Family & Relationships - 11 December 2007

Today is one of those days that I wish I could have a “pass” and skip it. I’m not feeling well. I feel like crying every 5 seconds. IT SUCKS!!!
I think it’s because of what I heard yesterday from my husband. I discovered that our niece called me STUPID. It made me very sad and upset. It’s not just the fact that she called me that, but how I came to find out and how my husband reacted to it.
It’s known that his sister hates me and has done everything to jeopardize our relationship. I’m not asking him to hate her and not talk to her forever, but I do wish to SEE that he’s upset with the situation or even pissed off at her. Every time I hear something about this situation I always wish it was presented to me differently.
I wish he would come up to me and say “ I’m so mad at …..You are not going to believe what she has done this time….. I called and our niece told me “My aunt is Stupid”. I told her not to say that and once my mother picked up the phone I was outraged. I told her that this has gone long enough and that I was going to speak to my sister. I then called her and let her have a piece of my mind”
I don’t know. Something like that. Do you know what I mean? But instead, I found out by accident and all I got was. Our niece said something very stupid and I told her that it was wrong. So I asked him, what did your mom say, and he said, “ all she said was that our niece grabbed the phone from her purse.” So I asked, Did she hear what our niece said? The response ; my mother pretended that she didn’t hear anything.
I don’t know. I’m so tired of this. I don’t know what else to say.
I feel like crap, I’m scared and disappointed.
What is going to happen when we have kids? I already don’t have a relationship with his family how is it going to be then? Is he still not going to take my side?
I love my husband and do want to be with him forever, I just wish that we could come to an agreement on this….
What do you think?

2007-12-11 07:44:01 · 9 answers · asked by Butterfly 2 in Family

2007-12-11 07:43:43 · 14 answers · asked by Madelyn M 1 in Singles & Dating

Is there a limit? One year, two years, 10 years, age is just a number? Half your age plus 7??

And why?

2007-12-11 07:43:06 · 7 answers · asked by Betty 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-11 07:42:19 · 36 answers · asked by Fruitful1 3 in Singles & Dating

He is such a jerk all the time. He constantly calls me fat and ugly and he told me that i would **** up a wet dream. My mother tells me that i take everything was to seriously but he never lets me go out of the house. He always yells at me for not doing things right. He hates all of my friends and grounds me when they call because he is racist. And im really not that ugly.

2007-12-11 07:42:00 · 8 answers · asked by Severus Snape 5 in Family

which he hates, so he's off - saying he can't stand coming home to a drunk - that I'm mean to him - all of which he is repeating to the girl and his co-workers!
Meanwhile, I'm still thinking everything is OK, until I go to be with him one weekend & he points this girl out to me : long striped hair, short, voluptuous body (I'm tall & athletic with short hair) &, of course, 20 years younger than me too.
To make a long story short, the girl dumps him when she finds out about me (he told her we were separated!) & was actually sweet to me the few times I saw her.
All that is fine, but since then, hubby has confessed to 2 other 'instances' of cheating in the past 4 years. I admit that he's always said he's a polygamist, but I never really took it seriously. I guess now I must! I know he loves me - believe it or not - & as long as I know MY feelings come 1st with him, I won't be threatened. Am I nuts to accept him bringing another woman into our home? Like 'Big Love'?

2007-12-11 07:40:32 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

That a woman can do towards a man ... sure the man does stuff like open car doors ... but what am I supposed to do??? Blink???

2007-12-11 07:39:54 · 6 answers · asked by Giggly Giraffe 7 in Singles & Dating

she is pretty quiet, but i think she might have interest in me. so many other guys at work talk with her; any tips on how i can stand out from the rest? i am really not the type to get people to open up, especially quiet ones, nor do i usually persue coworkers when it comes to romandce. but she really interests me for some reason (her style, the way she carries herself). thnks for any helpful advice

2007-12-11 07:39:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-11 07:39:01 · 26 answers · asked by kiki 6 in Weddings

my brother is goin 2 propose and isnt sure which ring 2 choose!!
she is very girly and pretty. she loves her dimonds.
plz help.

ring 1
http://www.dejoria.co.uk/catalogue/category-403/code-1526.html

ring 2
http://www.hsamuel.co.uk/webstore/detail/R/5183391/

ring 3
http://www.beaverbrooks.co.uk/index.cfm?event=catalogue.showProduct&productID=3199

2007-12-11 07:38:01 · 47 answers · asked by Stacey H 2 in Weddings

My husband has an exgirlfriend and a daughter 16. An exwife with 3 kids and 2 of them which are his and the oldest was1 when him and his ex married. When we got together I did not realize everything involved. He had a past of drinking and recieved 3 dui's which occured in his last marriage. The two women have become best friends and when he went to court he lost visitation and custody rights because of his past. He went 4 yrs without being able to talk to his children but now they are coming back into the picture. Since he has no rights he has to do what the women say to talk and see his kids. His kids have no interest in having a relationship with me (They have called me names etc). If he goes to visit them he must be with the ex and me and my children are not to be included. I have tried to stay strong but can not emotionally handle this as I know he must do what they say to have a relationship with his children. I Have 3 kids that are use to my husband but may get pushed aside.

2007-12-11 07:37:56 · 11 answers · asked by babydoll 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-11 07:37:36 · 15 answers · asked by bella 2 in Singles & Dating

I been dating my gf for over 1yr and 3months,she has a kid from a privious relationship but latetly shes been talking a lot to her ex due to the passing of his father wich i understand she knew for about 6yrs.I was not invited to the funneral or rosary due to my gf saying its not the right time for me and her to be seen by her exes family in public . I know they will always have that bond due to the kid ,but she has confess to me that he wants her back even though she says she loves me and she will never go back with him . well this morning he called around 330am asking her to come by his house that he was not feeling well emotionally so he needed to talk to some one . I talked to her before and told her if she wants to try to work things out with him i will not stand in the middle of it .she told me she loves me and she wants to be with me .Now should i be ok with whats his doing? I got the feeling he knows she will do anything for him no matter what only because his her babys father

2007-12-11 07:37:07 · 4 answers · asked by s374rc 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

Ok, I went to an all-girl boarding school in England, but am american. I came home on summer holiday and such. But now I am living in a small toen in the midwest, going to a public school. How do I make friends? No body seems very friendly, and I'm not overly outgoing.

2007-12-11 07:36:00 · 74 answers · asked by Lizi B 1 in Friends

2007-12-11 07:35:35 · 7 answers · asked by msolis_apb2010 1 in Singles & Dating

My now husband, I found a sex tape of him and his ex and he totally forgot about it and I confronted him and I feel cheated on. I still bothers me and what can I do?

2007-12-11 07:34:43 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

she said it was when she lived withus when she was 14. She since then has always wanted to come spend school breaks with my husbands daughter(months and weeks at a time).She has in the last 2 years begged me and my mom to let her come live with us again. She has been planning on moving in w/us when she turns 18. She has just recently been seeing a councelor and been prescribed 40mg of prozac. And now they want me to just automatically take her side and stay w/them 200 miles away. I told my husband and he seemed sincer when he said he didnt..but she seemed sincere when she cried when i told her if it happened she has 2 stds and needs to be checked.( but she had also had the prozac and I gave her 1 mg of klonopin-which is possible to make her cry that is what xanax does to me)HELP PLEASE!!! I need imput I am going crazy!! I am stuck between 2 people I love.

2007-12-11 07:32:24 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

2007-12-11 07:29:43 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

She's severly mentally unstable... she suffers from anxiety, depression, and slight schizophrenia. She's lost her job due to her issues.

I knew that she was like this when I married her, and I never, not for one second, have regretted my choice. She is the love of my life. We haven't had sex in over 2 years, and I still fall in love with her all over again, everyday.

I'm up with her at 3am when she's convinced demons are out to get her, I'm cleaning up her throw-up when I get home from work around midnight when she's tried to drink away her problems. I've always been faithful and supportive.

She refuses counseling and medication and I respect her wishes.

But she wants a divorce. She even managed to get a lawyer. She's insistent that she's ruining my life and she's NOT. How can I change her mind? I need her.

2007-12-11 07:28:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Marriage & Divorce

one thats like I loved you but I'm gonna be ok without you type of thing.

2007-12-11 07:26:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have a 1 carat 3-stone round diamond ring. I was looking/trying on different types of bands to go with my engagement ring but none of them seem to look right or the gold didn't match. I was looking at eternity bands on-line but haven't had the chance to try them on with my engangement ring.

This is my ring:
http://www.zales.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2790960&cp=2071133.2109182&pg=1&numResultsPerPage=44&cp=2071133&fbn=Carat+Range%7C1%26amp%3Bamp%3B%23047%3B2+to+1&f=PAD%2FCarat+Range%2F1%26amp%3Bamp%3B%23047%3B2+to+1&fbc=1&categoryId=2109182&kpc=1&parentPage=search&searchId=20831546413

This is the band I really liked and that matched the best:
http://www.zales.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2863402&cp=2109183.2137100.&pg=1&numResultsPerPage=96&cp=2109183.2137100&f=PAD%2FRing+Style%2FBands+-+Diamond&kpc=1&parentPage=search&searchId=20831584583

What do you think??? Any ideas or opinions would be great! Thank you everyone!

2007-12-11 07:26:27 · 9 answers · asked by BABYLOVE369 2 in Weddings

We have been having some problems lately that I dont want to mention...but anyway, it's like he may be bipolar or something...and even myself...one minute, we're so close and the next minute, we're arguing about the past...i know we have to move forward and stop looking backwards (well that's actaully me being backwards)...we love each other and we live together...I just want us to get along much better so any tips or suggestions would be great and thanks for your time!

2007-12-11 07:22:54 · 5 answers · asked by God Bless America!~ 4 in Singles & Dating

Okay, i am 22, and my fiance will be 37 on Monday. We met online, ramdomly... when we met, i was underage, but didnt start even talking about dating until i was 19. i hid my relationship with him from my parents, telling all kinds of lies. We started dating Aug 23rd 2004 and got engaed March 17th, 2005.... i finally broke down and told my parents about him, basically telling them everything except that we are egaged. i do not wear the ring whenever i am aroundd them. I want to move to where he is after i graduate from college(i graduate May'08. I know that my mom does not approve of this at all, but ifeel as if she is not even trying to get to know him. The only thing that bugs her is the age diff. I understand, but he is really a good guy. My mom asked if i was going to marry him and i said i dont know maybe, i do not want to tell her i am engaged, until he actually asks my dad, which i know my dad will say no. My mom has also asked i will move there(my fiance is in Louisiana, and I

2007-12-11 07:22:01 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-11 07:21:54 · 27 answers · asked by Unicorn 2 in Friends

Ok, the guy I like, changes around his friends. He will be talking to me and stuff. But then when he's around his friends. He acts completely mean to me. He's really popular, and I'm really.......not. At all. And he flirts with me. But he flirts with every girl. But not like he does with me. He teases me constantly, and whenever I give him a complement he sits really tall and grins ear-to-ear. But when he's with his friends he either ignores me, or makes fun of me. What I said before, does that mean he likes me? If so, why does he act like this around his friends. By the way, he's 12.

2007-12-11 07:21:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

fat in a dress or an article of clothing?

Woman: Honey, do I honestly look too fat in this?
Man: Men have been noticing women since caveman times and baby you trump them all in that dress.

Give me feedback ladies....charming, witty, corny...anything.

2007-12-11 07:17:54 · 15 answers · asked by john b 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-11 07:15:11 · 21 answers · asked by baybeii t 1 in Singles & Dating

MY FRIEND IS 14 HE'S 4'11 IM 14 AND IM 5'6 IS HE A MIDGET ? OH I FORGOT HIS PARENTS ARE DAD IS 5'7
HIS MOM IS 5'3. I NEED TO KNOW BECAUSE MY FRIEND WANTS TO KNOW HELL GIVE ME 1$ DOLLAR. THANKS good luck

2007-12-11 07:15:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Some say you're just another person walking threw the earth, going where life takes you, a no one, someone with no impact in this world.. I say diffrent, You're Amazing, gorgeous, smart, funny.. I feel for you like no one before, and how you've effected me, You have left foot prints on my heart where others have walked threw without leaving evidence of stopping by. Wow, my feelings for you, I can't describe them, all I know is sometimes it feels good, and sometimes it's the worst pain you could ever feel.. I have this weird feeling from when I look into your eyes, It's kind of like i'm falling but not like off of something, You know what I mean if you are her..Oh, and your smile, It's truely an amazing site.. I can still see your smile, your eyes in my head from time to time, i'm glad i'm not forgetting you.. If it takes all i've got for you, then its gone..


You brighten my days on the worst ones possible, you know who you are..

2007-12-11 07:14:06 · 10 answers · asked by oakens123 2 in Singles & Dating

Why would a man say he wished he could make love to you right after he had been "satisfied" orally? Dont you need some build back up time?

2007-12-11 07:13:10 · 7 answers · asked by deltadawn 1 in Singles & Dating