I was at my best friends wedding when I hooked up with his bestman. The entire thing came completely out of left field, i didnt think that he noticed me in that way. He's in the air force and few back to FL a few weeks ago. We have continued to talk and there are plans for me to go and see him during spring break. We talk roughly twice a week for at least an hour either on the computer or phone, but I feel that I am always the one who has to establish contact first. At first when i would text him he would write right back and now sometimes he will never answer. I'm afraid that he only wants me to visit him so that he can get a piece. I told him earlier that I didn't want to be just another booty call and his reply was that he doesn't have any at all (i was told otherwise). I want to like him and would like a relationship out of him but only if he wants one as well. Otherwise I want to just take what little feelings i have for him and pull out now before I get even more attached. HELP
2007-12-11 15:28:58 · 12 answers · asked by Kenya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be direct and up front with him about how you feel about this. If he can't do the same, or has different priorities than yours, then move on. Otherwise, give it a shot and see what happens. Best wishes!
2007-12-11 15:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by legendofslipperyhollow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to be very blond, as I don't know in what other way to help you.
1) "I was at my best friends wedding when I hooked up with his bestman"
-That was your mistake.
2) "I told him earlier that I didn't want to be just another booty call"
-Unfortunately that is what you are. By doing No.1 you became No. 2.
3) "I want to like him and would like a relationship out of him but only if he wants one as well. Otherwise I want to just take what little feelings i have for him and pull out now before I get even more attached. "
-Wise words. I think that is what you should do. Stop calling him and learn from your past experiences. Don't do that again and you might have an actual chance of having a relationship with somebody else in the near future.
You seem to have very good intuition. Use it. Good luck.
2007-12-11 23:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
One thing I have learned about long distance relationships is that they hardly work. It does work if both people are willing to put in the time to make it work. And another thing most guys that are still in the service, if they are not in a serious relationship they tend to sleep around a lot. Lets put it this way every time they go on leave they have to get a lot of shots encase they get a std or to prevent getting any stds. And if he really does like you and wants to start something then he will find the time to contact you even if he is busy. And those guys do get every busy so if you don't hear from him right away don't be surprised. it might take him a week or two to contact you after you stop calling him. And don't call till he calls you. make him at least work for it.
2007-12-11 23:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by sarah m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre not going to be able to develop a relationship with him unless you spend more time with him. Go visit him and see how it goes. Just because you visit dosent mean you have to have sex with him. I would not contact him for a few days and see if he contacts you, some men shy away from aggressive females, they like to do the chasing.
2007-12-11 23:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by bree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
. "Otherwise I want to just take what little feelings i have for him and pull out now before I get even more attached."
Not bad idea!
You´re the one showing interest, he´s not...Don´t call him, don´t make moves,,,Let him do what he´s sopposed to do, if he wants something nice with you, you´ll know it...I guess that´s the only way,,,
Good luck!..
2007-12-11 23:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by jackielafemme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer: You're just booty call. It's time to move on.
2007-12-11 23:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would stop calling first. Wait a while, and if he really wants to talk to you, then he will call. But let HIM call YOU. don't keep chasing him.
2007-12-11 23:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on.
2007-12-11 23:32:49 · answer #8 · answered by Rich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait and see if he contacts you. If not then you have your answer.
2007-12-11 23:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think hes worth your time because he probably he has another woman in florida and hes not interested in you.
2007-12-11 23:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by ★♥Jocy♥★ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋