she said it was when she lived withus when she was 14. She since then has always wanted to come spend school breaks with my husbands daughter(months and weeks at a time).She has in the last 2 years begged me and my mom to let her come live with us again. She has been planning on moving in w/us when she turns 18. She has just recently been seeing a councelor and been prescribed 40mg of prozac. And now they want me to just automatically take her side and stay w/them 200 miles away. I told my husband and he seemed sincer when he said he didnt..but she seemed sincere when she cried when i told her if it happened she has 2 stds and needs to be checked.( but she had also had the prozac and I gave her 1 mg of klonopin-which is possible to make her cry that is what xanax does to me)HELP PLEASE!!! I need imput I am going crazy!! I am stuck between 2 people I love.
2007-12-11 07:32:24 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
police have already been called report filed
2007-12-11 07:43:17 · update #1
also sis is sexually active and has had several partners
since
2007-12-11 07:44:21 · update #2
WOW! First of all I do not envy your position. I agree with Stuart you should definitely go to the police and sort it out. It is okay to have confidence in your husband and stick by his side, but I really do think someone should take a lie detector test. I am so sorry that you have to go through this right now and I honestly believe that she is lying but rape and suicide are two things that I do not take chances with.
2007-12-11 07:45:21 · answer #1 · answered by nyjae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's astonishing that a *rape case* involving an eight year old and two ten year old boys would make it to court given the physical impossibility of a *rape* in the first place. It is also unsettling that the girl was told by the judge that she had done nothing whatsoever wrong and not to forget that. ??? Since when is false accusation of rape an OK thing to do? There *may* be mitigating/aggravating circumstances (w/e way you want to look at it) - (perhaps) - but really - at this stage how does the judge actually know that she did *nothing wrong* given that two innocent kids have been dragged through a very public judicial process - and are still going through it as the trial continues - despite the girls recantation.
2016-05-23 02:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is tough!! My first instinct is to side with the victim (your sister) because usually they don't make stuff up like this. No pill would make her say that either.
A few questions to look at are: Are there any reasons she would lie?? Like, she is jealous.
The prozac....is she mentally stable?
Ask her what exactly he did to her. You may know something he does with you, that your sister would not know unless he did do it to her.
You also have to look deep into your husband....does he have any history of cheating or into young, do you have any suspicions, is he acting weird or different. You have to look deep into your heart and instincts.
Good luck to you, this is tough and I have seen this happen with a some friends in the past and she found out by finding pictures on his computer and she divorced him right away. You mentioned STD's......well from the looks of it.... it was 3 years ago, so that is a mute point.
She should be counseled as a rape victim and usually a pro can get to the truth.
2007-12-11 08:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by eric_themadman 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So are you saying that he would have given her 2 STD's?? Because obviously if she has then that is all the proof that you need. But how creepy... I dont know do you think that she would actually make this up? Is she jealous of you in anyway? Did he act extremely surprised when you asked him? This is too much to behold...
So I dont know. I think that she may be telling the truth. I dont think that a sister, unless very jealous & mentally destroyed would make this up.... I would ask for a lie detector test from both of them and find out who is telling the truth... I really would hope that he wouldnt have done that to her..... so sorry... hang in there...
2007-12-11 07:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by ••○ PitBuLL ○•• 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if your husband has 2 stds and might have given it to your sister, you need to have your sister tested. if she has these stds, it's likely your sister is telling the truth.
you need to ask yourself why your husband would do this and also, if your sister is lying, why would she lie about this? rape allegations should never be taken lightly. you should not automatically side with one person or the other. you need to get the facts- when this happened (to the exact day), where is happened, why it happened, where you were at the time.. be knowledgeable! unfortunately, you can't get a rape kit anymore, so there is no evidence besides the STDs. that should be your first step!
2007-12-11 07:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to a friend of our family. 15 year old relative female moved in. Him and his wife were helping her out. Her mom was an alcoholic and no dad. She cried rape. Killed his image. Almost drove him to suicide. Court, costs,etc. She ended up saying she lied. You should know if you husband is telling you the truth. And to top it off, the ***** that did this to him got nothing. A slap on the wrist. Now, if he did do something like that, than he will probably spend the rest of his life in prison. And child molestors are usually the ones who get raped and killed in prison.
2007-12-11 07:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by USAGUY 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If what she is saying is true, your husband is in big trouble. What needs to be found out is, if she is even telling the truth. The counselor maybe getting her to say things that are not even true. Maybe she had a dream and is being told, it must of happened and she suppressed it and is now depressed because of it. If she suppressed something like that she wouldn't want to stay at your house.
2007-12-11 09:25:35 · answer #7 · answered by Carol A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off if your sister needs to be checked for 2STD's then your husband has a history of being unfaithful. This may be possible that he has done this to her. If you just said that to call her bluff then ok.
This is the hardest thing that you will ever have to decide all I can say is if he did it to her and you have a daughter be very careful
2007-12-11 08:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by Debbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a really tough one. How do you choose between your sister and your husband? Do either of them have a history of lying to you? What would your sister have to gain by lying. You are going to have to look deeply in your heart to figure out who is telling the truth. It will come out eventually. I hope you make the right choice.
2007-12-11 07:38:48 · answer #9 · answered by Mommyx2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her having any STDs doesnt prove anything, she could get them from anyone.
The way to find the truth is to have them both take a lie detector test. If he is willing and she isnt that will say a lot. If she is willing and he isnt that tells you something too. If they both do take it then it will give you something to go on.
And giving her drugs could kill her and land YOU in jail. Drugs have a synergistic affect when taken together and could have killed her.
2007-12-11 08:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋