strong enough, that he needs stronger. (he's on effexor 70 MG) But, I have been the brunt of his unhappiness. I have been screamed at, have things thrown at me while Im holding the baby, been called names, he's left all weekend to play "video games" at his friends house, he doesn't take his pill on the weekend so he can drink, he's threated to "pound my face into the wall", "smash the cell phone through my face", "i'm being a c***!"

2007-12-11 01:37:15 · 32 answers · asked by lesliebedford623 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-11 01:32:49 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

to talk with them and see what's kickin' in the adult world for awhile.

2007-12-11 01:32:28 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

some people doesn't want to have S in their marriage?is that possible?

2007-12-11 01:31:03 · 27 answers · asked by truth set free 1 in Marriage & Divorce

ok last night my husband was talking in his sleep and called out one of his ex's names. he was having a sexual dream. also said ya baby thats so good. this isn't the first time this has happened and i've tried not to let it get to me but i just had a baby three weeks ago and am very emotional am i over reacting being upset with him. i asked him about it this morning and hes like everyone dreams like that but not once have i dreamed about one of my ex's like that at least that i remember. when he has them he tells them to me in full detail and doesn't think it should upset me, but in a way it feels like he is almost cheating.like i said i don't know how i am not supposed to be upset i don't want to overreact but it is very very hurtful that he dreams of sex with his ex and is vocal about it when we have sex he hardly makes a sound!so i'd love some insight or to hear if it happens to anyone else please if you can't say something helpful don't say anything i'm having a hard enough time

2007-12-11 01:24:41 · 17 answers · asked by missy p 4 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm 35 weeks pregnant and having major problems with my fiance, he's nigerian, 28 I'm british, 36. He's never shown any interest in my pregnancy, even though 've been in and out of hospital with high blood pressure, I'm being induced in 3 weeks. He refuses to tell his family about me as he says they would disown him and he risks his mum stopping paying his study fees. He goes out with his mates and never takes me. He expects me to do all housework and moans if house is not clean. He told me he would only move in house if I moved to bigger place, i did he moved in great at first and then he starts just going out all time and when with me is cold and uncaring. We row and he then tells me he has got another place, just in case I throw him out. We were supposed to get married in August but don't think so now, he's told me he doesn't think i'm suitable for a wife as I'm self centred, selfish, and I am not the best looking girl or best girl he has ever been out with. He also cheated on me

2007-12-11 01:24:04 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I've been friends with this man for 3 yrs, and he lives with someone & so do I. He's friends with my partner also. He had been coming over our house for about a yr before I let him know that I had developed feelings for him. He is very closed-up, and doesn't share much of anything emotionally. After I shared my feelings, he just still continued to come over but never talks about it. I was upset with him a couple of weeks ago, and finally let him know how I don't understand him, and he stated that he has always be closed up, and he has to take care of his partner because she is not well right now. When I brought up me telling him my feelings for him, he just stated that I was making him nervous. What do you make of this? I'm very confused as to whether he has feelings for me or not? I know that it's a bad situation to be in, but I'm in it, and I need some good advice as what I should do? Thank you!

2007-12-11 01:22:07 · 7 answers · asked by liza7 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Before getting married to my last wife, Regina, I had reservations about her daughter, Chloe. She was 15, attractive, and had quite the little attitude about her. As an older man with no experience with children, I wasn't so sure I could handle her. They both convinced me otherwise and we finally got married. Things between Chloe and me went great. We got along wonderfully, however, I can't say the same about her mom. We fought and fought, and after four long years, we called it quits. The divorce has just been finalized. I tried to move on by seeing other women but something was missing, I longed for something, but I wasn't sure just what.
Yesterday I heard a knock at the door. I opened it up to find Chloe, crying that she missed me. I felt very proud, untill she started talking about how we can be together now that her mom was out of the picture. She tried to kiss me (with tongue) and tonight she wants to spend the night. I don't know what to do. She is very (continues below)

2007-12-11 01:21:13 · 58 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I went out shopping with my boyfriend and we bumped into his ex. He didn't even introduce me too her even though i was standing right next to him. I eventually just walked off and had a look around the shop. He was talking to her for a while and i just thought it was god damn rude and really upsetting. I would never have done that to him. He said he was sorry and that it was an awkward situation to be in. I am really hurt. Would you be???

2007-12-11 01:20:32 · 15 answers · asked by lovely_blondelocks 2 in Singles & Dating

i was married twice and my first wife had a selfish kind of narcissistic mother. she hated her mother because her mother had an affair on her father and proclaimed that she wasn't like her at all. guess what happened? she had an affair on me. second wife was a very sweet woman to the outside world. everybody seemed to love her.then behind closed doors she was horrid. yelling, screaming, obscenities. then after marriage i found out her own mother had horrid issues. her and her whole immediate family shouted at each other, made up, acted like you could do anything to the people you love and they were suppose to just forgive you. her mother had serious control issues and was very emotionally manipulative and very abusive. i came to find out after my second wife used to trash her mother, she was the same way. i tried to help but she just couldn't change. in your experience is it true that apples don't ever fall very far from the tree as far as spouses and their parents are concerned? And if the spouse was different than the parents, how did that happen? Did they finally have to realize that they had to cut all ties to their immediate family (which is almost impossible but some have done it to preserve their marriage and break their family cycle). However I haven’t seen it done.

2007-12-11 01:19:57 · 8 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Marriage & Divorce

If my girlfriend wants to buy matching cloths and everything for the both of use at christmas what should I do she wants to get shirts spray painted and hats what would you do and does she love me that much that she really cares.

2007-12-11 01:19:38 · 7 answers · asked by Just another White Boy 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

My wife and I have been together for 8 years but only been married for 1 yr. We have been separated for the last 3 months. We had arguments but it was like other married couples. No cheating or physical abuse. Anyhow 3months ago we got into a heated argument and then took off and stayed at her sister's house. A week after that, she told me that she wants a divorce b/c she is "fed-up". I requested that we go to MC and she refused. Fast-forward 3 months and she noticed that I am going to therapy on my own. Now she wants to go to MC with me but the catch is she's only going to go to help me and that she still wants a divorce. I told her that if it's just for me and not for US, then don't worry about going. She said that she still cares about me and still wants to go. I am a little confused to why she wants to go to MC with me if she is stuck on divorcing me. Also, why all the sudden the change of heart? Is she having doubts about the divorce and her pride is getting in the way?

2007-12-11 01:14:37 · 18 answers · asked by DMa 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My brother Sam brought his college friend Mike around to meet his old friends from high school about two summers ago. Sam introduced Mike to his old friend Jenny & joked they would make a great couple. They got along well and started dating. Jenny's & Sam's mutual high school friend Tina had a Christmas party last year that the whole group went to. There was a huge fight between Sam and Tina, basically Tina being jealous that Sam is a popular kid and well-liked. No one really talked to Tina even tho it was her party, that kind of thing. Anyway, Tina doesn't really talk to anyone anymore except Jenny. Jenny and Mike got engaged and are getting married this summer. Sam is really upset because he's not invited to their wedding. Jenny and Mike don't talk to him anymore, but hang out with Tina all the time. (Jenny said she feels "bad" for Tina. Mike doesn't even talk to Sam at all, Jenny won't let him.) Is it right that Sam, who introduced them, is not invited? How can I comfort my bro?

2007-12-11 01:12:06 · 18 answers · asked by Amber May ♥ 2 in Weddings

wat really is masterbateing? is it in male or female plz explain me

2007-12-11 01:11:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My mom has full custody. We live in michigan and my dad lives in Ohio. He cant come and fight for custody because he has some kind of warrant for all the child support he owes but he is starting to pay it off and has been since June.

2007-12-11 01:10:28 · 7 answers · asked by ashleigh c 1 in Family

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We fell deep in love and decided within a few months we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. He gave me a ring and asked me to marry him. After 1 1/2 years we decided to start trying to conceive a child as I am 39 even though we were waiting for him to get his financial affairs in order before tying the knot in a few months. Shortly after I got pregnant the lie came out that he was still married although he'd told me many times that he was divorced--even though they have not lived together for 8 years. He says he never loved her. He told me that I am the one and that he has never loved a woman like he loves me...Anyway, it's now 6 months since I found out about his lie and although he promises me that he is getting a divorce, he hasn't started any of it. I am so frustrated. I've told him I can't keep waiting for him and that he has to work this out. He tells me to be patient and trust him. How long should I wait?

2007-12-11 01:09:37 · 28 answers · asked by model_student 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-11 01:08:44 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

To make a LONG story short, my mother has treated me like trash all of my life. She's called me names when I was growing such as vvhore and bi+ch etc. I was honestly a good kid. The kind of kid every parent would have wanted to raise. I never got caught up in sex, drugs or alcohol when I was under her roof. I was my mom's slave --> literally. When I was 18 (hs diploma and putting myself through a trade school), I wanted to have friends to hang out with outside of school. I began having people over. My mom would cause a scene and start lashing at me in front of everyone. One day I had enough when I decided I was going to the movies. She fought w/ me and told me I wasn't allowed to go. I left anyway. When I came home at 4:30PM, she said I was way past my curfew and she was ready to hit me. I told her that if she laid one hand on me I was taking her down. I did not want my mom to "own" me anymore. That's when she threw me out.
No my mom has dimentia and everyone thinks..

2007-12-11 01:08:14 · 8 answers · asked by ★Banäna . Nightmärẹ★™ 7 in Family