My brother Sam brought his college friend Mike around to meet his old friends from high school about two summers ago. Sam introduced Mike to his old friend Jenny & joked they would make a great couple. They got along well and started dating. Jenny's & Sam's mutual high school friend Tina had a Christmas party last year that the whole group went to. There was a huge fight between Sam and Tina, basically Tina being jealous that Sam is a popular kid and well-liked. No one really talked to Tina even tho it was her party, that kind of thing. Anyway, Tina doesn't really talk to anyone anymore except Jenny. Jenny and Mike got engaged and are getting married this summer. Sam is really upset because he's not invited to their wedding. Jenny and Mike don't talk to him anymore, but hang out with Tina all the time. (Jenny said she feels "bad" for Tina. Mike doesn't even talk to Sam at all, Jenny won't let him.) Is it right that Sam, who introduced them, is not invited? How can I comfort my bro?
2007-12-11 01:12:06 · 18 answers · asked by Amber May ♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is sad that your brother is not invited to the wedding......and the bride usually has control over that one. The bride sounds like a real (no) winner, and your brother should realize that she is vindictive and not a forgiving type person. I think your brother will be invited for his friend's next wedding.......seriously, it does not sound like she is someone who will be married for long. Your friend and your brother can go back to being friends, when these two break up, and that will be soon.
2007-12-11 01:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by laurel g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, find out how big of a wedding it is going to be.
Why isn't Mike and Tina talking to your brother anymore??
Find out why they are no longer talking, how long it has been since they have spoken. If they had a falling out, then I wouldn't want that person there either.
If it had been some time now, and if I were having a small wedding, they I likely would invite only "Close" Friends and family.epting the
2007-12-11 09:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like they think or sam really did say or do something horrible to Tina, I mean why else would they stop talking to him, but keep talking to Tina. I think something is being left out of the story and whatever that is...is the key to the madness. It has to be pretty bad for them not to talk to him and then not invite him to the wedding. If he did something wrong he should go to them all and apologize. Maybe he can get to be friends with them again or at least set the ball in motion to be able to get along and go to wedding. But he shouldn't push it, it's their wedding and if they dont' want him there, he should respect their wishes.
2007-12-11 09:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by goodgirlabout2gobad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sam introduced the two people who are getting married to each other and because the little petty girl who is Jenny's friend doesn't like him they won't invite him and she "doesn't let" Mike talk to him anymore!? Sounds like we all know who wears the pants in that relationship. Your brother is better off without them. Mike sounds spineless and Jenny sounds like some petty bi*tch who is just siding with her other trite friend. I think you should state the obvious. Neither of them are really very good friends and he did his good deed. In time they will bother get what they deserve. Tell him to forget them and roll on to better things and better people.
Who needs friends like that?
2007-12-11 09:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it's their wedding and they have a right to choose whom they want to invite! If the friendship ceased to be already then why would "Sam" even want to be at a place where most likely he will be ignored! If he really wants to be part of this just send them a gift and a card wishing them the best. You don't want to put them on a spot of "having" to invite him and/or of Sam "having" to be there even if the whole situation is uncomfortable, just out of obligation. Send the gift and maybe a heartfelt card with true sentiments will reconcile your differences! Good Luck!
2007-12-11 09:22:06 · answer #5 · answered by itzybit_303 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion i think mike needs to tell jenny that they all have been frinends for a long ,and jenny should not control who mike talks to,( unless something really bad went down between them all) if its just jealousy then jenny needs to get over it and realize that this is supposed to be a happy day shared with all the one that mean something to both of them . if they are young there is really no helping them.
2007-12-11 09:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by lisajroe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not right being that he introduced them, but it is "their" wedding. They have the right since they are paying for this event to decide who comes and who doesn't come to their wedding. Your brother should respect their wishes. I'm sorry that he is no longer friends with them, but he will find new friends. He did a really wonderful thing by bringing them together! Let him know he should feel good about himself because he is spreading more happiness into the world.
2007-12-11 09:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a bit like highschool drama, are you sure Jenny and Mike are mature enough to get married?
2007-12-11 10:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by Mom to one cute boy! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think they should invite him, they should forget what happend in the past, and now these people are getting married they should be thinking of the future. Forgive and forget and im sure your brother is happy for them so it is not like he would ruin the wedding or something.
I also think you should just talk to your brother, just talk about how he feels about the situation. Talking about things to someone you are close to help and makes you feel better for telling someone how they feel
I hope this helps
2007-12-11 09:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by Gracie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it's not right-but there isn't much that you can do. Your brother is better off without a friend like Mike if he is going to treat him like that
2007-12-11 09:15:28 · answer #10 · answered by K K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋