I hate my mom?

Question

Now fess up. How many of you automatically attatch the stereotype that I'm just a pms-ing teenager, and the adult is always right? How do you know I'm not abused beyond belief? How do you know that she doesn't come home at arbitrary times to scream at us? And how do you know that the next second she's not trying to win back our affection? Why can't anyone listen?

Answer 1

I didnt think you were a teen. There are hundreds of questions in here from adults who say the same thing. I see them all the time. You could be 60 years old for all I know. Also it doesnt matter what age you are, even adults get abused by their parents. The difference is an adult can cut off contact but a teen cant.
It seems like youre lashing out at us (in YA). Instead why dont you just say your age, whats wrong and ask for advice. Age does matter because the advice for an adult would be different than a child.

Answer 2

Sounds like my Mom.

When I was 12 I resigned myself to the fact that I did not have a mother anymore, just a woman who hated me.

That may have been a childish thought, but to this day (6 and a half years later...) she has proven it true everyday.

She has not told me she loved me in years.

And I was abused in every fashion possible (physically, mentally, etc) for many years by both parents.

I still live at home. The abuse has stopped...physically at least...because I stood up for myself once when my Mom pulled my hair and I punched her across the face. She hasn't touched me since.

I am listening. I understand. I have been through it. I still go through it everyday. I do not have a family, hate both my parents, and do not plan on letting them have an active relationship with me or my children in the future.

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Keep your head up. Believe in yourself and good things will happen.

Answer 3

What's your objective?

Seriously.... consider what you want, then you'll be able to work on a solution.

I'm not going to say you're in the wrong, nor will I say your mom is wrong. What I will say is that, you probably don't hate your mom. You're probably having difficulty communicating with her. I recall several times where I had issues communicating with my father. But, in the end, it's working through those times that helped me mature.

Again, I don't know much about your situation, but I will say that even if your mom is a drunken/abusive person, hating them won't change a thing. Try loving and honoring her. Sounds wierd, but I've seen it work in more cases than not.

Answer 4

you have a big problem
i don't know you or your mom
so i don't know who is wrong
but if there are issues of abuse towards you or other siblings in the house you need to call child protective services
you can do it annonimously
and they will investigate it
they will question you alone without her being there
but if your just being a spoiled little monster then i have no simpathy for you
i was severly abused as a child i left home at twelve
i had help from the sisters in the convent they protected me from my mother
back then it was hard to get help when your the child
now its different

Answer 5

how can u say that u hate ur mum she is the 1 who brought u into this world i no not everyone is brilliant at everything as I'm learning with my 2 daughters but there is only 1 mum u don't no what its like without 1

try to do things together

good luck

Answer 6

i did not i just thought it was sad make up befor it is to late and she is gone

Answer 7

We don't know...why do you assume that we all make assumtions? LOL oh well - so did you!

Answer 8

oh...are you serious?
:(