That drags the children into arguments over the phone. I moved 1000 miles away from him and now he is moving here to get closer to the kids. But he has never been around much to raise them. He worked all of the time out of time and when he did come home everything else came first and he still has control issues. I filed a petition that he couldn't contact me for 1 year b/c the children are old enough to talk to him alone over the phone. He begged me back over Thanksgiving and the feelings have been killed over the years. When I said NO he is trying to tear up the peace in my home. The kids are happy and want to be here b/c the yelling has ceased from him and he still keeps digging and digging at me through them. What are your views on this. Thanks in advance =)
2007-12-11 23:39:57 · 10 answers · asked by Sparkles 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I went through this with a bf(read my question answer it)so i think its just he feels like ur his control issue & its like he feels i wont let u be without me & i wont let u be with someone else
i went through same thing i am moving to another country lol
2007-12-11 23:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a good lawyer. There are avenues you can take when it comes to this kind of controlling behavior. Perhaps supervised visits if he decides he wants to see the kids. There are things that he is and is not allowed to say to the children according to the law. If he scares you personally, then get a restraining order. There is no reason that you have to have personal contact with him.
2007-12-11 23:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by erin A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be the father of your children, but that doesn't give him the right to use the kids to get at you. Does he pay child support for his kids? If so he has a right to see them, And you can get help from a lawyer to set up some type of visitation, And I would certainly request supervised visits, as he seems to use your kids. If you need to, get another restraining order. If he as controlling as you say he is, things could get nasty with him, you need to move quickly & get the courts involved. I wish you the best, keep us updated please. Good Luck
2007-12-12 00:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Blu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call a lawyer and see what you can do.If you have soul custody and he doesn't pay child support then i do believe you have the right to deny any communication between him and the children.
2007-12-11 23:56:17 · answer #4 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a couple thugs to beat the livin' crap out him. Back in the day it'd be called a "blanket party".
2007-12-12 01:14:59 · answer #5 · answered by nottwoshort 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems that he hasnt moved on yet he still "owns" you ..
it will take a while .. cut him off .. change address / phone number.. u can do it if u want to !!
2007-12-11 23:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Dave L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Contact a therapist and your attorney about what avenues are availble to you.
2007-12-11 23:44:03 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't answer the phone... don't answer his letters... sounds to me like he wants to move in w/ you, lol! don't let him... just ignore him for now, see what his next step will be... keep us updated... good luck...
2007-12-11 23:44:59 · answer #8 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Throw him off a very high bridge.
2007-12-12 00:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by bootsontheroad 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd move with my kids and "forget" to tell him.
2007-12-12 01:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋