A husband whom you can trust even at times when he has the opportunity to secretly cheat on you ..... does such husbands exist in reality or are they exclusive to our fantasies?
2007-12-11 06:38:01 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My Dad... But he is taken ;-)
He bought a ring for my Mom a few years ago in January when all of the sales were going on... He wanted to give her a diamond ring since they didn't have the money when they were getting married... and he thought she deserved a true engagement ring... It wasn't anything big, but never the less... Any who, my Mom got the credit card bill in February and she wigged out because it was after Valentines day and she didn't get any jewelry... She did know of a woman who was hitting on my Dad at the office so she pretty much b*tched my Dad out about having an affair... Then he pulled the ring out and told her he was going to give it to her for their anniversary in June, since he never got her a "proper" engagement ring....
My parents have been married 27 years now, he bought her a freezer as an engagement ring, which is still in use to this day, and that is how my Grandmother knew my Dad was serious... He bought her something she needed, not a piece of jewelry. :-) To top it off, my Mom always makes fun of my Dad for proposing over the phone and not getting on one knee.... for their 25th, he took her to Europe, where they went to Paris the night befor their 10 day cruise... Her dessert can, with a 3 stone ring on it and he got down on one knee for her....
I would have to say, my Dad is very faithful and devoted to my Mom and he is fully real... Not a perfect man, but awesome none the less.
2007-12-11 06:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Oh a man's mind will wander but there are men who won't go further than that. Any man who denies it is a liar. It's the extent to which a man thinks about it though. If he thinks too much, he'll do it. But if he thinks here and there and comes back to reality he'll be fine. I imagine 2/3 of men do cheat. The other 1/3 just think about it and never do it. Yes, they exist. But they're not as virtuous as you might think. If we're bad for thinking about it then we're almost 99% guilty. It's a guy thing and I'm not sure that most women understand that.
2007-12-11 06:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by DearAbby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do. I love my wife with every cell of my heart and although I have been outright asked for sex, while on a business trip 1200 miles away, I declined. This is not the only time this has occured, and I have stayed faithful to my wife. She is such a part of me that she is with me at all times.
I even took a young man of 21 to a strip club at his urging ( I have no use for these places) but he wanted to go, and it was his birthday, so I aquiesced, again two hours from home on business. The dancers approached us looking to sell us a lap dance, after I declined several times while my young friend partook one of the dancers asked me why I wouldn't take a lap dance. I told her I was married and she said that she my wife would never know, and I said, yes, but I would and God would and I love my wife and couldn't do this. She actually was touched my my honest feelings and told the other girls to leave me alone. I was relieved and happy to find that they were not just a bunch of ho's but actually understood what I was saying to them. The rest of the story is my young friend went back the next night on his own and ended up getting fired and divorced because everyone found him out.
We do exsist, now if we could find a woman who trusted us completely. Even through all of my faithfulness, my wife still doubts herself and thinks I will be torn away from her. So my question to you is: Do women who trust actually exist, or are they just fantasies?
Yoda out
2007-12-11 06:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by Yoda 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No they don't exist. Grow up and here are the facts of life:
1. There is no Santa
2. All men cheat, almost all women cheat
3. Marriage ruins relationships(moving in is the same)
4. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)
5. Life is not fair
Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me
if you want to hear the truth ask me anything!!!
2007-12-11 13:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yea honey, they do. my husband travels 100+ days out of a year never once has he failed to call when he said he would, didnt shown up where& when he said he wud. I never worry about it cz nothing shady ever happens. no lipstick collars or odd phone#'s on his phone. if thats not how it is for you , u shud know that its not just a fantasy thing and u shud also be treated that way. if ur not, i feel for you..seriously i feel so bad for ladies in ur situation cz if i felt that i had a reason to distrust my husband, i dont see how i cud have a normal life after that...it wud be the source of all my attention. i wish i had some words that i knew wud bring u some peace, but i dont so just know that i say a prayer for you and other women in ur situation.
2007-12-11 06:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does truly faithful and devoted husbands exist in reality YES
Wanna meet him,he's my husband a blessing and a sweet gift from GOD
2007-12-11 06:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
im know that im a man...and ive been married for 18years...but first let me tell you something about me.im a good looking man and well built and make great money..and i work with a lot of women..im not the head boss but i am mangment..my wife trust me because i dont give her a reason not to.when we go parties and she sees me talking to a pretty woman. she knows that she has nothing ot worry about..the one thing we have...we can talk to eacher..we respect what the other is saying..most men are dogs..i have alot of friends that cheat..and ive been in some sticky spots but the best way to say no to another woman is to say : im sorry but im married and leave it at that..if the woman dont get it...just walk away...there is nothing like loving someone so much..i know i do..and really she is just a ordernary woman'''got to go..im at work bye
2007-12-11 07:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by bobbytjones1933 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it does exist! I have been married to my husband for 17 very happy years, and not once did I even suspect that he wasn't faithful or devoted to me! I trust him with my life!
2007-12-11 06:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by Chihuahua Addict Adores Scooby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the exist group, married over20yrs and
am still a virgin to women outside the marriage.
Have had several opportunities but I would never
disrespect my wife as good as she has been to
me and would always put the others in their place
who try.
2007-12-11 13:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by RudiA 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dear star,
Yes there are truthful husbands out there. I used to be one of them. I was married for 5 yrs. and the last two years of my marriage I found out that my wife was cheating on me. I would go to work and home. We have a 5yr old daughter together. I would not go out a hang with my friends and family because I was always at home taking care of my daughter while she was out.
2007-12-11 06:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋