My gf and her ex are always talking is this normal? or should i worry about it?

Question

I been dating my gf for over 1yr and 3months,she has a kid from a privious relationship but latetly shes been talking a lot to her ex due to the passing of his father wich i understand she knew for about 6yrs.I was not invited to the funneral or rosary due to my gf saying its not the right time for me and her to be seen by her exes family in public . I know they will always have that bond due to the kid ,but she has confess to me that he wants her back even though she says she loves me and she will never go back with him . well this morning he called around 330am asking her to come by his house that he was not feeling well emotionally so he needed to talk to some one . I talked to her before and told her if she wants to try to work things out with him i will not stand in the middle of it .she told me she loves me and she wants to be with me .Now should i be ok with whats his doing? I got the feeling he knows she will do anything for him no matter what only because his her babys father

what bothers me she says she loves me but she does not put a stop to his ex behavior or should i do something about it? advise please!!!

she did not went over but i had to asked up to three times what he needed and she hasitated at the time of telling me!!
should they only talk about the kid? he has a gf at this time and why doesn't he call instead?they been together for about 2yrs and they only get together when he doesn't have the kid around.

I understand about the child and whats best for him. what about her ex always telling her hi wants to get back with her even though his dating some one already just because he does not want to be alone!! I inderstand getting along is the best for their child. he know shes with me and he stil tries to persuede her to be with him I know this because she tells me all this from her own mouth and does this makes me insecure? it makes me upset that he thinks he can have her 24/7 and not respecting our relationship!!!

Answer 1

Did she go to his house at 3:30am?

Yea, she needs to have a serious talk with him then. In order to move forward you must leave the past behind. I understand her wanting to be there for him, but he must also respect the fact that she has started a new life. 3am phone calls should not be happening unless it has something to do with the child!

Don't give her the open option to run back to him whenever she wants. She needs to know that you want to be with her and that you are what is best for her, and that you will do all it takes to make it work. Let her know that you do not approve of a relationship with this man beyond their child.... it is just not appropriate and will only prevent your relationship from flourishing.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

When you date someone who has a child from a previous relationship you have to understand that those two people will have to communicate forever. Until one of them dies they will be tied to each other. If her and her ex are that close it will only help the child in the long run.

If these two are that mature that they can be civil and support each other I think it's something they should be proud of. If his dad died, that was the child's grandfather.

If you are feeling insecure then talk to her. But don't say if you want to get back together with your ex I won't stand in your way. Try instead saying I understand that you two have a child together and I think it's great you two get along, but this is really new to me and at times I'm suffering from some insecurities over it. I just need some reassurance for now. Or something like that.

Good Luck

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Answer 3

All u can do is let the situation play out .. anything u can do??? Well, that's trying to control the situation, and true love will be patient to allow thoughts, feelings, and actions to mature. She's in a time of transition, and your patience could lead to her getting closer or further away ... only time will tell.

Meanwhile, you need to assess how much time, emotion, and investing you want to contribute no matter the cost (emotional cost). This is called, having & exploring faith.

Answer 4

Wow, that's not cool. It seems like from what your saying they have a tight bond with each other. That dude still wants her in his life. I don't think it's a problem but he's crossing the line calling her 3 am. i would have a problem with that. I would set rules and regulations for her to follow. And if she can't follow em kick her to the curb.