What can i do if im eighteen year old girl soon to be nineteen and have no friends?

Question

Im in college and its nearing the end of the year and i feel very alone,im always trapped inside my own mind and i feel different to everybody!I dont think anyone will like me and im sure they definitely wouldn't if they knew the real me,im horribly flawed personality wise,im always sad and anxious and angry and zoned out and get constantly angry at my parents,i live with them but im just sick of it and i even dream about friends ive had in the past now.I just feel so lonely but i dont think othere people would ever even like me,what do i do?im doing well in college and i attend all of my lectures but thats about the only thing that is keeping me connected to 'life' other than that i just get lost inside my own mind and im dreading the holidays as im going to be trapped inside my head,i dont know what to do!

im also reluctant to make friends in the first place as the previous lot would play mind games and bully me!

Im really not someone that i would think should be pegged out as being different either,im pretty and slim and intelligent but im a bit spiritual and people take advantage of that

Answer 1

Hello:

Most colleges provide counseling services at a free or minimal fee. Go there immediately! A counselor may be able to help you by either talking through your concerns or providing medication that helps.

Also, if you have any hobbies, find a club where you can practice it. You don't have to try to make friends, but be around people and learn how they interact.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Sounds like you need serious counseling and possibly medication. What you're experiencing sounds like textbook depression and there is treatment for it. You don't have to live that way. It could be that a lot of what you feel is chemical and can be corrected. I suggest you go see a therapist and if necessary a psychiatrist. Once you get your mind in a healthy state, self-confidence and friends are sure to follow. And don't worry about being a flawed person. We all are! Trust me, even people you think are perfect are terribly insecure about something. Just work on being the best version of yourself you can be. And try to be a little more social. You say you attend all your classes, which is great. But how about joining a club at school? Signing up for a committee? Or even starting a club for other kids who feel the way you do? Or try volunteering your time for a worthy cause. Nothing takes your mind off your own troubles like helping someone else through theirs--especially around the holidays. Plus, it'll make you feel really good about yourself. Contact the Red Cross or the ASPCA, or even Toys for Tots. Also, talk to your parents about how you're feeling. Odds are, they don't know it's this serious. Let them be there for you. Most important, don't give up. Just be proactive about getting help and hang in there.

Answer 3

I used to be very shy, and people thought that I was stuck-up. I thought that I was ugly and unintresting to be around. Find out something about yourself or your family that is interesting or unusual. College is the perfect time to reinvent yourself. Don't be fake, just be yourself and don't worry about what others think so much. Your best friends will like you just the way you are. Take a chance and do something that you,ve always been interested in but were too anxious to try. Find people with the same interests as you and you will find a friend because you will always have something in common. And remember-God made you-And God doesn't make mistakes. Good luck.

Answer 4

Well I like the sound of you. You are a sensitive person and all the changes of being at college are getting to you. Go and talk to a tutor at college - they will find a really supportive person to help you through this time. You are no worse than anybody else in the world - lots of people cling to friends to stop feeling lonely - we can all feel like you at times. Get a bit of help now - it is a more common problem than you realise. Then when you feel at ease with yourself again - you will make a friend. Don't let a spiral of feeling down get a hold - talk today - remember no one is better than you - you are only a human being -why should you be wrong! Good luck.

Answer 5

I'm 21 and have made it a POINT to get rid of my friends. People in general have viscous behavior. It's a sad thing.

I would be your friend, though. I am one of the few honest and nice people left. I'm sure you are, too. That's why we always get hurt. People look at our niceness as a weakness and take it as an invitation to walk all over us. Other than joining some clubs where there may be people that share your same interests, I can't help you much =( I'm sorry. Just keep searching for those few people out there that still have a heart and morals.
Much Love and Merry Christmas

Answer 6

Choose an exercise you like and do it. Do some charity work. Get out more often. Find a part-time job. Seriously. You are thinking way too much. The ordinary human being thinks little and acts a lot. Blame the modern education system that keeps you from joining the productive crowd early in time. But no worries, everyone is the same.

You fill your time and friends will follow.

Answer 7

dont be so hard on yourself. who cares if your flawed? everyone is flawed. in truth i dont have any friends as it is at the moment and im 18, living alone and dont eve attend colledge, not to mention a little bit crazy, so i kinda have an idea of what your going through. all you really have to do is find an environment where people will have no choice but to communicate with you, i.e. a part time job. and colldege isnt really the ultima of finding companions as it is, people are far too wrapped up in their studies.
just suttlely join in someone's conversation, be a little more confident in yourself. if the randoms you try to talk to reject you then so what? move on.
if all else fails just rock up to a random party. that always works too.
hope things work out for you.

Meow.

Answer 8

You said you were scared that people would dislike you if they knew the real you. If you're shy, don't let it stop you. People will dislike you more if you try to be somebody you're not. Personally i hate them. Posers, wannabes, wangsters, and people that say things just to be liked. Be yourself totally. And you shouldn't worry so much!! You're in college! Have fun, get a degree, and enjoy the ride! And you also said that the last group of so-called "friends" made fun of you. They are not real friends. Find someone who understands you and listens and takes into account your feelings.

Keep your chin up and dont worry about what people think of you! If they can;t appreciate your qualities then forget them!

Answer 9

Your setting yourself up. Stop playing that same tape over
and over in your mind. Your downing yourself.
Hold your head up high, walk down the street with a big smile
on your face.
You would be surprised to see how many people will respond
back with a smile. Some will even say "hi" even if they
don't know you.
After doing that for awhile, maybe you could look for some
group/organization that might be of interest to you.

Answer 10

it sounds like the environment you came out of before college was not to healthy a place for developing friendships. but just think college is a whole new environment, means its possible to get a fresh stat on the friends and friendships, you have some insecurities, true but allot of us have insecurities, what really defines a person is their ability to work through and with difficulties. see a counselor at the school their, they can probably come up with some ideas to help you make some friends, as for the holidays, remember their are always some one who cares, what about your parents, go home tell them you love them, and just be there for them. regardless. you don't know me but i do care!