My ex husband was emotionally and physically abusive to me. We have a child together and we speparated.
Even after 2 years apart he still spreads malicious untrue stories about me to anyone who will listen (and they are not so crazy as not to be believable)
Why does he do this. It is his cheating that caused us to divorce. why is he trying to make me miserable after all this time?
2007-12-11 06:54:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its no so much as to why hes doing that, its why your letting this get to you, the moment you stop caring about his actions is the moment he loses any power he has over you, become stronger live your life and if people want to believe him and not come to you for your answer let them be dumb
2007-12-11 06:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husbands ex did exactly the same thing 33 years ago. It was her cheating that wrecked the marriage yet she continued to badmouth my husband for years, even after we were married and she remarried. She didn't even know me and she'd talk about me to their kids. The thiing is, eventually the truth comes out. These people are miserable pot stirrers that always want drama in their lives. The best thing you can do is NOTHING. Don't try to justify yourself, don't get worked up about it, just live your life being the best, kindest person you can be and it won't take long befor others will see who the nut-case really is. Both of my step-sons and their wives have gone through months of not speaking to their mother. Everyone knows what she's like, and we never had to say one bad thing about her. The truth will come out!!! Bless you!
2007-12-11 07:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by karenhjones 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a mentally sick person and obviously he has no respect for you or his child because he wouldnt continue this madness. He needs to move on with his life and allow you and your child to live comfortably and safely.
You do NOT have to tolerate that BS from him and I am glad you divorced him because there are so many women that would still be in this situation and be unhappy and abused and really hard to get out of later.
2007-12-11 06:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by sexyexotik 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to ignore the fact that he's miserable and you are not. He's trying to drag you down with him but don't let him have that power over you. Take care of yourself and raise your child to know what a real man is.
2007-12-11 06:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I can see he hasn't changed since your divorce. He does these things because that is the only way he can continue to control you is by hurting you.
I know it sucks to hear this, but the only way you can get over it is to develop thicker skin and don't retaliate by bad mouthing him. Just ignore him. Eventually he will see that he can't get a rise out of you and he will move on to harass his latest girlfriend.
2007-12-11 07:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by Invisigoth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why worry what he says... WHO CARES... you know what you have done, and guess what, anyone that even knows you in the slightest bit will take one look at him and tell him it isn't true.... So what does it really matter? I mean, you need to do what you need to do, take care of your child and yourself... Then, make some friends so you no longer have to worry about what he is doing or saying. Best of luck to you!
2007-12-11 07:02:55 · answer #6 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's miserable and therefore he wants you to be miserable as well. He isn't over the fact that you divorced and doesn't want you to be happy, so he is going to do whatever he can to interfere with your life.
2007-12-11 06:57:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It looks such as you used her chum to get returned at your ex. That exchange into advise and infantile in itself. i comprehend you ought to have had marvelous issues planned for the two certainly one of you and you have been injury and you had to make certain her hurting too with the aid of fact it meant that she felt some thing for you, is that good? Its ok and actually organic for somebody your age - complication if its an person yet even adults seek for revenge if the wear and tear exchange into undesirable sufficient so i assume you acquire the revenge you needed. in my view, it exchange into sufficient of a lesson for her to be utilized by way of the different boy - she might have even come again to you (and you comprehend that deep down you extremely need that or you wouldnt care if she is plagued by way of p.c.. of you and her chum - in spite of everything, subsequently you chosen her chum and not a stranger - it cuts deeper, yeah? i comprehend.) yet I doubt that she will ever forgive her chum or you - it is a few thing you in basic terms dont do once you care some female - bypass with a chum and a chum shouldnt do it the two - she will trash her now. So, you kinda injury a brilliant style of people in a brilliant style of strategies. your self - with the aid of fact she might have lengthy previous returned to you while she realised what a solid difficulty you men had collectively and what an a hollow the recent guy became out to be - your earnings. each and every so often people ought to attempt distinctive ingredients earlier they bypass returned to their favourites you comprehend. Doesnt advise they ever stopped liking their wide-unfold - she is obviously youthful and immature and didnt think of roughly your thoughts the two - which exchange into selfish and advise too. yet she have been given her cakes being dumped by way of him. then you injury her chum by way of utilising her and persevering with to apply specific photographs to injury your ex much greater yet in addition belittling the chum's morals too. Then on precise of that, you injury their friendship. The chum might have constantly enjoyed you yet in no way went there considering the fact which you have been together with her chum then she might have theory "wow, now I certainly have of undertaking with him" then you used her! Time to develop up now little boy. you opt to act like an person having intercourse then you ought to be person approximately breakups too. They happen!
2016-12-17 14:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what ? jealous and insecure men are miserable and they want to make other people miserable by spreading rumors and false accusations. you have to ignore him, he is not worth it, don't waste your time on someone is a piece of sh*t.
2007-12-11 07:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by rodriguez m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who truly cares about you will not listen to or care about what filth he is spreading. He is only successful if YOU are troubled by his immature actions. IGNORE HIM!!
2007-12-11 07:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by that judi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋