Ok I posted a question yesterday about letting someone go, here's what I wrote....
There's this guy that I have mad feelings for, but he doesn't feel the same way. I am going through a lot right now and it would be nice to have him around, but he barely even wants to talk to me anymore. I don't know what I've done to make him feel this way. He's a really nice guy( the whole reason I fell for him in the first place) but I don't think he cares like he used to. We were really good friends. I talked to him today to see if he wanted to go out,but Him and his boys might go out tonight if they don't then we could. I know were only friends, but it's not enough for me right now. I've thought about calling him back to tell him don't even waste his time trying to fit me in his schedule because I don't want to go out. To tell him that I care about him way too much to be just friends. I'm sick of feeling like I have to practically beg you to go out with me. I want to tell him not to call me again. Even though I really like him I'm tired of feeling hurt, but I'm scared. I don't know what to do right now I want him in my life so bad but if this is all it's going to be I don't know if it's worth it. I don't want to regret it. Can someone please help me......should I let him go? what shall I do? What shall I say to him?
He replied back saying that I'm way too dramatic, it's not that serious. I act like I don't know that he works six days a week and the day he's off he takes of his business. If I don't want to be friends that's my choice and my loss.
First off why do guys always seem to twist things around making it seem as I'm in the wrong. Do you think I did a stupid thing. I'm just so tired of waiting for him to have time for me. I know he works a lot, but a month ago he was working just as hard but we were hanging around eachother about 2 times a week. Then right after I tell him how I feel it's seems as if he doesn't want to be around me b/c he makes every excuse in the book. He goes out almost every night with his boys, but he's tired or don't have time for me. It's not even about him not wanting to spend time with me cuz even if he did I don't want to be one of his boys. I have feelings for him and want a relationship with him. You all can be honest am I loosing my mind? DO you think I'm being too dramatic? I would lik some opinions and what would you do if this was you?
2007-12-11 01:58:45 · 2 answers · asked by tc22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The last thing I like to see and read in some woman are the needy aspect to be with someone regardless if this person wants to be with them or not...give your friend space!!! And please stop begging for his attention... when u state he hangs out with "his boys" are these children or his buddies-friends???? If they are his kids, its very understandable he wants to spend alot of his free time with his children...I am a single mom and quality time with my son is MY Priority and whomever does not understand that is not worth my free time...anyhow..if that is not the case and the boys are his buddies...I think that u might have pushed him away by letting him know u like him, maybe he was not ready for that confession, I do not think he corresponds the same way,. and u should respect that, if he only wants you to be his friend respect that, its easier said than done, but u need to stop making the man feel guilty and miserable cause he does not want to spend 2 times a week with you, maybe he was able to before and now maybe there is someone else in his life he is also seeing, and he probably plays defensive with you cause he does too not wanna hurt you, but infact he is.,, maybe there is no one else in his Life, but he needs some time to think about you and him... My advice to you: keep your distance, u do not have a relationship with him yet, therefore it is not wise to be annoying and making him feel bad about not seeing or calling you, if he is a true friend he will contact you again, if he gave you the phrase its your loss not his, then he probably adds up to the hundreds of jerks out there and u deserve better. I think u mistook a nice friendship with attraction, and all he had to offer was friendship. Do not let his ego boost more than it already has...once u start acting like all is cool, and u are not gonna die if he does not call you and move on with life, that will appeal to him alot more to give u a call or see u sometime, u gotta make it clear that u do have a life and things to do other than dwell on him and him not paying attention to you...get busy girl! join or start new activities...call old friends to get together on this holiday season..that ought to get you moving, get you calmer and happier....I hope that helps you...
2007-12-11 05:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by LatinSpice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're being too dramatic. And selfish and clingy and pestering and "needy" and a whole lot of other things.
You say he doesn't feel the same way about you. So accept that and leave the man alone.
Hint - there will come a day when he feels a lot more like you do now - what you do then will be another story.
But for now - accept that he's not interested in you or your crises - whatever they may be. He's just not there for you.
Find someone else. Move on honey. He's not "the" one.
2007-12-11 10:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋