I dated this girl for a year and a half and I was head over heels in love with her. I thought that we were going to get married and spend the rest of our lives together. However, about 6 months after we started dating she felt like certain things were missing, but the thing this she didn't tell me about those feelings until a year later. and when she finally did tell me about them she never even gave me the chance to try and fix things and she dumped me right on the spot. I know that she's not seeing anyone else, but I'm trying to figure out that after a year and a half of being together that she not tell me her feelings, break up with me and not even give me a chance to try and make a difference. Any thoughts?
2007-12-11 23:27:02 · 7 answers · asked by frankfurter27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have not got what it takes to win the heart of the girl so get over it and move on ~~
2007-12-11 23:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems you both are learning how to communicate in a relationship.
You didnt mention what these Things were. So it seems those things were important to her and she felt she wont get them from you.
I have a feeling you have been trying to get back together with her. So I would stop. Let her see you talking to someone else and see if she gets jealous.
You need to have a plan on how you are going to deliver on those Things and make sure it is something you can do and be able to tell her exactly how you are going to do them.
Start by acting on them now and doing them now. Actions speak louder than words.
2007-12-12 07:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by sammy3256 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'There are three kinds of lovers/friends, leaves, branches and roots.' Leaves are the ones that toss in the wind and come and go like bad weather. They're the ones that you'd go out and party with but they'd leave you stranded if they found a better proposition.
Yeah, we all know those.
Branches are the friends who are weak and they bend in the breeze. They want to help but every time they let you down when you need them. They are usually self-centered and they lack a spine when the chips are down.
Then come the roots. These are the ones that are in it for the Long Haul. They grow deep and they hold you up when you need it, strap you down when you act out, and they hang tight no matter what the circumstance. Everyone needs at least one root in their life.
Seasons come and go (the leaves that die on the tree they aren’t coming back) but the roots of the tree will always be there.
I was just about to write a blog about losing someone special in your life and how hard it is not meaning by death. Meaning like they said something wrong or you said something wrong or did something wrong. And how some wish they could go through time and not do what they did to still have the person in there life. And a long with that I was going to add a few lyrics by some artist like R.Kelly hands of time, baby face nobody knows but me. I think I would leave it at that since I change my mind I stumble across something online that talks about people coming in and out of your life which is so true. So from now on I know people come and leave out of your life for a reason.
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you will know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person or people involved; and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships, and areas of your life
2007-12-12 07:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by mr MAN 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At least she didn't keep you hanging on a thread for another 1 1/2 years...... or waited until you got engaged !!
Maybe she just really wasn't that into you, and thought she'd give it a try....sorry dude, you just have to accept her decision and get over it - jusy as many girls have to when their guys dump them for no reason with no warning....
2007-12-12 07:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She was probably afraid of loosing you. I'm like that too. I'd be afraid of confrontation. Men can't be mind readers, some women expect them to be. No one deserves it but... you know. Let her breathe for a bit, if you want to get back with her. Give her some space and then see if she wants to talk about it. But if she's like me, she'll end up holding something against you, even though its not your fault, because she kept it to herself for so long.
2007-12-12 07:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girls are strange but i thibk she fell out of love just didnt have the guts to tell you she probably saw and knew how much you loved her what was really missing was love from her she probably gave up pretending.you just have to be strong and move on.All the best
2007-12-12 07:35:41 · answer #6 · answered by OBASAM 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she's one who can't communicate her feelings;and on that note ask yourself who's lost is it ? yours or hers ? I would say her lost if she can't open up and talk to you;Give her space but don't wait to long you don't deserve the treatment she gave you;nobody does
2007-12-12 07:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by Juanita T 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋