EVERYTING IS KUL FYN AND DANDY BT I DNT WANT HIM ANYMO.HE IS SO HOT TEMPERED AND WILL HATE ME IF I LEAVE HIM.HELP
2007-12-11 06:52:25 · 39 answers · asked by baby p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
maybe sit down with him and talk about what your problems with him are, and see if he's willing to change for you. After maybe a week or so if you still think he's really nervewracking, talk to him again about what he's been doing to try, but you don't think that it's gonna work out, and maybe it's not the problems that you suspected but maybe it's something to do with you. Whatever you do, DON'T tell him that you want to be friends, because that is the line that everyone uses and everyone knows that whoever uses it doesn't mean it.
2007-12-11 06:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah <333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him on the phone and say its not working out and you need your own time and you hope he can respect that.....then just say your not really into him your just not ready for a relationship and decided your not really into men......there is not a nice way to tell someone this without being blunt....and if he says he will come over then tell him he cant because your about to leave the house with friends and you found a new man and he should never call again....but let him get his stuff back if he wants it but DO NOT let him in the house without a friend with you....this will only be a problem....so pack it for him and have it ready by the door....when he comes on the time and day you choose (about two weeks later so any hard feelings will pass)then ask a friend to come over during that time to give him his stuff.... Nothing more to say to a man. If you say anything or get into a conversation with him then you are just setting yourself up for failure. give him the cold and blunt side but do not be insulting...
2007-12-11 07:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad news. There is no 'good' way to dump anyone. The only thing that you can do is to tell the truth. Tell him that he's great and all but your just not ready for a relationship (with him) right now. Tell him that when you are you will be sure to let him know. Tell him that it is really important to you that he won't "hate" you for this.
If he tells you he hates you after that, he's just trying to make you feel bad and your not the most important person in the relationship to him...he is. If he accepts it (this may me angry, sad, indifferent) LET HIM GET OVER IT.
x,
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2007-12-11 07:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dump him, he's going to hate you.
This is the time when women play the old tricks. Like making him dump you by asking all those questions.
The best thing to do in my opinion is to play it cool. Reduce your calls, show little interest, and become available but no committal. Even if you don't want to marry this guy, you can always be friends. You've just got to get it in your head what you want, not let infatuation work against you.
2007-12-11 06:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by Hacksaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Options:
1) make him break up with you. Be as anyoing, clingy, obbsessive, bossy, and controlling as you can. Then when he leaves you he'll be all " i still wanna be friends its just not working as anything more than that" or something along those lines.
2) trick him into cheating on you. Break it off. Act pissed. make up and be freinds. He'll beg you.
3) lie like hell. make up some sob story about a medical condition or something. Like anxiety. Relationships create stress and stress creates anxiety. And YOU have an "anxiety problem" and cant afford the medication.
4) use the "its not you its me, lets stay freinds, i need you in my life just not this way" line (lameeee)
5) totally repetitive here. Just do it, screw him.
2007-12-11 07:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by Lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just did this last night! It was hard but I did it! I told him that he deserved someone that would appreciate everything he does. I told him that it wasn't fair for him to be with me because I don't feel the same way about him that he feels about me. I wish I could tell you that it's easy or that there is an easy way but the truth of the matter is that there is no easy painless way! good luck!
2007-12-11 06:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by MCB 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would you want to be dumped? Open and honest or by text, phone, email???
Just tell him its over if he get all hot and bothered then explain that this is one of the reasons.
Easy! If you don't want a relationship with him- why keep him around?
Merry Christmas
2007-12-11 09:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's going to be hard but the sooner you get out the better.
You might hurt him and he will probably be upset but sometimes a good slap in the face is all one needs to straighten up and fly right.
2007-12-11 06:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so you just send him an email or something guys are not like woman. We dont need a whole lot of pampering during a break up. were like o well shi* happens life must go on. So just tell him.
2007-12-11 06:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by Silent Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't sugar-coat dumping someone. Do the honourable thing, and send them a text along the lines of.. "welcome to Dumpsville, population: You!" Believe me it's the best way. He will hate you in the end, no matter how you end it. Get it over quickly and move on.
2007-12-11 07:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋