Basically to give some background. I worked with this girl. She was five years younger than me. I'm turning 23, shes turning 18 this month. I liked her, she never knew. She always hit on me, every summer we worked together. I was her boss my family owns the retail stores. I always rejected her, due to principal. I would have been all over her if it wasn't for the age difference, fact she was a minor, etc etc. My family always wanted me to date her because they would always mention how we worked good together, had same interests etc. I don't think I realized how much I liked her till I left to go back to college. I realized what a mistake I had made. I then tried to get back into contact with her over Christmas last year. I misinterpreted some stuff cause I am a moron, and ended up writing a letter to her apologizing to her thinking that I broke her heart. In reality she was breaking up with a guy and in a bad mood, her IM profile stuff and facebook stuff wasnt for me.
2007-12-11 16:28:40 · 7 answers · asked by DMan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So I got mad and kind of went overboard after she didnt respond to me. Everything up until the point me getting mad at her and screwing with her was seriously because I felt bad thinking I had broken her heart. I'm very certain she liked me and had a serious crush on me. She blocked me from IM and facebook and I didn't contact her since then. For six months. I came home from college, and the next day guess who walks into my store and stares at me. I kind of look at her and say nothing. I don't know if she is afraid of me cause I kinda acted like a nut in December or if she wanted to talk to me. She just stood and store and stared at me saying nothing till my mom waited on her. Then when summer came to a close, she came in the store again with friend, they made a B line towards me, the friend said hi, she said nothing and wouldnt even make eye contact with me. I ignored her too. Two days later the girl comes back to my store and ends up talking to my mom about her plans for college.
2007-12-11 16:32:33 · update #1
I know cause I heard about it at the dinner table the next day. Ever since then about a few times a month my mom gives me updates on her because her mom and my mom talk.
Question is what the hell do I do, I like her still, I feel bad about the situation, I'm scratching my head.
I think she either thinks I'm crazy from the correspondance last december or she thinks I was playing a mean joke on her in december when she was breaking up with her now Ex BF. Either way that sucks. Any advice?
2007-12-11 16:34:51 · update #2
Dammit I hate having morals. If this happened all over again I would have dated her even if she was underage and risked sexual harassment ****. I also wouldnt have apologized to her like a little baby when I thought I broke her hear.
2007-12-11 16:38:41 · update #3
I'm kinda scared to talk to her, last time i got the courage to do this i ****** it up. I don't really know if she thinks im crazy or not, I dont know, I dont wanna push it.
2007-12-11 16:40:22 · update #4
My man! Send her this blog you just wrote telling all of us how big of an *** you were, better yet send her the URL to it so she can find it her self and see it! I bet it will work for the simple reason that you are sincere and willing to put it out in public! Try it! Honesty is the best way back to her heart! Good luck!
2007-12-11 17:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by james h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you put details in the letter and indicated that you thought you had broken her heart without realizing it then she is probably perplexed, but she might even be flattered that you apologized. The best policy may be honesty in this case. If you can arrange to see her in person (with hat in hand) just tell her, with confidence, that you feel like a boob for thinking that since she was young she might have had a crush on you and that you broke her heart by ignoring her. Or something similar that relates to the situation. Tell her that you don't know how you could have been so stupid, and that you realize you couldn't possibly have broken her heart as you were friends and not involved romantically, and that she no doubt is mature enough to know the difference. Then tell her honestly that you wanted her to think well of you.....and just misinterpreted her facebook. Go from there, be as honest as you are willing to be, you might even consider saying you had been thinking a lof about her and wished you could have gotten to know her....etc.
2007-12-12 00:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is everyone on this site such pussys!!
dude walk up to her and talk everything out!! it was a kinda sissy way for u to write her a letter!! letme tell u that from personal experience that things go alot better when u talk to the person face to face and note tip toe aroud the situation!!
grow some balls and talk to u face to face!!
go to luch together, or possible the next time she goes in there stop being childish and break the silent treatment, and im pretty sure tht ur mom has her number ask her to give it u and call her!!!
2007-12-12 00:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by i love NOLA! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will have to make the first step, i am sorry this sounds like well you know a big problem. i suggest that you just walk up to her and straight up talk to her first apologize and explain why you are sorry dont just say it. then tell her why you messed up.
2007-12-12 00:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try your best to explain to her that you're sorry for misunderstanding, and you want to make things up to her and be back on speaking terms again...
2007-12-12 00:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are indeed An Idiot! such a long question, no time to read, not to mention answering it!!
2007-12-12 00:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by George 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol
chill..
just tell her and make a joke out of it :p
she'll understand
2007-12-12 00:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. C∂ƒƒee £ips :} 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋