Right Person, Wrong Time? What Now!?

Question

When my bf and I are alone away from the stresses of the real world everything is perfect. But dealing with college applications, parents, unsupportive friends, silly exes, etc etc causes us to fight. I can't imagine a better person for me in the future... but right now its difficult. Should we break up and hope that someday we'll each find another right person at the right time? Or should we stick it out through the hard stuff (probably for several more years) until the timing is better?

Answer 1

If you stick it out, it could help you to strengthen your relationship
but it could also ruin it
Just talk about it - if you both want to stay together but not fight so much, then yeah, go for it
but if you don't, then just..you know
but this will take a lot of thinking, and make sure you look at all the pros and cons

Answer 2

I take it as you just graduated from high school, still very young. This is the time in your life where you go out in the world and explore. If you feel that you truly want to be with this person till you grow old, then you need to sit down and have a heart to heart conversations about your next steps.

But then again, you're only 18. There are alot of fishes in the sea. Do you go fishing?

Answer 3

Fights happen when you care about someone. If you didn't care what they thought/ did/ said, you wouldn't worry about it and vice versa.

I say get some space in between you but don't break it off if you do want to spend the rest of your lives together. You can be there for one another but not physically be near one another every day. You have an education to work toward.

Answer 4

My advice is probably of no relevance, as I'm practically prehistoric. I suggest that if you really do love this person stay the course so to speak.
In the long term you will be happy. I'm still w/ the smae man I was with at 19 years of age. That was four Grandchildren, but also five children ago.

Answer 5

im going thru the same thing wit my bf...we both have a lotta things goin on, and sometimes we hardly have time for each other, or one of us feels neglected because the other is jus stressed out etc, but we decided we're going to be together no matter what...if anything adversity will make two people even closer

Answer 6

If you fighting, than you are putting too much pressure on the relationship itself. You don't have to step out of the relationship, just step back. don't spend every waking hour with each other. Try to schedule a date and keep it as a date, just the two of you...quality time, not quantity.

Answer 7

everything that is meant to be will happen. if you feel that it is a strain on both of you than end it. the easiest way is to make a list if you can- a positive/negative list of all the aspects of your relationship. if the good outways the bad than stick it out and if not end it for now. its like the saying-if you love something set it free, if it comes back its meant to be

good luck!

Answer 8

if it is that bad than maybe the right thing to do is to break up, rather than causing more fight that would hurt both of you more than breaking up would. but meybe you should stick it out, disscuss why your fighting with him and see how he feels about it.

Answer 9

To much drama for being in school get your education first>drama later>

Answer 10

my personal opinion, if you constantly fight, it's not working out, only if you really love him and feel you can hold toghether through it and make yourselves better for each other