Family & Relationships - 9 December 2007

As a capable adult I have had to tell my parents to back off at one point or another. But I have come across others who are abel adults who parents don't have ant boundaries. For example:
Their parents have keys to their place.
Parents calling all hours of the day and night.
Parents comming over without calling all hours of the day and night.

2007-12-09 01:34:33 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I find that as an adult, I hate being around my parents. They are pushy and try to run my life. Now that my daughter is living with me, they think that they can make decisions for her also. They don't respect my authority as a parent especially my mother.

My daughter feels that my mother also tries to compete with her other grandmother and constantly makes comments about her. My mother is emotionally immature and makes funny, rude comments about me in front of my daughter too.

Do most people feel this way? My parents are very set in their ways so I don't think that they will change. I am trying my best to have limited contact with them, but its the holidays....

Any other suggestions...

2007-12-09 01:32:28 · 4 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family

ok so the other night i called my husband at 5:20ish to ask him what time he was going to be home, he said around 7. I said, isn't that lovely, you've been working late everynight this week. He said that's what i get paid for. So, I took his daughter to meet her biological mom and called him at 7:10 to see if he was home so he could DVR frosty the snowman. I called both of his cell phones 4-5 times each and I called his office phone. I was starting to get worried. So i finally got ahold of him. I asked him where he was and he said where he was which was right down the road from his work. He said that he had just left. So, I said WOW, i thought you were going to be home by 7, isn't that great. So he got home from work at 8:00, we hardly spoke 3 words to each other. Finally when he came to bed, all i asked was why do i smell alcohol. Didn't accuse him of anything, just a little question. He snapped back, its probably me. I went to the bar after work. so i am left thinking....

2007-12-09 01:32:15 · 15 answers · asked by just don't know 1 in Marriage & Divorce

OK so i met a bloke lastnight (hes good mates with my friend) at the end of the night he asked me if i liked any of his group i said yes, you-and he liked me to he said. a few of us went back to his mates to watch the boxing and he was telling me he fancied me and i was gorgous etc. we had a cuddle watching the fight then we all went home at 6 as he had to be in work in 2 hrs!!! so i text him (i know i should play it cool and i normally do! but he seemed keen and i liked him so i thought stuff it! but he hasnt replied!!

i think he has come out of a long relationship and we live about an hour or more apart but we both drive.

2007-12-09 01:31:37 · 14 answers · asked by BscHons 6 in Singles & Dating

I love a woman very much, and she loves me. But I hurt her by being in contact with my ex, who ran off and now came back. I only spoke to her (ex) on line never met her. My gf found out and hurt her very much. Stupid me, wanted to know why my ex left. My gf after finding out again, went on-line met someone, and went out ontwo coffee, dates. This upset me, because I never went out with anyone. Just talk online. My gf tell me he's is only a friend and no attraction. Told me she needs to think, but call her. Im really concern because I really love her. I don't love my ex. Should I give her space and wait for her answer, or move on, because she found someone.
Thanks

2007-12-09 01:29:28 · 8 answers · asked by napolee_nj 2 in Singles & Dating

what does that mean for teenagers? does it mean she's depressed?

2007-12-09 01:25:44 · 10 answers · asked by cherylynn g 2 in Family

he told me he thinks im ignoring him! i'm not!

2007-12-09 01:24:32 · 10 answers · asked by jordan. <3 3 in Singles & Dating

I've been seeing this guy for a few months. He's a total sweetheart, handsome, sincere,dedicated,hard working,etc but he's just not the one for me. I'm 31, he's 22 and already he is very attached. He calls all of the time and wants to spend all of his free time with me, tells me he's inlove with me..It's a bit overwhelming considering that I have a full time career and a 7yr old to raise. He thinks I need a man around the house and help with my child because I'm a woman. When in truth, I don't. Here's my delima. He immigrated to this country 2 yrs ago, has one brother who resides in another state. The rest of his family resides in South America. He's only knows 5 words in English..max and there are days when I just don't feel like speaking Spanish. Lately, he has been pressuring me to define our relationship..which I don't want to do. Furthermore, I'm unfullfied sexually- he just doesn't do it for me. I want to continue too see other men. I don't want to hurt him..any suggestions?

2007-12-09 01:23:27 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, i know it sounds silly but hey nothing wrong in having fun with idea`s once in a while, anyway mine would be Betty Cooper from Archie`s comic,

wonder if there`s women like her around ,

Ok your turn

2007-12-09 01:21:45 · 7 answers · asked by Spiritual Player 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-09 01:19:24 · 23 answers · asked by Alex B 1 in Singles & Dating

Ok...so last night I went to a dance and i met this kid...he is really cute and i danced with him for basically the whole night...finally the night came to an end and i gave him a hug and then he gave me a kisss...and i let him...is it too soon or no?

2007-12-09 01:19:14 · 10 answers · asked by Enitsirhc 1 in Singles & Dating

I love my boyfriend. I would love to move in with him. ( I kinda already do because I sleep there every night) Right now his roommate is moving out and he lives in a two bedroom apartment. Hes paying about $1,200 for rent, utilities, food etc a month. He can afford it on his own but is really upset that he will be stressed and tight for money. He wants me to move in. I currently go to a university and work a crappy part time job that pays me about $150 a week. I have been able to afford gas, food, and odds and ends throughout the week AND put aside a little into savings. Also, moving into a one bedroom apartment for less would be excellent, but all ive seem to find are studion apartments...and he wouldnt like that. Help!

2007-12-09 01:15:51 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I'm 14 yrs old now because TODAY's my birthday!
Okay, I asked this guy out to be my boyfriend, which was CRAZY of me to do [I'm a girl too but my friends said If I'm desperate, I can ask a guy out] & I liked that guy & I wanted a boyfriend for my birthday for the 1st time. I wrote him a letter in homeroom & someone told me his name was Steven Gilbert so I wrote his name on the letter & told everyone that I liked him & asked everyone what was his personality like, I even drew pretty hearts all over it! But turns out, his last name wasn't Gilbert, no wonder everyone was saying ew. I even screamed his name outside the BOYS bathroom to the wrong guy becuase one of my guy friends said he was in there! Wow, I must've been high on suger on Friday. I was searching for Steven the WHOLE day & at last, I gave him the letter & I told him to read it in front of me so I can get the answer be4 I leave for the bus. I was holding on to his friend's arm dying of embaressment & my face turning red!

2007-12-09 01:09:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

How do you get past a devastating heartbreak? My mother and I had just began to get close and now she's gone. I have my husband and my sister and brothers, but I feel so along, please can someone tell me what can I do?

2007-12-09 01:09:08 · 8 answers · asked by Charlie 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Do you think its cheating if she is hanging out with them, no kissing or anything...just hanging out.....But then in a couple of months the 2 of you break up and they are dating.....

2007-12-09 01:08:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My ex and I dated 4 years. It started perfect, but during that time, he did not treat me well. Very distant, lazy. Neglected my feelings and needs.

HE broke up with ME and continued to shut me out. I was devestated. He had my self-esteem so diminished, I was lost. He wasn't there for me while I was hurting.

All of the sudden he calls to hang out-- I blew him off, and things are COMPLETELY different. He is being obsessive, saying I was his everything, he regrets how he treated me, I was the best thing that happened to him. Visiting, calling, letters everyday.

Insists that the way he was, wasn't the "REAL" him-- that he's been spending all of this time trying to change. He's very depressed. His mother called me worried, trying to stick up for him as well.

But I'm DONE with that. He caused me to be unhappy, anxious, insecure wreck for 3 yrs and I'm better off without him. I feel they have no right to make me feel guilty for not giving him a 2nd chance.

Do people ever REALLY change?

2007-12-09 01:08:03 · 12 answers · asked by autumn 1 in Singles & Dating

im 5 weeks pregnant and broke up with my x/fiance 2 weeks ago becoz' he wasn't faithful to me. after my consultation with the doctor i called him & told him the news, coz when we were together that's what we talked about in most of our conversations, starting a family of our own, now he wants me to abort becoz' we are longer together, is it because he's shocked or he wants nothing to do with me? this is both our first pregnancy & it really kills me 2 even think he would suugest that, knowing how i feel about abortions. its been 4 days since we last spoke and i haven't heard anything from him. Pls help im really stressed.

2007-12-09 01:05:39 · 25 answers · asked by mole 1 in Marriage & Divorce

my boyfriend told me that he love me more than other girls, after eleven months i find out that he's hurtting me, and it seems i am even stupid girlfriend!!

2007-12-09 01:04:40 · 11 answers · asked by nasjtassia 1 in Singles & Dating

were you able to pay your rent. how did you feel and most importantly were you happy.

2007-12-09 01:04:12 · 5 answers · asked by Ruby 1 in Family

2007-12-09 01:01:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-12-09 01:01:10 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I hooked up with a guy last month. Since then, he's been calling, texting me, leaving msgs. We really click but he goes to college 2 hrs from me.

Thurs nite I went to visit friends there again. He called that day. Said he would be w guys, but wanted to see me. I didnt want it to seem like I was all about him-- so I went out with the girls, played it cool. He was texting and looking for me, found me at the bar. He was very funny, flirty and we danced and hung out all nite. He kissed me..

Walking home, he asked to hold my hand. I joked about being a booty call and he said, "if thats all you were, why would i call u just to talk and love every sec of it?" said if i lived there, he could see us hanging out.

i went to his place, hooked up. AMAZING. stayed up til 4 talking and cuddling. hung out the next day. he texted that day. i sent an email yesterday evening saying i had a fun time w him-- but no response yet. my friends say he's a sweet guy, but i'm thinking i got played. thoughts?

2007-12-09 01:00:05 · 14 answers · asked by autumn 1 in Singles & Dating

I found a posting of a question that happened to me. I don't know the person, and they didn't say my name but I think they're talking about me. Should I take it personally or be offended? How would you feel or what would you do?

2007-12-09 00:59:24 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-12-09 00:58:40 · 12 answers · asked by rebarredforlife 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

the best thing is to throw nice cooked dishes at them? They snap them midair, and after a reasonable amount of snapping become calm and normal again?

2007-12-09 00:57:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

There's this gal that I like but we are just friends (i told her last year but some things might change now).
She showed some interests...
a few days we're quiet but today she started by teasing me and conversation...keeps teasing me...and eye contacts...she seemed interested in what i do! once she doodled on my paper w/o my knowledge...and once just robs a paper off my hand and say, "let'see what he says..." and smiles teasingfully...but in person she talks more than texts...today i met her in a campus presentation out of the city and she waved to me first and somehow i can feel her looking...

But, there's this other guy who likes her (i don't know how she feels) but she and that boy doesn't talk much at school now...she doesn't make attempt to see him...she was like trying to avoid him (once she went up when he was waiting in front of lift) but i do not know if she chatted with him online...in the past sometimes they talk and she responds (seems interested in talking though)...a boy who once liked her (but he gave up) told me that i'm hopeless...and that other boy is too good...and he also said she's with him (i strongly doubt it)...but they never talk now (they did a few months ago! and he has approached her for more than a year, but they now don't talk in person much)!!!
should i trust what the guy said and give up?

2007-12-09 00:54:33 · 4 answers · asked by Tanya Kenapa 1 in Singles & Dating

Hot as in everyone time you go to a pub, someone comes up to greet you to try and start a relationship.

2007-12-09 00:50:37 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

if they live about 10 miles from you.. I haven't visited my grandpa in over 2 months.. and I think about Him all the time..the guilt has really built up over the period I haven't bothered to see him.. even though my mum goes at least once a week.. I feel so ashamed if I do go to the Home to see him because I'm a rubbish granddaughter not even botherin to go in when my mum goes in.. and i just cant face up to him cause I feel so guilty..?

2007-12-09 00:50:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

So, I had plans to go to school in cali, that got cut short because of me losing my grip in calin not getting the help i needed and so forth. I get back and try to get back with my gf and i find out that she wants to be friends. And im ok with that, except my actions when i left the chat room says different. I said to...well it was said in anger and confusion. And i didn't mean it. Will she understand and still want to be my friend or ... gulp....is it over :(

2007-12-09 00:49:57 · 3 answers · asked by Sun And Sky 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-12-09 00:48:39 · 3 answers · asked by mikamine 1 in Other - Family & Relationships