I've been friends with this man for 3 yrs, and he lives with someone & so do I. He's friends with my partner also. He had been coming over our house for about a yr before I let him know that I had developed feelings for him. He is very closed-up, and doesn't share much of anything emotionally. After I shared my feelings, he just still continued to come over but never talks about it. I was upset with him a couple of weeks ago, and finally let him know how I don't understand him, and he stated that he has always be closed up, and he has to take care of his partner because she is not well right now. When I brought up me telling him my feelings for him, he just stated that I was making him nervous. What do you make of this? I'm very confused as to whether he has feelings for me or not? I know that it's a bad situation to be in, but I'm in it, and I need some good advice as what I should do? Thank you!
2007-12-11 01:22:07 · 7 answers · asked by liza7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's obviously not interested in you.
Maybe you should re-read your paragraph. The reason is right there in black and white.
He doesn't share his feelings with you because he doesn't have any for you.
He wants to stay with his partner.
And you bringing up your feelings for him and it making him uncomfortable.......
Get it now? He's not interested. Regardless of any "hints" you feel he's been giving, you've been reading him all wrong.
2007-12-11 01:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what i make of this is that he has a partner and has respect 4 that partner. u should have respect 4 the partner u live with or move out.
sounds like he knows how 2 respect the person he's with and u want him 2 change...he's not closed-up, he's just in a relationship and will never give u 'n answer until that relationship ends...and really isn't that what u would respect in a partner if the rolls were reversed and u were the 1 he's with now, and she was the one trying 2 take him away from u???
watch and learn.
2007-12-11 11:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by junkyarddogfan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are in a relationship already.
You don't have to do anything just because you have feelings.
He turns you on. So what. Forget it.
Lastly, why get involved with anyone who is closed up. You will always be trying to get him to open up. It sounds to me like you need to move out and get some new friends. You need a relationship that makes you feel good, not frustrated (the closed up one) or easily distracted.
2007-12-11 10:09:19 · answer #3 · answered by psi2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like hes "Not" interested in being anymore to you than a friend and does not want to ruin Ya'lls friendship. Don't pressure the Guy by trying to discuss something he obviously is not interested in. You may end up losing a good friend..
2007-12-11 09:38:58 · answer #4 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he just isn't interested right now. He may have a lot going on in his life. Dont push the subject too much, it may push him right out of your life for good.
2007-12-11 09:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by CableMan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take things easy. Don't worry about it and just relax with each other.
2007-12-11 09:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has the same feelings like you but afraid to show.
2007-12-11 09:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋