Family & Relationships - 11 December 2007

Almost 2 years ago my husband and I were having a difficult time and we split up. I had just found out I was pregnant with our first child and needless to day we got back together a few months later and everything is great now but while we were seperated he slept with his hairdresser (whom he continued to go to for haircuts up until 3 months ago when I found out they had slept together) and now everytime he's out she pops up and brings up all of this old stuff. I don't know why she feels the need to talk to him but he has told her numerous times he wants nothing to do with her but she just won't quit. A couple of weeks ago she cornered him at the bank inside of the supermarket and started going on and on about how she was sorry I found out and all of this. What should I do? I would love to kick her sorry butt but I'm too classy for that.

2007-12-11 07:13:03 · 7 answers · asked by addisonsmom17 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-11 07:12:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i am in a bad relationship and don't want to leave because i am afraid i will never find anyone again. i have been married for 8 months. he tells me noone will want me.
yes i know confidence is sexy but how do i know that i am still desirable on the market?

2007-12-11 07:11:54 · 27 answers · asked by ashleybredesen 2 in Marriage & Divorce

IM ONLY 6 GRADE

2007-12-11 07:11:48 · 19 answers · asked by lovergirl14 1 in Singles & Dating

Now fess up. How many of you automatically attatch the stereotype that I'm just a pms-ing teenager, and the adult is always right? How do you know I'm not abused beyond belief? How do you know that she doesn't come home at arbitrary times to scream at us? And how do you know that the next second she's not trying to win back our affection? Why can't anyone listen?

2007-12-11 07:10:10 · 8 answers · asked by live*laugh*love 4 in Family

Today we were suppose to spend lunch 2gether, but he claim he was sick, anyway, yeah, now im sitting here feeling miserable jus this ruin my whole day. this happens all the time...when i seem him at school doesnt say hi get a little upset(but idont let him know)...when he says hes gonna call and he doesnt I feel my world comes crashing down. (he calls if he says promise behind it). When isee him @ school i can help 2 stare at him.When he talks to other people and doesnt come by to talk 2 me jus simple conversation. I get a tad upset. He shows me he likes me sends me cute text message, teases me, flirts, and talks on the phone. we even kiss 2 times. I know hes probably not as attached emotinally to me as I am to him but I can help it tho... even tho i kno he doesnt think of me as much as I think of him...I want to stop cuz I dont wanna care for someone who doesnt care for me. how can I stop n guys view how can i tell him.thanks both opinion is g

2007-12-11 07:07:23 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

If marriage is all about love and being faithful, then why does a man have a bachelor party and play with whores right before making the commitment to one woman? Does such a man truly love his future wife?

2007-12-11 07:05:18 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am in my mid20s, and I am craving to have sex for the first time. I even found a guy to whom I feel very attracted but he has behaved like an *** to me in the past ( he lives in another country and we had a long distance thing which he decided to end cause he saw no future, and did not take the time to tall me that).

Basically, I will be in his city at the beginning of next January. We are friends now, but we still want to sleep with each other.

Question is: Shall I sleep with him and have a nice first time with a biy that I am very attracted to, or should I lead him on and deliver nothing as a means of revenge for his past behavious.

Sex or revenge? Revenge or sex?

2007-12-11 07:05:09 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Help me please! We married on 24th August this year, by the 5th November we had had 5 arguments which resulted in my packing my bags and leaving the house each times. In hindsight leaving was an overreaction on my part but I would come back a few days later (stayed with my Mum). We have three children (one is ours together, two from her previous relationship). I do now (but did not then) understand how unsettling my leaving was to everyone. I desparately want the marriage to work however for the past five weeks (we are not living together) she has been telling me that she has to be strong for the children and will never let me back in the house. She tells me that her love for me has totally gone and that she now see's herself as a single woman. We were together for five years before getting married and used to have the same reaction to arguments. I love her dearly and want it to work so much. Should I continue to try and convince her it can work or should I walk away now? Please help!

2007-12-11 07:00:37 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Recently my husband and I got into an arguement wherein I told him that I was not happy and thought we needed to separate. We all know that people can say very hurtful things during the heat of discussion. I would like your opinions on this: I have recently been under a lot of stress because of him and his drug use. He has recently gotten help and is sober. During this period of time, I gained about 20 pounds, and I know that is no excuse. If he told me that I was fat, and he was embarrassed to go places with me. Do you think that he loves me and was just trying to hurt my feelings?? I know that I need to lose weight. Do you think that he was just trying to get me to realise that?? He came back home later that day after I practically begged him to. I love him so much and we have a 2 year old. I do not want him to be brought up in a broken home. What do you think???
Thanks for your opinions.

2007-12-11 07:00:34 · 10 answers · asked by rsrose13 2 in Marriage & Divorce

My husband always harps on one thing... the kitchen sink! I do do the dishes, but if it isn't spotless he gets upset, and he always brings it up, even if someone leaves a dish in while I'm out. I'm afraid that if I make sure the sink is perfect all the time he'll simply complain about something else.
Is it a control thing?
Do your husbands do that?
Men, why would you complain constantly about one thing?
I keep saying, "Something's bothering you, and it's not about the dishes!!"

2007-12-11 06:59:58 · 28 answers · asked by emilsignia 5 in Marriage & Divorce

Theres this guy I really like. Were friends and stuff but theres a problem. Im pretty positive he likes this other girl, but she has a boyfriend and isnt interested in him more than a friend. So should I go for him and try to get his mind off the other girl and onto me, or should I just forget it and move on and let him try for her?!

2007-12-11 06:59:16 · 6 answers · asked by AMAN DUHH 3 in Singles & Dating

Does anyone here actually have negative feelings toward their mom. I have no pleasant memories of her whatsoever. I keep wondering if I would be sad if she passes away!!

2007-12-11 06:57:11 · 10 answers · asked by White Shooting Star of HK 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

My father often goes away on conference trips frequently, sometimes for weeks, and neither him nor my mom has ever cheated. Also, we also know other family friends and members who do not cheat. For example, we have a Chinese-American friend who's husband frequently visits Australis to go on business trips, sometimes up to months on end. But they are still faithful and have been married for more than 30 years. Also, my aunt's husband works in Indonesia part-time, but they are still together after almost 25 years.

Why do Asians almost never cheat, even when the spouse is not at home. Even non-married people can handle long-distance relationships. My sister went to medical school in a different part of the country and she is still together with her boyfriend, soon to be fiance.

On the other hand, I am in the Air Force and I hear of people cheating all the time on deployments as little as two weeks. Are non-Asians seriously that desperate and promiscuous?

2007-12-11 06:57:06 · 13 answers · asked by airforcewolf16 3 in Marriage & Divorce

We have been separated for 3 months and recently she found out that I've been going to therapy on my own and she now she's willing to go to MC with me. The catch is that she's will to go to MC to help me but she still wants a divorce. The first session went well, she cried and vented. That means she still have feelings for me. Anyhow, I just found out that she just back from Hawaii with her gfs and her cousin. Her cousin's boyfriend is stationed in Hawaii so they got a free place to crash. Two things that bothered me about her taking this vacation. 1.That Hawaii was supposed to be our honeymoon destination. 2. one of girls she's going with is going thru a bitter divorce. Will this trip with her girlfriends influence her to be more determined to file for divorce or will this make her think more about reconciliation? The last I heard from her she still want to go to MC with me. I feel that she's stringing me along. Am I thinking too much into this?

2007-12-11 06:54:27 · 14 answers · asked by DMa 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My ex husband was emotionally and physically abusive to me. We have a child together and we speparated.
Even after 2 years apart he still spreads malicious untrue stories about me to anyone who will listen (and they are not so crazy as not to be believable)

Why does he do this. It is his cheating that caused us to divorce. why is he trying to make me miserable after all this time?

2007-12-11 06:54:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

There is this guy I work with and he always asks about how my boyfriend and I are. Today I went into my work to eat and I left my stuff on accident and I had to return to get my stuff and he smiled and goes "what are you thinking about to forget all that??" He will say my boyfriend is too "jealous" or "inattentive" (he knows my bf). He will talk in front of me and tell other guys "she already has a boyfriend" and stuff like that.

I don't know what he meant by that...

2007-12-11 06:53:04 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

EVERYTING IS KUL FYN AND DANDY BT I DNT WANT HIM ANYMO.HE IS SO HOT TEMPERED AND WILL HATE ME IF I LEAVE HIM.HELP

2007-12-11 06:52:25 · 39 answers · asked by baby p 1 in Friends

.......and tied him to the bedpost with my tights, blindfolded him and shoved an apple in his mouth.

Now, I found the whole experience highly erotic, but he's been crying ever since and now refuses to even come upstairs.

What can I do? He's threatening to go back to his mum. I love him so much and don't want to lose him.

Please help :-(

2007-12-11 06:47:44 · 48 answers · asked by Ms Minger 3 in Marriage & Divorce

should i get roses, yellow chrysanthemums, forget-me-not flowers, yellow tulips, or orchids?
i know i'm gonna surprise her with flowers, no she's not my girlfriend, and i don't know if she still likes me or not....could you help out at all? it would be greatly appreiciated.

2007-12-11 06:46:32 · 12 answers · asked by halofan152 2 in Singles & Dating

I really love my fiance very much. But I do not want to get a divorce. It is too much stress and it's not the way marriage is supposed to work. Should we hold off on the sex until marriage in order to prevent a divorce?

2007-12-11 06:45:48 · 25 answers · asked by airforcewolf16 3 in Marriage & Divorce

I'm getting married April 12, 2008, almost exactly 4 months from now. I have 2 adult bridesmaids and two Jr. bridesmaids.

One of my bridesmaids is trying to get pregnant. My agreement with my girls is that they all choose a dress in Peri from David's bridal. I don't care what style..No special accessories or anything...Just a Peri David's Bridal dress and silver or clear shoes.

My bridesmaid doesn't want to order a dress until February, to see if she is pregnant by then. David's doesn't make a maternity gown in Peri. February. is going to be too late, since it takes 6 weeks to ship the gown, leaving NO time for alterations.

I've already suggested ordering a dress a size or two larger. She says that would be too expensive to alter.

Her solution? I'm supposed to let her have her husband sew her a maternity gown. We're having this whole issue, and she is NOT EVEN PREGNANT.

She is now dropping out of the wedding.
What would you do, if this happened to you??

2007-12-11 06:41:40 · 50 answers · asked by Kat 5 in Weddings

I'm only 23 years old, but I have been married before. I got married 10 months ago, and will be officially divorced sometime this week. My ex-husband and I discussed before
hand that we both didn't want kids ever, and that was part of the plan. After only a month and a half of being married... he suddenly changed his mind, and got mad at me for suddenly
not wanting them. I've never been interested in
having children of my own. I've been saying since I was 4 years old that my mom would have "Grand-dogs" and "Grand-horses". I refused to play with dolls as a child. I used to throw fits if someone tried to make me play with one (my dad can back me up on that one).

Men always date me thinking I'll change my mind. It only takes them a couple of weeks to figure out that I'm hardwired this way (then we break up). I've never felt led to the whole family thing.

2007-12-11 06:38:59 · 13 answers · asked by Ashley84 2 in Singles & Dating

I don't mind strict parents because my mom raised me and she was strict. I live with my dad now and its totally different. I only see her at school. We never been on a real date. We talk on the phone alot. But due to her mothers strictness it's so hard to see her. It gets real fustrating. Any advice???

2007-12-11 06:38:07 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

A husband whom you can trust even at times when he has the opportunity to secretly cheat on you ..... does such husbands exist in reality or are they exclusive to our fantasies?

2007-12-11 06:38:01 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-11 06:33:24 · 15 answers · asked by dp 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Lets just say "Terri" (an American) is married to "F" a Muslim. F wants to send money back to his country monthly (a significant amount). Terri does not really agree because a) she is concerned that the family is not poor and could live with out it and Terri and F do not have a lot to spare. B) F came into the marriage with a lot of school dept and when he asked his family to sell his land to help pay for it, they said no(Terri, makes more and their money is combined so she's helping him out w/ debt accrued before the marriage) c) F's father has 2 wives and Terri does not agree with that and also she was told by F that Muslims can't get a 2nd wife unless they can afford it (that should tell you that if he has 2 wives he must not be in need of money).

Why should she have to donate a large amount of money every month (when they don't have much to spare) to support a man with 2 wives when she is against the fact that he has 2 wives?

2007-12-11 06:33:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am planning to have a December wedding in 2008. I love the color green, so i was thinking of a Clover color, being that it is a little darker than the Celedon and can look more festive.

I was reading about some ideas and they said that silver and light blue are nice for a winter wedding.
I like that idea, but i really really love the green. Is this going to look rediculous in the middle of winter??

Bridesmaid dresses will be green as well as a sash on my dress.

Thank you for your help!

2007-12-11 06:31:14 · 20 answers · asked by AngryFalafel 4 in Weddings

your wife sent you an email like this while your at work (I didnt send it to his work email..i sent it to his regular account)

am in a super naughty mood right now. meet me in bed after work for some fun...or be prepared to give me a rain check for a later date...for some throw me on the bed, rip my clothes off, pure hot ****ing. ;)

do you think he'll be happy to get this or am i going to far?

2007-12-11 06:30:05 · 27 answers · asked by Heather 3 in Marriage & Divorce

Sat on a dirty toilet on a train with her on top. Sex was good though.

2007-12-11 06:29:40 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating