Should I sleep with him or not?

Question

I am in my mid20s, and I am craving to have sex for the first time. I even found a guy to whom I feel very attracted but he has behaved like an *** to me in the past ( he lives in another country and we had a long distance thing which he decided to end cause he saw no future, and did not take the time to tall me that).

Basically, I will be in his city at the beginning of next January. We are friends now, but we still want to sleep with each other.

Question is: Shall I sleep with him and have a nice first time with a biy that I am very attracted to, or should I lead him on and deliver nothing as a means of revenge for his past behavious.

Sex or revenge? Revenge or sex?

I am gonna leave him anyway!

Hey, i am 26. I only fell in love with him so far, but I am over it. I am not gonna marry a virgin, that is just silly. So please stop it with that. I no longer want to be a virgin. Who knows when I am gonna fall in love a second time? It might take years!

I am European

Answer 1

Revenge is no good but then the guy you will be having sex with for the first time will be the one you will remember all your life. Do you really want HIM to be the one ?

Answer 2

I would say neither. Revenge is never a good means to feel better about being burned in the past. It will either backfire on you and youll get hurt or in the buildup of the revenge you can develop feelings and get hurt anyway. The fact that you still feel the need to plot revenge on this guy tells me the sex wont be that enjoyable. Revenge or sleeping together should never been in the same sentence in my book. Good luck!

Answer 3

>Shall I sleep with him and have a nice first time
>or should I lead him on and deliver nothing as a means of
>revenge for his past behavious.

The fact that you would even consider this shows me that you are not mature enough to have sex. Sorry.

Come on, sex isn't something you use to manipulate people. If you can't see sex for what it is then you should wait to have sex until you understand it better. You're going to ruin sex for yourself.

Your first time should be wonderful and with somebody you really like and care about. Not with somebody on whom you would consider exacting some twisted revenge.

Do not pass go, do not collect $200, go directly to jail. You're not ready to have sex or even a meaningful relationship.

Get counseling and talk this over. You need help. You're not happy. Life is short. I'm truly sorry if I've offended you but you need some blunt feedback and hopefully you're sharp enough to see the truth of it.

With all my heart, I hope your first time is absolutely wonderful and with a warm and caring person who truly loves you and for whom you have the same deep feelings. I hope it will be a memory that you will cherish forever. I hope that it will not be some cheap and tawdry stunt.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Neither. Revenge is petty, brings bad karma, and is ultimately self-destructive. If you're that pissed at the guy, just end the connection and walk away. He's not going to learn any lessons or regret his past behavior just because you act like a c***tease.

It sounds like your connection to this guy is purely physical, and lacking in romance and trust. So sex with this guy would probably be rather unsatisfying. You can have good sex without romance, but if you don't even have trust or respect for the guy - you might as well just stock up on batteries and do it yourself.

It's up to you, of course, but if you ARE going to do it, please be sure to use both birth control and a condom - the last thing you want from this guy is a baby or STD. And remember, there are PLENTY of guys out there who want to sleep with you - maybe give one of them a chance.

Answer 5

I'm going to be honest because I care about your question. It's your choice, but it would be good for your first time to be with some one that values you and respects you as a woman. It's more than attraction girl. If you waited this long then you might as well wait for someone you truly love and someone you can relate to. There's a possibility this guy may get in your pants then never speak to you again. As women we tend to be emotionally attach to a man even if we do not want to when it comes to sex. So be careful and make the right decision for you. Take girl young lady.

Answer 6

I guess that the decision is yours but you have to take into account the fact that you have only one chance to do something like this for the first time and that you should do it with someone who is as attracted to you as you are to him. Also, I don't believe that you should use sex, or no sex, as a mean of revenge. better tell him what you feel about what he did to you or don't see him at all!!!!

Answer 7

The odds that you can sleep with this guy and still be "over him" are not with you. Until you've actually been in a relationship that involves sex, you have no clue what kind of changes taking that step can cause. If you really want a good first time, wait until it'll mean something.

Answer 8

If you love him yes and if he loves you sure. However, to have sex just for the reason of having sex is not right. Remember looks is not everything in this world because in the end we all age and the attractiveness goes ago;however, it is the personality that lives on.

Answer 9

Tell him you want to have sex with him but he has to book a hotel and be there wearing nothing at a random time. You don't turn up walk in to the hotel and say your were recently in your friends room (say what number) and he thinks there's a leak and sent you to aks someone to go up right away. Maintenance or someone will go up and there you have it. Revenge. Take a camera. Hope that helps =] x

Answer 10

Neither. If you've waited this long, you can wait a little longer and find someone who's worth it. Sex without love (especially if you're a virgin) is disappointing. And revenge is childish and pointless. Purge this guy from your life and make room for someone wonderful.