I don't mind strict parents because my mom raised me and she was strict. I live with my dad now and its totally different. I only see her at school. We never been on a real date. We talk on the phone alot. But due to her mothers strictness it's so hard to see her. It gets real fustrating. Any advice???
2007-12-11 06:38:07 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A few things:
1. Do you know her mother? Have you introduced yourself? The fact of the matter is, her mother doesn't know you from a serial rapist. She's not going to let her daughter out, especially at night, with someone she [the mother] doesn't know.
2. How old are the both of you? Age and maturity counts for a lot. Her mother needs to trust that her daughter is old enough to make mature decisions on her own and not get peer pressured into precarious situations. The younger she is and the younger you are, the less likely that's going to happen.
3. What is your motive? What's your motive for asking her out alone? Did you want the opportunity to get frisky or get to know her more outside of school? If your motive involves a more physical relationship with her to start, then my advice may be just as frustrating but here they are...
A. Try going on a double date with a friend of hers that her mother trusts. It can put her mother at ease that her daughter is not out alone with "some guy".
B. Visit the girl at her house. Do a movie night at her home with her mother still in the house. If you go into her room, leave the door open. Be polite and gain her mother's trust.
C. When you gain enough of her mother's trust to take her out alone, be sure to get her home on time and at a reasonable hour. Violating that trust makes it very hard to regain it.
2007-12-11 07:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by everydaymakeupaddict 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been there,Bro,it IS frustrating.But a parents' word is the final word,there's no getting around that.Look at it this way;if she were being raised by slackers who didn't care,would you like her as much?She would probably be a total loser,I'm sure you know kids getting raised like that.All I can tell you is this;it wont be like that forever.I don't know how old you guys are,but one day,you and her are going to be 18,and there's nothing her Mom,your' Dad,or anybody else in the world can do to stop that!If she stays strong,and does the right thing until then,she'll be in position to make some changes.And if your' still in the picture,all the better.Good luck,Bro.
2007-12-11 06:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strengthen your relationship with the mother. Let her mother get to know you so she trusts you. Hang out over at her house and get to know the family. Invite her and mother out or do something all together. Ask her mother after you have a good re pore if you could take her daughter out. Tell the mom exactly who, what, when , and where. If she says no, ask what would be appropriate. Be patience if you like the girl-she'll be worth the wait.
2007-12-11 06:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by REDUNTILDEAD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does her mother allow her to have friends over to the house? You could come over for dinner and bring a movie to watch after. A movie that the whole family could enjoy together (just in case they are uncomfortable about leaving you two alone in a room), nothing crude or that would be embarrassing to anyone in the room. You could even offer to help make dinner (salad is always easy) so that her mom gets to know you and lets her guard down a little. Good luck!
2007-12-11 06:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 22:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if yall love each other then you wont have a problem waiting for the 1 special moment to go and see each other, and when it comes dont go to somewhere like the skating rink or the bowling alley, make it the movies so you can cuddle up to each and be alone or out to eat where you can take as long as you want. and dont rush into a kiss and DO NOT have sex because it will ruin your relationship for ever no matter how much you say you love each other because it will change trust me i know and now i am a father at 16 and my ex (yea shes my ex for various reasons) hate each other more than anything. she hits me and i yell at her. so just wait. waiting is good. dont have sex till ur maried and if you cant wait then do oral or anal and if thats not possible then do it with a condom not 2 because it wont work because of friction but just wait. because it will make each of yall want to be with each other even more and then when you finally do go on a date it will be very special
2007-12-11 06:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by guywithastrat 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be respectful to her, and what her family thinks is the best thing for her. If you want to go on a date, have her meet you at the movies. Her story could be that she was going with some friends, and you just happened to be there, going to the same movie. ;]
2007-12-11 06:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by miss_na18 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe at shool or some other way, your dad can meet her mom, and she won't know who he is, they become friendly, but only friendly, then, when he tells her that you are her son, and bla bla bla how responsible and smart and nice and respectful you are. (lies will get you no where especially if her mom finds out) then you might be able to go to her house just to hang out, then L8R, once her mom and you aren't akward with eachother anymore, you can ask o0ut that girl.
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-12-11 06:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by Band RULES!!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes but i think you heard that her parent were strict from her get to know her parent gain their trust and you'll find their easy to get around
2007-12-11 06:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and try and come up with a plan to maybe spend time after school so its not late at night or have her mom meet you so that she doesn't worry about who her daughter's hanging out with
2007-12-11 06:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by CherryBlossom85 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋