2007-12-11 15:23:37 · 9 answers · asked by Leonidas 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My Mother divorced my father when I was very young for stupid reasons, and my Father hasn't done anything bad to me or her in his life, and she pulled our family apart and left us broken and without answers. Mothers only care about one thing: being a mother, and that blinds them from everything else in the world, which is why I never want kids nor women who want them. I've only recently been able to spend any amont of time with him, and I can see what divorce has done to a good man. I was never given a choice and was told lies as a child.
2007-12-11 15:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Not from a divorce. I would prefer the father remain in their lives. If they want to opt out of the kids life for good, and the kid does not know them (say, divorce happened under 1 year old), i would say sign over your parental rights and bounce.
If never married AND he wants out then hell yeah, long as he once again signs over rights! And i emphasize that because too many times these guys just don't want to do the hard work, but when the kid is grown and gorgeous and about graduate high school or college, they come running back to claim their "dues" as the other half of the gene pool, and it's 1 of 2 things: a. the kid is so starved for the love of the opposite sex parent that they swallow it up without analyzing why they weren't worth all that gushing the first several years and why the steady parent was left with all the work, or b. the returning parent disrupts a new home life that already provided needed stability without the absent parent's input. And in both case it hurts the parent that suffered the single parent hardships in between to see how hard they had it GETTING the kid to that point, and how easy the absent parent has it...and at that point, it's too late to get them to stay away...if you let them keep the right when they abandoned, they will ALWAYS have the right...and can make your life a living hell with it if they so choose...always wise to look far to the future for the option that gives the most peace and stability, and not let the ups and downs of the present cloud judgment!
2007-12-11 15:44:23 · answer #2 · answered by MissJamaica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the PARENTS were the ones who got the divorce NOT THE KIDS. the children have nothing to do with the issues of the parents. always allow that man to see his kids as long as he is responsible and wants to be a put of there life. the kids need both parents. not just the mother. HELLO. it took the two of ya ll to make them than allow the TWO to raise them. GodBless
2007-12-11 15:32:18 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think most people have problems with the in-laws more than the ex-partner. My former spouse had children. Her mother split her up form her first hubby, and did the same to me.
Her mom can't stop running her life, manipulating the kids, and manipulating the ex-husband.
2007-12-12 00:21:14 · answer #4 · answered by Marvin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on what kind of father he was. My friends ex husband is a deadbeat pervert but she still lets him around her kids because she says he is a good father and good with the kids even though it is destroying her relationship with her new husband who is actually a truly great father on all levels. Women make stupid decisions sometimes just because someone is a sperm donor.
2015-08-19 21:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My children have rights and the most important right they have is to love and be loved by their dad. They didn't ask to be born, but they certainly have a choice as to if they want to see and get to know their dad.
Their dad isn't the top, number one dad, but he isn't a thief, drug addict or abuser, so I have no right to prevent them from seeing him. They will figure it out and even now as they get older they know he isn't the best but they are a part of him and to deny that is an insult to their whole being.
2007-12-11 15:49:47 · answer #6 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not divorced, but if I were, I would want my children to continue to have a good relationship with their father unless he was abusive. Every child should have two parents in his/her life.
2007-12-11 15:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single daddy and would much prefer to have my ex well out of my girls and my life so the constant distruption could discontinue.
2007-12-11 15:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by Judo Chop 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am of the opinion that they do not want the father in their lives if he is an immature jerk who does not use the spell check.
2007-12-11 15:29:33 · answer #9 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋