Family & Relationships - 11 December 2007

I was at my best friends wedding when I hooked up with his bestman. The entire thing came completely out of left field, i didnt think that he noticed me in that way. He's in the air force and few back to FL a few weeks ago. We have continued to talk and there are plans for me to go and see him during spring break. We talk roughly twice a week for at least an hour either on the computer or phone, but I feel that I am always the one who has to establish contact first. At first when i would text him he would write right back and now sometimes he will never answer. I'm afraid that he only wants me to visit him so that he can get a piece. I told him earlier that I didn't want to be just another booty call and his reply was that he doesn't have any at all (i was told otherwise). I want to like him and would like a relationship out of him but only if he wants one as well. Otherwise I want to just take what little feelings i have for him and pull out now before I get even more attached. HELP

2007-12-11 15:28:58 · 12 answers · asked by Kenya 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-11 15:24:10 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

About 3mnths ago, I was gang raped by 4 people... I knew one of them.

I told nobody and know I found out that I am pregnant. I don't believe in abortions and I am one to plan things out and have already figured my life out till about now. I know now that I can't do what I planned to do with my life and may have to drop out of school. My rep. as the strait A dork kid, is now trashed. I have no Idea what to do...

If you could give me some advise or just support me with encouraging words, that would be great.

Thank you and God bless

2007-12-11 15:23:52 · 13 answers · asked by Carol A 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-11 15:23:37 · 9 answers · asked by Leonidas 3 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-11 15:23:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

im skinny as in fit but its not to skinny.

2007-12-11 15:21:16 · 9 answers · asked by dimond32 3 in Singles & Dating

The way you imagined it to be or the real thing?

Was your first kiss a dissapointment and the rest were great?

Rate each kiss on a scale from 1-100.

2007-12-11 15:19:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My step dad has been in my life since I can remember, My dad has always done everything he could to be a part of our lives even though he lived far away..They are both important to me and I don't wanna hurt either one of them but I just don't know who to have walk me down the aisle..Anyone ever been in my shoes?

2007-12-11 15:18:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

This has come up before. I make 60k a year in the computer field. He also makes 60k in the heating and air conditioning business. This issue did come up before we got engaged, but I brushed it off because I am not going to quit my job for him. It hurts me alot when he says I am not a 'good woman' because I want to work. But I had this job when he proposed. What makes him think I am going to quit my job and 'take care of him' in 1950s fashion? He hasn't graduated high school and I have a college degree. Could this have something to do with it? Does he feel inferior? Do I threaten him? It just hurts. Is this a general feeling of most men looking for a wife - that she doesn't have a good job or career?
I also NEVER EVER throw it in his face that I have a degree and he doesn't. In fact, I truely believe he is a genius and I tell him all the time. He just didn't graduate for whatever reason.

2007-12-11 15:15:54 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My husband sees prost itutes. I am so angry with him. He says I am the guilty one because I do not satisfy him enough, and that I'm getting too fat, so I no longer attract him. So I'm failing in my duty as a wife, so he can do as he pleases.

But I have one year old baby and I'm pregnant with another, And most times I'm too tired caring for the child

2007-12-11 15:10:44 · 34 answers · asked by farzia 2 in Marriage & Divorce

I can't get rid of this anger for my father. He never admits hes wrong, and constantly says I love you when hes mad at me, although I don't think he does love me. He cheated on my mother, and is turning his family against her. He tells everyone hes getting divorced, and gets women that way, when he hasn't even filed yet. He thinks everything is abuse. My mom slapped his but and he said "PHYSICAL ABUSE!" and she did it in a sexy way. Anyway, he comes home 3 hours late from the time he should be home from work. I tell him that my cousnelor said no relationships until a year after the divorce is finalized, and he says "Well I told you guys in January!" He always HAS to be right, and I can't argue with him because he never gives in when he is defeated. My mother says he is manipulative. I walked in my Aunt's house, and he was talking about my Mother. I get more and more pissed off, and I can't sleep because I am so angry and mad at him. I don't know what to do. I don't want to hate him bec

2007-12-11 15:10:43 · 2 answers · asked by <3 3 in Marriage & Divorce

we are divorced and i tell her i still love her very much and she says ok. then i ask her if it is alright that i say i love you and she says its ok i can do what i want. does this mean anything

2007-12-11 15:05:45 · 12 answers · asked by ralph 1 in Marriage & Divorce

So, I just had my first baby 4 months ago. I've always been thin and didn't gain too much weight and lost most of it quickly, but my hubby never seemed attracted to me.
A few weeks ago, I got really busy with some things, and didn't even realize I hadn't eaten much for like a week, and lost a lot of weight. I'm now back to my pre-pregnancy size because of it. Around that same time my hubby seemed attracted to me again.
I assured myself it was all in my head, but he just told me, out of the blue, that he wasn't attracted to me before, and finally is again. Which made sense, it was very obvious by the way he acted around me. I feel bad because I was pretty much anorexic to get that way, and now I'm terrified to gain any weight because he won't be attracted to me. I know he'll always love and care for me, but it's important to me that my partner is attracted to me.
Ugh, I just feel frustrated, I feel like he's a jerk, but he really is a great husband.

2007-12-11 15:04:36 · 7 answers · asked by nic 3 in Marriage & Divorce

You ask a question they will answer it with another question. Could it be they don't know how to answer it? Or are they just being funny?

2007-12-11 15:01:49 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

ok... i met this guy about a week ago... i kind of knew him before that through another friend, but we never talked until last monday or tuesday. we have hung out a couple times since then... nothing exciting. he kept telling me tonight that he wanted me to cook him dinner. i told him i was too tired tonight... we had been up since 8 this morning when we went to speak with a state senator about the negative action that people are trying to take against pit bulls then i had to work this evening... so i told him i would cook for him tomorrow night. we are just friends as of now... but i have no clue what to cook. he said he doesnt care and will eat anything... so i was thinking spaghetti or bbq chicken... what do you think?

2007-12-11 15:01:39 · 2 answers · asked by **ChArOlEnO** 2 in Singles & Dating

i trully loved her but made a major mistake she broke it off and wants to stop loving me how do i or her move on?

2007-12-11 15:00:20 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

When my bf and I are alone away from the stresses of the real world everything is perfect. But dealing with college applications, parents, unsupportive friends, silly exes, etc etc causes us to fight. I can't imagine a better person for me in the future... but right now its difficult. Should we break up and hope that someday we'll each find another right person at the right time? Or should we stick it out through the hard stuff (probably for several more years) until the timing is better?

2007-12-11 15:00:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I want my bridesmaids to wear deep brown dresses but I know that the groomsmen can't wear brown vests with black tuxes so would it look ok if I just picked out a color that coordinates with brown for their vests? I didn't know if it looks better if the bridesmaids and groomsmen need to match or if it doesn't really matter? If it would look ok to go with a different color, what color would coordinate good with deep brown? I'm getting married in the fall so I'm trying to stick to fall colors...any advice is greatly appreciated....thanks!!!!


Anything but burnt orange...I love burnt orange, I'm using that color for flowers but please not for the vests, it'll look like Halloween with the black tuxes!!!

2007-12-11 14:57:29 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

We broke up over 2 months ago. I ended it due to lack of time. It was a bad break up. I kinda told her I didnt know if I ever loved her and then 2 weeks later hooked up with some new girl. I wanted to remain friends, she said no because if I lied about ever loving her she doesnt want a liar in her life and although I can do what I want the new girl and how fast I moved on was a slap in the face. I did say I love you to her first and she said next girl I say it to mean it because to find out I didnt was worse than being cheated on by someone you love. She said a lot of nasty things. Its been 2 months and I just received an email from her apologizing about the things she said. She said despite how much I hurt her what she said wasnt okay. What do I do, Should I respond to her?

2007-12-11 14:57:28 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Looking for something private, secluded but my husband does not like leaving the US. We went to Cancun for our honeymoon, and I went to the Bahamas for my graduation trip (LOVED IT and can't wait to go back) Just looking for some ideas..thanks!

2007-12-11 14:51:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

is it ok for a girl to be taller than her crush....ok i don't know if he has a crush on me b/c he liked me like 2 or 3 years ago and he still says i am pretty we knoe each other since 10 years ago........but he does say he is too short for me what do you think?

2007-12-11 14:49:39 · 21 answers · asked by JOVIS 1 in Singles & Dating

ok i broke up wtih my ex like 2 months ago, and i like seriously dont want anything to do with him. but he still wants to be friends and stuff. well, he's causing all this drama and i just really want him out of my life because all he does is create drama and he makes me in a worse mood whenever i talk to him. i wanna yell DONT YOU GET WHY I BROKE UP WITH YOU? I WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU! haha but ugh i dont wanna be mean cuz then i will feel bad. what do i do?

2007-12-11 14:47:11 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Before I got breast implants I had Size A breasts.

Which is better?

2007-12-11 14:47:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Look at my pic, am I attractive? I've never had a bf, but all of my friends have, and I know that I am too sarcastic and need to exercise more. But really, am I as ugly as the guys at school say? You can be harsh, I'm used to it.

also (sorry it's a lot, but)...

Ok so, I'm the only person out of all of my friends that has never had a boyfriend. Or anything close, for that matter. I know I'm not the prettiest girl in school, but I do have some traits that some girls say are nice. I have nice eyes and pretty hair. But I am not skinny, and I am really cautious (I have had 3 knee surgeries). Also, I am very sarcastic, and sensitive. What do you think could get guys to notice me, for reasons other than that I can help with homework? And really, if looks don't matter, why have guys said they don't like me because I am ugly? I'd absolutly love some advice! Or just your own thoughts on this.

2007-12-11 14:43:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

woould you ever turn down a girl because of her height?

2007-12-11 14:42:40 · 7 answers · asked by don't gεt mad, gεt glad™ 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-11 14:41:13 · 18 answers · asked by Not my name 2 in Singles & Dating

He like ALWAYS says hey and has a conversation with me but today all he said was "sup" to me. I heard him talking to one of his friends about how tired he was n stuff.. I really thought he liked me.. Do you think he will go back to himself soon?

2007-12-11 14:40:54 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I was @ my best friends today (he knows feel 4him) when I got there he &his roommie played video games for about 45 min. He would talk 2 me on & off but mostly played games . He knew I had to pick my brother up from school, &when he asked me how much time I had left I told him 5min. 3 min later he ended the game ( he was losing anyway but still cut game short). &set next 2me on the couch & turned on sports ( dont remember if he ask me if I was OK watching it ). We talked 4 a little &I told him I would stay a little longer instead of leaving early to get a bite to eat. After he said in a not so welcoming way that it didnt matter I could go eat if I wanted. I told him I was alright and I would stay a lil longer. one min later his cell rings . He got up , ans it, &went to his room. I could c that It would b better 2 go so I told him bye and left. he stop me @ door and asked y I was leaving. I told him 2 eat and pick up bro. he says he cares about me but I feel taken 4 granted at times

2007-12-11 14:36:51 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

This has come up before. I make 60k a year in the computer field. He also makes 60k in the heating and air conditioning business. This issue did come up before we got engaged, but I brushed it off because I am not going to quit my job for him. It hurts me alot when he says I am not a 'good woman' because I want to work. But I had this job when he proposed. What makes him think I am going to quit my job and 'take care of him' in 1950s fashion? He hasn't graduated high school and I have a college degree. Could this have something to do with it? Does he feel inferior? Do I threaten him? It just hurts. Is this a general feeling of most men looking for a wife - that she doesn't have a good job or career?

2007-12-11 14:35:49 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-11 14:30:09 · 11 answers · asked by lady a 1 in Singles & Dating