I was @ my best friends today (he knows feel 4him) when I got there he &his roommie played video games for about 45 min. He would talk 2 me on & off but mostly played games . He knew I had to pick my brother up from school, &when he asked me how much time I had left I told him 5min. 3 min later he ended the game ( he was losing anyway but still cut game short). &set next 2me on the couch & turned on sports ( dont remember if he ask me if I was OK watching it ). We talked 4 a little &I told him I would stay a little longer instead of leaving early to get a bite to eat. After he said in a not so welcoming way that it didnt matter I could go eat if I wanted. I told him I was alright and I would stay a lil longer. one min later his cell rings . He got up , ans it, &went to his room. I could c that It would b better 2 go so I told him bye and left. he stop me @ door and asked y I was leaving. I told him 2 eat and pick up bro. he says he cares about me but I feel taken 4 granted at times
2007-12-11 14:36:51 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he is taking you for granted. if he cant spend a few mins without the phone or video games then its not really fair to you talk to him and if he cant deal with that then hes not worth your time. So just find out what he feels and go from there but dont let your feelings be ruined for a guy its not worth it
2007-12-11 14:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did he invite you over ? or did you have plans to do something with him ? Did you invite your self over ? is this something you two do frequently , nothing out of the norm . to hang out together..? Does he act differently toward you when ther are other people around ,than when you are alone with him? I dont know the situation, not enough information, but from what i am getting from you and the way you have worded your question that , you are being taken for granet, your feeling that way for a reason , dont ignore your intution. And since it doesnt matter to him if you leave early , how about you just not go there at all for a while , dont chase him ,he knows you like him so he can pretty much do what he wants and you could just be there incase his other plans fall through , ignore him , and see what his reaction is , act like your over him, tell him who you think is cute.... dont make him a priority, find other friends to hang with , Its a big ocean out there and many fish dont settle for being 2nd best , be with someone that thinks your # 1 and treats you that way..... someone who cares about you even before themself.... love will find you . when you least expect it........
2007-12-11 15:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by alice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naw, he definately likes you, and what he did was NOT taking you for granted. He is a little shy, and with his friends there, didnt quite know what to do. He showed you he liked you by sitting next to you, and telling you not to go. He said it didnt matter if you left or not to see if YOU wanted to stay, if YOU liked Him ! Give him time to get used to you. Dont start second guessing him, or you'll lose him, guys dont like a girl with so many complications.
2007-12-11 14:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by kimmy3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may care for you but ill be damned if he could show it huh...My suggestion is to actually sit down with him and tell him that you cant wait forever for him to show you the feelings that he says he has. Maybe today was just an off day? Tell him that if he isnt feelin you like your feelin him then you need to know that so you can find someone that apreciates you and your feelings. Becareful with the situation...You wouldnt want to lose a friend
2007-12-11 14:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by mamaganelle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, hon. You are way too smart for your own good! But, now, what to do? You and I know if he "cared" for you, the game would have ended when you came in, or he would of played you and let the roommate watch. If you can, you need to quit going by. If he calls, tell him he was rude. When he says he is sorry, tell him to not do it again. Then don't go by his place again. If he calls, be nice to him. Make him want to be with you, not expect you to be with him. Good Luck (and listen to your self)
2007-12-11 14:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by T C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell? It's not like it was a date or something. Just don't overanalyze everything so much. He may be acting somewhat cold to you to try and help your feelings btw. Either way, interrupting a videogaming session between two guys generally ends up with the female being hurt. :p
Going from experience though, leave him alone. I started liking, and fell in love, with my best friend and it is SERIOUSLY something you need to get away from. Your feelings WILL NOT go away. If you leave and come back so will your feelings. Just stop talking to him because it WILL blow up unless he starts to like you.
2007-12-11 14:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by Chad D 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well short of saying "I'm not interested in you" he did everything he could to show it!! He played video games, chatted on the phone and watched sports rather than spend time with you!!
It's not rocket science he is not interested move on!!
2007-12-11 14:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by Dark Fairy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummm...i don't like the sound of this guy. he stopped you in front of the door! he is controlling your every mood. needs to know where you are going, what you are doing....i say dump him. you don't need some dude controlling your life. be an independent individual! you don't need him. he is obviously treating you like crap. think about it, he rarely acknowledged you were even there and when you were about to leave, he stops you from walking away!!! sounds like a control freak to me. you were the only one making the effort to spend time together, what did he do?!...NOTHING! just trust me, you should dump him and fast! i know his type, no good. (crappy bf.) if he really cared about you, as you do for him...he would make a greater effort to keep this relationship going. do the right thing.
i hope this helps.
~Steeney Maldini
2007-12-11 14:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He did not take you for granted. He was totally rude and ignored you. Then tried to guilt you into staying.
This behavior is called abuse testing. he is trying to see hoew much abuse you will tolerate. he will eventually become physically abusive if you stay.
Dump this guy now and don't look back.
2007-12-11 14:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. He is pretty much taking the whole dating thing for granted, and seems a Bit childish.Find one that has time for you and really cares.
2007-12-11 14:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by ©hisblackpearl™ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋