I went out shopping with my boyfriend and we bumped into his ex. He didn't even introduce me too her even though i was standing right next to him. I eventually just walked off and had a look around the shop. He was talking to her for a while and i just thought it was god damn rude and really upsetting. I would never have done that to him. He said he was sorry and that it was an awkward situation to be in. I am really hurt. Would you be???
2007-12-11 01:20:32 · 15 answers · asked by lovely_blondelocks 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would have introduced myself rather than waiting for my boyfriend to do it.
2007-12-11 01:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for being upset, but knowing how most guys are he most likely was caught off guard and was nervous and did not know what to do. I know, poor excuse. Now this is leaving feeling as if he was hiding the fact that you are his girlfriend now. What you must do is evaluate the relationship you have with him as a whole. If he is nice to you most of the time and treats you with love and respect, then if I were you I would see this neglect on his part to introduce you to her as a mistake on his part. On the other hand if he has been a jerk of a boyfriend all along then this not introducing you is just another way he mistreats and disrespects you. Then you should be angry!
2007-12-11 09:33:32 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would have said to him at the time,are you not going to introduce us then?
But yes,I too would be annoyed,but I can also see a little of how he must have felt with you two standing there.
Having said that,the minute you walked off to look round the shop,he really shouldn't have hung around for long talking to her,he'd have to be stupid not to know that you'd be feeling uncomfortable and that's why you walked off,more so if he didn't introduce you both.
Some men just don't think, Grrrr
2007-12-11 09:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately I have been in this position several times, and it never gets any easier. However, what you have to remember is that she is his past. And there is a reason why she is not with him, and you are. Because you are his future and he loves you. He wouldn't be with you otherwise. It will have been awkward for him too (believe it or not). Try not to let it bother you (as hard as it seems). After all you can't punnish a man if he appologises and means it, but you could perhaps have him squirming for a little while lol. Good luck. And don't be mad at him forever. After all it wasn't his fault really. Just have fun making him squirm lol. Don't worry, he loves you! :)
2007-12-11 09:28:49 · answer #4 · answered by Notts Bubbles :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would have introduced myself. Still it was an awkward situation so let him off this time, after hes made tea, washed up, ran a bath and given you a massage.
2007-12-11 09:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by lillibut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He screwed up, made a mistake. Ever make a mistake? I have, it happens. Now to be an adult about it,accept his apology and move on.
If this happens again, introduce yourself as the new girlfriend and pee in a circle around him to mark your territory. If the other girl crosses the circle, rub her nose in it to make sure she knows where your property begins and hers ended.
2007-12-11 09:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by chinamigarden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it was insensitive but he didn't realise what he was doing, just being a bloke. Try not to read too much into it. Let him know you are not happy and you never want that done to you again, let him grovel for a while then forgive and try not to dwell too much.
2007-12-11 11:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by waley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to feel hurt!
I know I would be, in fact, he shouldnt even have spoke to his ex. Just said hi and walked on by!!!
Or while he was talking to her you should just have reached your hand out to shake hers and say Hi, Im so and so, HIS GIRLFRIEND!!!
He has a lot of making up to do to you! MEN!!!
2007-12-11 09:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by Lady B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would be.. However i'd of stuck out my hand for a handshake and said 'Hi i'm chele and u r?...', i wouldn't of walked away honey.......it's done now but if there is ever a next time don't walk away, if he doesn't introduce u then u do it urself
xx
2007-12-11 09:46:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would not upset me now,at age 42...
(20 years ago maybe.)
2007-12-11 09:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋