2007-12-11 07:15:11 · 21 answers · asked by baybeii t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he dnt push me he said he doesnt want 2 rush me!
2007-12-11 07:25:53 · update #1
If you are ready, just relax and go with the flow, so to speak. Don't worry about things that might go wrong, if you have a loving relationship, this shouldn't matter.
If you don't think your boyfriend is understanding, don't do it.
2007-12-11 07:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by kittycat123 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you are not ready for it, then do not do it. I was in the same predicament (sp?), and I felt that I was not ready, so I did not do it. My bf understood, so he did not pressure me any further, so it all turned out well. But, if he does not accept your decision, then maybe you should leave him alone for a while.
I know that on tv and in other various forms of media, sex is made to look like child's play. People just jump up and do it without any consequence and they act as if it is the best thing since sliced bread. It isn't. Trust me. You want your first time to be with someone you have known for a long time and someone you love very much. Not just anyone that you have a slight puppy love crush on. Also, sex can lead to pregnancy and STDs, so maybe you should check him out to make sure he does not have anything.
2007-12-11 07:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Autumn S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some crazy guys out there. There are some that will say your theirs once you have had sex with them. They'll want you only for them. Then there are the ones who will say all the most beautiful, comforting words, that make you think it's more than just sex. But once you give it up, they'll go on to the next girl. I would really think about what kind of guy he is. If you know his love life before you, I would think about what he has done in the past. If you think he might cheat on you because you won't have sex, then he isn't the kind of guy I would want to be with. Someone that LOVES you will understand and respect your decision. Try talking to him before anything, let him know what doubts your feeling and ask him what he feels. If you decide your ready, make sure to protect yourself. GOOD LUCK! Do what YOU FEEL is RIGHT!
2007-12-11 07:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by cyndi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, NO, NO! If you are having any sort of doubts, absolutely not! There are so many things that can "go wrong".
He could be using you and when he's done, tell everyone he knows that he slept with you.
Pregnancy. Are you ready to have a child with this person? If you're not, then you're not ready to have sex with him, because pregnancy is a definite possibility.
Sexually transmitted diseases.
Don't let your emotions make you stupid. Think. If he says he's leaving because you won't have sex, then let him leave. You are better off without him. Don't do something you will regret!
2007-12-11 07:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by T. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your instinct is kicking in. Just say no that you aren't ready. If it is real love he will wait or drop the subject. If he doesn't stop talking and asking for it then that is all he wants from you. Sorry but that is usually the way guys work and it is not worth wasting your virginity if you aren't ready. The first time is usually pretty bad.
2007-12-11 07:21:39 · answer #5 · answered by #2 in the oven 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say your ages, but sound rather young. If you have any doubts at all, don't do it. And don't let him guilt you into it. If he gets a hard-on and blames you, tough, that's no excuse to put him out of his misery. He can go home and take care of it himself. True love and respect will not rush or push you into anything you're not ready for.
2007-12-11 07:26:59 · answer #6 · answered by Joy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you use protection and if you are at all unsure... just don't do it! You can stop any time you want. Sure he might get a bit frustrated but it's not going to damage him no matter what he tells you! (Oh and by the way, something doesn't have a k on the end) :)
2007-12-12 01:49:47 · answer #7 · answered by claire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go wrong? Its called a pregnancy. It is called an unwanted child. Do you seriously want this guy in your life for the next 18 yrs-9 months?
You have to ask and answer that.
The Rat
2007-12-11 07:19:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel your ready go for it but make sure he wears a condom as there's always a risk. If you aren't ready tell him and if he loves you and respects you he won't push you into having sex and if he does he's not worth the hassle and the feelings you have for him aren't mutual. Hope that helps =] x
2007-12-11 07:28:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how old are you?
if it doesn't feel right don't do it, if he respects you he will not push you to do it.
EDIT: Happy that your bf respects you enough not to push you. The only other thing I want to add is: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE get birth control - condoms are NOT enough, so whether you plan to go on the pill or some other method it will be important that you have this in place BEFORE you commit to having sex. Protection should be at the forefront of your priorities. Talk to your doc about the alternatives available to you.
2007-12-11 07:17:47 · answer #10 · answered by JD 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sure, if you have been with him for 2 yrs, they may have already figured you have....But they will never ask unless you tell them. At 22, you should not care so much about what your parents are thinking! You are well underway starting your own life!!
2016-05-23 02:20:17 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋