Father trouble?

Question

I can't get rid of this anger for my father. He never admits hes wrong, and constantly says I love you when hes mad at me, although I don't think he does love me. He cheated on my mother, and is turning his family against her. He tells everyone hes getting divorced, and gets women that way, when he hasn't even filed yet. He thinks everything is abuse. My mom slapped his but and he said "PHYSICAL ABUSE!" and she did it in a sexy way. Anyway, he comes home 3 hours late from the time he should be home from work. I tell him that my cousnelor said no relationships until a year after the divorce is finalized, and he says "Well I told you guys in January!" He always HAS to be right, and I can't argue with him because he never gives in when he is defeated. My mother says he is manipulative. I walked in my Aunt's house, and he was talking about my Mother. I get more and more pissed off, and I can't sleep because I am so angry and mad at him. I don't know what to do. I don't want to hate him bec

ause he has a dangerous job and he could die (fireman). But, I do'nt want to forgive him, when he doesn't even believe he did anything wrong. He is driving me crazy. I am getting over stressed in this situation, and I feel like my heart is being pushed out. He doesn't think he did anything wrong, because whatever he does is right. My mother, on the other hand, tells him she hopes he dies, and I can't take it. I am mad at him also, and I threaten him and say I am going to ditch him forever if he gets married or has more kids, or adopts his "BITCHY ******* GIRLFRIEND's" kid. He just doesn't understand. My mother thinks that she has it so bad, yet I tell her that I am hurting so badly, and I just hurt worse when she says, "Oh your father is so late, I am cooking while he is out banging his girlfriend, etc." I am 13 years old, and I have enough stress in my life, and I need this to end. I am moving out with my mother when our house sells, and my brother (who totally supports my father) wil

l be with my father. I don't know what to do. I have tried telling these things to my parents, but they don't understand. We don't have the money to go to counseling at the moment, and I just have so much anger in my body, and it's not like I don't express it, because I do, but no one really cares anymore. Things are not changing, and if they are, they are getting worse. I get to see my counselor in January, when the insurance company can pay for it. I just need help, and I need to get rid of my anger, or find a way to live with this for the next month. I want my father's views to change, so if anyone has suggestions, feel free to tell me. I really just need advice. Thank you,

I will report disgusting answers. I am 13 years old, and just to let everyone know, he is kind and gentle and I WILL NEVER PHYSICALLY HURT HIM.

Answer 1

You need to stop worrying about your father and his character defects and worry about your own.

You cannot control him. All you can do is control yourself. Stop thinking that anything you say or do will ever matter to him.

Now that you have accepted the reality of the situation. Let go of your anger. It does you no good.

Good luck. I will pray for you.

Answer 2

If you are 13 and you go to school, surely there is a teacher you can talk to about this. Many schools have counselors, too, and they are free of charge. If you tell a teacher how stressed out you are, perhaps the teacher can get you some free counseling somehow. Ask. Because it will affect your school work if you are so stressed out all the time.