I really love my fiance very much. But I do not want to get a divorce. It is too much stress and it's not the way marriage is supposed to work. Should we hold off on the sex until marriage in order to prevent a divorce?
2007-12-11 06:45:48 · 25 answers · asked by airforcewolf16 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
One has nothing to do with the other. Divorce is usually caused by non-compatability, or unresolved issues. Communication is the most important aspect of all relationships. If you can work through issues, often it helps you to understand what the other person is thinking and why they do what they do.
2007-12-11 06:51:33 · answer #1 · answered by Trisha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be silly. That won't prevent a divorce any more than getting married on the moon. The way to prevent a divorce is to work at your marriage.
If you have sex before marriage don't tell anyone about it. It's nobody's business but your own. But whether or not you have sex before marriage is not going to determine whether you stay married or not.
But if you're going to feel horribly guilty about it then don't do it. If you and your fiancee agree that it's a good idea then go for it. You can also do a lot of other things without actually having sex if you two are going to hang up about it.
Be careful what you do and make sure the two of you feel okay about it. You don't want to cast any shadows over things. Be natural about it and don't force anything. If you're both into it then let it hapen. If not, hold off. If it's a good idea tonight it should still be a good idea tomorrow night.
Good luck.
2007-12-11 06:55:45 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still hold off on sex and end in a divorce. Find out what makes a marriage stay together and work on that. If sex is going to be the MAJOR focus of your marriage, you need to re-evaluate why you are getting married.
2007-12-11 06:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have jumped back to the 1950's! I would suggest not only having sex, but a trial living together arrangement as well. Both of you keep you own place, just in case it doesn't work out, or incase one of you needs time away. Everyone has annoying habits that shouldn't, but quite often can, lead to rough times in a marriage. Also, it is good to find out about sex compatibility. You do not want to be married and find your new wife likes sex acts you find disgusting. As unromantic as it sounds, in this day and age, it is always good to see if you are both compatable, especialy sexually. Remember, having sex now will not mean a divorce in the future. Where this notion came from is not worth checking up on. If you two love eachother, and want to make love to eachother, then do it! Enjoy it! and worry about divorce while you are married. Marriage is hard work. Both of you must make a commitment to make it work. Using sex as the cement to hold the marriage together is wrong. When I say as the cement, it seems to me, from your question, that sex is being used as a way to force marriage. "Marry me and you get to have sex" that will never work. Remember, find out now, if you are sexually compatible. If you are not, and you are married, then you will get a divorce.
2007-12-11 07:02:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If anything not having sex until you get married makes it more likely to get a divorce afterwards as you will have no idea if you are sexually compatible.
Either way, just do what the two of you are comfortable with, wait until afterwards or don't, it has very little chance to determine if you will last 50 years or 2 years.
2007-12-11 06:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by JA in SC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have sex before you marry and it's bad then you don't have to worry about divorce. Having sex before marriage doesn't have nothing at all to do with divorce.
2007-12-11 07:03:21 · answer #6 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with it... If you haven't yet, good for you.. WAIT for the night of your marriage... There is nothing you can do to say that you will or will not get a divorce, UNLESS both of you are beyond hard headed to not give up on this marriage and make it work...
2007-12-11 06:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex before marriage will not lead to divorce.
2007-12-11 06:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Marina 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No correlation and do NOT go into a marriage worrying about divorce!!! There are so many better ways to expend that energy in a positive way :) Enjoy the journey!
2007-12-11 06:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by that judi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having sex or not before marriage, has no bearing on whether or not you will divorce. There are many other factors involved and although sex can cause relationship problems, having had it with your mate premaritally isn't one of them.
2007-12-11 06:49:21 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋