ugh ex boyfriend drama?

Question

ok i broke up wtih my ex like 2 months ago, and i like seriously dont want anything to do with him. but he still wants to be friends and stuff. well, he's causing all this drama and i just really want him out of my life because all he does is create drama and he makes me in a worse mood whenever i talk to him. i wanna yell DONT YOU GET WHY I BROKE UP WITH YOU? I WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU! haha but ugh i dont wanna be mean cuz then i will feel bad. what do i do?

Answer 1

Don't worry about being "mean". I used to be known for being too nice and things like this would happen to me--ex boyfriend stalkers! So you'll have to be mean. Don't answer any of his phone calls and act very uninterested and in a hurry if you have to run into him and speak. It seems "mean" but you are taking care of yourself that way so it's not being "mean" it's respecting yourself.

Answer 2

He's an ex for a reason. Sometimes distance is what will make a friendship with an ex possible. Distance yourself. You don't need to be mean about it. He just needs to understand that you are moving a different direction with your life. Hang out with your other friends, take an extra day to call him back if he calls. It may be a slow process, but it is a way of gently lettling him know he isn't the center of your universe anymore.

Answer 3

just tell him that you've moved on. You understand his feelings and concerns, but hey, you need time to breath from the relationship. I mean, he can't be with you all the time. You need time alone to collect your thoughts. If he wants to talk sometimes, then that's cool. Being friends still is a good thing, but you can't be the leaning shoulder every single time he has a problem.You have a life of your own to live too and that you don't need any excess baggage that's going to complicate things all the time.

Answer 4

This is an issue that I have faced countless times. What you do is, distance yourself from him, ignore him, he wants you to get mad, he likes the attention that you are giving him, the best thing to do is just ignore him and stay away, over time it will click to him that "okay this chick isnt into me anymore", so dont talk to him and respond when he annoys you.

-DrX

Answer 5

Perhaps if you told him how you feel and asked that he not contact you anymore, he might get the hint. If he doesn't listen, tell him to leave you alone or you will consider him a stalker and will call the cops on him.

Answer 6

You have to put your foot down and let him know that you don't want to be friends.
You are not being mean by letting him know that in a firm way. You're really being mean by not telling him how you really feel.

Answer 7

I'D TELL HIM THAT YOU BROKE UP WITH HIM BECAUSE OF HIS STUPID DRAMA. AND IF HE'S NOT GOING TO STOP WITH HIS CHILDISH DRAMA THEN YOU DON'T SEE THE POINT TO EVEN BEING FRIENDS. BECAUSE NOTHING HAS REALLY CHANGED. HE'S STILL CAUSING DRAMA... WHY KEEP SOMEONE AROUND THAT MAKES YOUR DAY CRAPPY. TELL HIM TO TAKE A HIKE

Answer 8

well tell him very sternly that you dont want to be friends but if he doesnt get a clue yell at him and you wont feel bad

Answer 9

Girl sometimes it's just better to be blunt!! Some people you just have too so they get things through there head, maybe after you do that he'll get it.

Answer 10

UGH! that just happend to me like 2 weeks ago. Its like he was trying to make me mad but this is what i did. I started talking to him about guys i liked (even if i didnt like what ever guy that much) he started to feel really weird about it and he stoped talking to me. idk if it will work on everyone but it hert him to much for me to talk about other guys so he just left me alone. Haha who know its worth a try.