My step dad has been in my life since I can remember, My dad has always done everything he could to be a part of our lives even though he lived far away..They are both important to me and I don't wanna hurt either one of them but I just don't know who to have walk me down the aisle..Anyone ever been in my shoes?
2007-12-11 15:18:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thank you so much for the answers everyone..I really appriciate it :)
2007-12-11 15:34:20 · update #1
I'm going to have this issue myself next year...
I think it is actually more simple than you are probably making it... if one of the two has been a father figure to you then have him... blood or not... you can't help who has taken care of you and who you love dearly and who became your father...
In my case my step father, whom I do not refer to as my step father, had become my sole care giver and supporter in every way a father should be... and I used to be confused on what I would do until one day I realized it was him that had always been there for me...
If in your case both your fathers have been there EQUALLY, then have them both walk you down the aisle, walk behind you, or walk down the aisle yourself and have them both rise on either side of you at the end of the aisle and say they give you away, as it may be a tight squeeze having three people next to eachother walking down the aisle where you get married...
you wont be able to get the day back, and it needs to be memorable that moment as you are given away, so make sure not to offend the one that has really been there for you... I understand your father was far away but even that being the case that does change who sort of became your father... so just do what YOU want, the day is not for them... unfortunately if you decide you want one person then who ever does not bring you down the aisle will have to respect you and your decision...
g'luck and congratulations on your engagement!!!
2007-12-11 18:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask both to walk you down. You said it clearly in your question that both have been a part of your life. There's nothing wrong with that, if it's true I'm sure each father could appreciate each other and respect the fact that they have a common love...they even made a show about in the 80's (My Two Dads).
Another option would be to have your dad walk you down the aisle; then during your reception, have your mom and step-dad be presented as your parents.
OR
Whoever does walk you down the aisle, have the other do something special and meaningful for your wedding day---help with a certain planning detail, make your veil, etc.
OR
Have your step-dad walk you from outside and into the church, handing you off to your dad (the men can shake hands), you give your kisses, then off with your dad to your groom.
OR
just kidding, I ran out of ideas but was wondering what you're doing for the father-daughter dance? Two songs?
2007-12-11 23:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by EXACTLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your step dad walk you 1/2 way, and your dad walk you the rest of the way. Or the other way around, however you feel most comfortable. However, if they have a good relationship with each other, you could see if they'd be willing to walk you down the aisle together--but that would be unusual. They would BOTH have to be ok with it though.
2007-12-11 23:29:48 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck, walk down the aisle with one on each arm. It's your wedding, you make the rules if you want it to be really meaningful. Besides, this would let you celebrate and share what a full life you have, that you have two dads worth valuing.
I would, however, ask each dad how he feels about this. One might be very disappointed while the other is understanding about giving up the honor. Then, you know what to do.
2007-12-11 23:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by Glenn O. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you are feeling! I am getting married in august of 08 and my dad is walking me half the way and my step dad is meeting us in the middle. They both will hand me off in the end. I am doing this because my dad has always been there but when I was about 13 my mom remarried and my step dad became my best friend. And is still there for me till this day.
2007-12-11 23:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be your biological father who walks you down the aisle. Include your stepdad in some other area of the wedding, such as let him make the first toast. If you're having a dance, dance with him after you dance with your father. Try to include him elsewhere, but the walking down the aisle belongs to your Dad, your stepdad will understand if he is the great dad you say he is.....Good Luck!
2007-12-12 02:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by itzybit_303 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. Two options:
1. Have BOTH of them walk you down the aisle. That is what my daughter-in-law did.
OR...
2. Have your dad (or step-dad) walk you part way down, and then your dad (or step-dad) is waiting for you half-way down the aisle and walks you the rest of the way.
2007-12-11 23:27:57 · answer #7 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people opt to have two people walk them down the aisle or one walks half way down and hands you to the other one who walks you the rest of the way......
2007-12-11 23:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by jossieray 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have your dad walk you halfway down the aisle, and then hand you off to your stepdad to walk you the rest of the way down the aisle.
2007-12-11 23:22:13 · answer #9 · answered by ky-ky 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why not have them both escort you down the aisle, one on either arm. Its your wedding no one says you have to do it by the book. That way no one gets there feelings hurt and they both get to share that special moment with you.
2007-12-11 23:44:44 · answer #10 · answered by Showers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋