what do you think of a woman who makes the moves, not over the top and demanding but just after what she wants and being upfront but not slutty..someone who makes the first moves, does the texting, a bit of chasing, is it good or bad?
2007-12-11 01:43:02 · 33 answers · asked by graceygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its good, it makes a nice change from the silly games that alot of girls play.
I'd rather know where I stand so If a lady is assertive it lets me know that I'm not wasting time and that she wants a relationship.
2007-12-11 02:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by Smudge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assertive, isn't the same thing as a bit of chasing.
Assertive is when she knows what she wants and is upfront, but not until after the first subtle move has been accepted.
When you know the man is interested because you've let him know you are, the smart thing is to then back off a bit and let him make the next move, and maybe the next one after that too. It may be a bit biological, it may be hardwired, but a man still likes to feel he is doing the chasing.
Once you are in a relationship, you have to remember boundaries and human nature, if you are chasing him down and texting him continuously, he may be flattered at first, but will soon come to take you for granted. That's boring.
Let him have a bit of a challenge, we always appreciate more the thing we have to take time to achieve.
2007-12-11 01:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a man likes a woman to be appropriatedly assertive if he is in fact attracted to her in the first place. A woman needs to be able to make that call correctly or her efforts will be for naught at best and deemed annoying at worst. So how do you make the call? Men are notorius for their double standards. In this case, if you come on too strong he may choose to percieve you as "slutty." If, on the other hand, you don't offer him any encouragement at all, then he might decide that you have no interest in him at all and refuse to make a move to further the degree of your relationship. It is a dilemma, which means you have to pursue whatever course of action you find appropriate under the circumstances. If it works, then you're a genius. If it doesn't, then you haven't misled him and he has decided to opt out for the moment or for good. What else can you do? Be honest, be clear, take baby steps and maybe it will develop into something wonderful for both of you. Good luck from a guy!
2007-12-11 02:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by TK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men do like assertive women... like the mama boys!
Maybe the man doesn't want to be the baby sitter so he chooses a woman that can be trusted to tend to herself.
Or he wants a mate that can take charge when need be.
I was the one who made the move on my guy,,, he made the hint he had an interest but it was me who asked him out to dinner!
2007-12-11 01:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by Teresa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been assertive all of my life and have no problem attracting men. Then again, I am an Aries. I don't like connecting the term "upfront" with "slutty"! Those dots don't connect at all. Sounds like you are more passive-aggressive.
2007-12-11 01:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by tampagramma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the man.
Different men like different things. I think any man in his right mind will like an independent woman with a great sense of humor and personality that is intelligent and beautiful inside and out.
2007-12-11 01:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really dependent on the personality of the individual guy-- I have a girlfriend who does that fragile, southern, flower routine "can you please open this jar for me strong handsome sir---????" and she is swarmed by guys- (they are a type of guy that I could never go for, they generally need to be needed and control or dominate a relationship emotionally and physically ).. The give and take kinda guy-- he is more solid and tolerant of equality in power and dominance issues. Of course I am biased but I think this kind of guy is more self assured and appreciative of women as complete human beings.
2007-12-11 01:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by *ifthatswhatyoureinto* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assertive women are the best, they know what she wants, how to get it, some are very aggressive which is fine. Being in controll is also a great trait to have, during loving sessions she tells how she want done to her as her passion increases. love them no mind games get into business real quick
2007-12-11 01:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by Herman L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad, very bad! Seriously.
So you have to flirt subtle, make the guy chase you. There are a million things you can do to get a particular guy notice you. Then he'll chase after you!
2007-12-11 01:48:59 · answer #9 · answered by Roberto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some do and some don't. Thankfully we're not all the same or like the same things - otherwise we'd all be in a bit of a mess wouldnt we xxxx
2007-12-11 01:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋