Family & Relationships - 9 December 2007

we just knew each other 7 days ago...

2007-12-09 03:03:57 · 14 answers · asked by jipsie 2 in Singles & Dating

Ok I am trying to move on with my life and my soon to be ex husban is emailing me tell me that he still loves me and he cant get his mind off of me. He left me for another girl and moved away and now he cant stop thinking about me. I dont know if he really meens it or he is just playing me. What should I do?

2007-12-09 03:03:11 · 19 answers · asked by elaine c 1 in Marriage & Divorce

So i have a personal dilemma. My brother is a junior in college and just came home this weekend for christmas break. My parents were also out of town... So anyway, I discovered that he smokes pot... all the time. He bought a new bowl bubbler thing and excitedly showed it to me. I didn't know what to say... I just kind of laughed it off.. but it has been REALLY bothering me lately. Don't get me wrong. I'm no angel... but the fact that he doesn't see any problem with smoking makes me question his judgement. Yesterday I also saw him popping adderall...

My parents aren't strict at all. They let us drink alcohol (and we're not 21) but I think they would have a problem with my brother spending their money on drugs...Should I tell my parents? Where do I draw the line of being a good sister or a good daughter?

2007-12-09 03:01:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

So heres the story, Im a 26 yr old lesbian and have been with my girlfriend whos 47for 2 yrs. We live together and all we do is fight. She is very selfish & verbally abusive. We have almost a love/hate relationship. Last yr we were having some problems & with no notice she tells me shes moving to Bklyn & that I should go home to my Mom's. I was devastated. I wasnt read to end the rel. &said I would move with her to Bklyn. Since Ive been here we still fight so much & I resent her for how &what she did to me. Shes always putting me down saying Im immature, she cant wait to get rid of me, I'm crazy, etc then when she calms down she tels me that Im such an angel & I'm so good & that she knows she gets crazy. I cant take it anymore. I am so depressed-I feel dead inside. I go to work &come home &go to sleep. Friends keep telling me to leave but I feel so weak. She even tells me to leave if Im so unhappy. I guess im waiting for her to change. What should I do? How do I get strong?

2007-12-09 02:58:38 · 14 answers · asked by DreamGrl 1 in Marriage & Divorce

She's been in my life for about ten years.
We've been friends for about seven of those, but I feel like I pull the weight of the friendship.
She's cute, but not gorgeous. I tell her of how pretty I think she is. Especially when she's down on herself.
I did tell her I had a crush on her once, so I guess she knows what I think and feel about our friendship.
So even though she can be kind and caring, she can also be manipulative, because she knows I will do anything for her.
I don't want anyone else, I want her... Why???

2007-12-09 02:58:13 · 16 answers · asked by Kari 4 in Friends

I used to like my in laws a lot when I first got married, but now they seem to be getting on my nerves. Don't get me wrong, I love them, but they are just rude sometimes.

By in laws, I don't mean my husband's parents, I am referring to his extended family. They make such rude comments about everything and I never feel like being around them. Whenever we have family get togethers, I always hang around with my husband's younger cousins (who are like, 5-10 years younger than me lol.) And everyone makes fun of me that I hang out with the kids. I just feel like the children have much more intelligent things to talk about then the adults. All they every talk about it when are you going to have kids, you should have kids, why dont you have kids, blah blah blah.

2007-12-09 02:56:32 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

i just dont' feel close to her at all, she hasn't really done anything wrong . in fact she has pretty much done NOTHING

i am just feeling estranged from the relationship that we had.

She hasn't bought the dress yet and she is no money out of pocket. I just feel as if the friendship is really coming to an end just due to lack of interest with each other and heading in seperate directions in life.

what can i do , how can I say anything, am am only having two girls stand for me so it is importaint that I feel close and when i look back I don't want ot be like what ever happen to that girl.

2007-12-09 02:50:21 · 6 answers · asked by la de da 3 in Singles & Dating

even on a first date - i am constantly knit picking at everything they do or say ... and i feel like i expect so much out of someone before ive even started dating them ...

2007-12-09 02:48:59 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, I found some items around the house that have to do with or near my husbands stuff. I asked him about all the stuff and he swears he did not purchase nothing. Well to i point i believe him but yet i dont.
We now he is being really disrespectful to me and does not trust me any more.
I asked him what he wants me to do so he can trust me and respect me more all he says was NOTHING
I dont know what to do?
any suggestions

2007-12-09 02:48:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Well, as we all know nothing in life last forever. Which is why it makes life ever more sweet. With that said, how would you like people to remember you as, WAY after your death.

2007-12-09 02:46:34 · 13 answers · asked by Beamer 3 in Singles & Dating

and according to the parenting plan, we are supposed to have one week with the kids then he has one week. Because of his job, he cannot take them during his week and I feel like I should either be compensated as a "babysitter" or he should hire someone to care for them. He has been dating an absolute selfish needy "b*tch" who keeps demanding more of his time. This is tearing my oldest daughter up, she is hurting so bad. It kills me to see her hurt and I've become very bitter with him for doing what he's doing and not realizing his actions effect others. So instead of owning up to it, he's like fine I'll pay you off. Is this wrong?

2007-12-09 02:45:44 · 10 answers · asked by ooolala 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i am 20 years old. me and my husband just had our first baby boy in september. i was with my hubby for about 2 years before we got married and had a baby. Everything was so perfect. I love my baby boy to death there is no question about that but i had problems with depression after the c-section. My life changed, my body was cut and im still worrying about making it back into my pre-pregnancy body. Im still fighting with the depression. I talked to my doctor and he recomended other things before he gave me med. to help out. Latley i just seem to snap at EVERYTHING. my temper is just off the wall. everything my husband does pisses me off. its not his fault and he tries sooo hard to help but nothing seems to work.
i feel like we have grown apart and im just not happy with anything i do. I dont want to push him to the point of divorce so im just wondering if anybody reading this went through depression and how did you cope? its been 3 months. somethings gotta give.

2007-12-09 02:39:40 · 8 answers · asked by AC 3 in Marriage & Divorce

hi all,
how do i get out of going to a wedding?its my brothers and i hate all the wedding type stuff and have to get out of it.

ideas much appreciated!!! thanks in advance xx

2007-12-09 02:38:56 · 13 answers · asked by proud_scot 1 in Weddings

im 14.. and my mom doesnt let me go anywere!! i want to go to the mall with a few friends today and she said no because their are going to be to many people.. i told her that it is a mall and there is going to people there... i wasnt beinng rude or anyhing... so im writting a letter.. so far it says.....


I don’t get why I can’t go to the mall with *name*. It’s not like I’m going to go up to people and start talking to them. I’ve already walked around an amusement park by myself, and you trusted me and the other people there. The mall is the same, if not a little safer. Mom it’s a mall, there are always people there.


what can i do to convence me to go!!!!
and i dont want to stay home cause... i need to get out of this house
all my firends are responsable

2007-12-09 02:38:25 · 7 answers · asked by im_suuweeet 2 in Friends

2007-12-09 02:37:42 · 4 answers · asked by joe arie 1 in Friends

he was from Four Holes, Oklahoma?

2007-12-09 02:35:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my best friend's brother died before 3 years ago...yesterday while we were at the school ,i over-heard him crying in the boys bathroom ..then he got out and his eyes were red and he looked like hell ! i asked him what's going on? he said my brother, i miss him , i want him back! then he started crying and he totally broke down !!

please can you help me?
what can i do to make him calm down?!

2007-12-09 02:35:44 · 24 answers · asked by Mrs.Leonardo 4 in Friends

He's 35 years old and I've had a crush on him for about a year now. I think I'm in love...I just...can't stop thinking about him. He's on my mind constantly. It hurts sooo much to think I don't have a chance with him...it's just...UGH. :( I can't keep my feelings inside any longer. I'm so lovesick it's not even funny. I can't even THINK straight...I like...cry about him all the time. I don't know. I just don't know. What should I do? Should I tell him my feelings? I can't just 'get over' him...I'm in love! I really, really am...:( Sorry if this is confusing. I'm really tired right now. *sigh*

2007-12-09 02:35:22 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

i had to ask my friend something and she was hanging out with her guy friend. i tryed to ask but then her guy friend said i don't like her and she doesn't like me and left why did he say that?

2007-12-09 02:34:33 · 6 answers · asked by HopeSo 2 in Friends

My sons father and I are not married and no longer together and I just wanted to know if he has just as much rights as i do in things like where i take our son to live if we move, do i really have to let him visit if he doesn't help take care of him? If he does have those rights, how could i go about getting full custody because he isn't capable right now of taking care of himself and i know he can't do for our son as he needs. His name is on his birth certificate and I hope that doesn't make a difference.

2007-12-09 02:33:33 · 9 answers · asked by curious 1 in Family

I have been dating this guy for 2 months and we go out about every saturday night to his local bar. He does not drink but has ALOT of female friends that he works with. Last night at the bar a female came up to him and said that she missed his nightly massages that he gave to her and others while at work. Then I seen him blow a kiss to another girl across the bar. He also calls them baby. Should this concern me as far as getting into a serious relationship with this man. Yes you can say that this made me a bit jealous as I have never seen this side of him. He does get phone calls and text messages from other woman as well when we r together and says that they r just friends. We are both divorced and in our early 40s. Am I just being an immature and jealous girlfriend here? Or should I be concerned?

2007-12-09 02:30:13 · 14 answers · asked by debbie 2 in Singles & Dating

theres this guy in school who started calling me names and stuff, at first i was like whatever hes just a guy and i dont care about what he thinks about me. But then, he started making fun of me infront of people and for some reason its really depressing me. I tried telling him to stop but it didnt work. Anyways after that, someone told me that he smokes, and one of my classmates whats like i know you smoke cuz someone told stacy(me) that you do ( She knew that because i told her my dad and I saw him smoking, and in our school if youre caught smoking you get suspended and blah blah). And then, hes like tell me who those two people are and he kept nagging and shouting and stuf, and my friend was like sorry i promised stacy not to tell, then hes like TELL ME, and he didnt say it in a funy way, he was being serious. I dont want to tell him because i dont want him to feel like he can make me do what he wants. Anyways, today she asked my friend and shes like sorry, and hes like omg im going

2007-12-09 02:29:01 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

Would I be wrong for asking for child support from my child's father? Also, can I ask for Medical bills be paid,and DNA testing?

2007-12-09 02:28:24 · 6 answers · asked by bigbodylovesbigE.T. 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend is getting me jewelry so I want to get him something nice to. Any suggestions.

2007-12-09 02:24:14 · 14 answers · asked by Izsk8tr17 1 in Singles & Dating

Is it ok for a person to have people they've been in previous relationships with in their wedding or participate in other family functions around their current spouse? If the former couple are not involved anymore, is there any harm in being friends? Would you allow your spouse/partner to have a friendship with someone he/she has been involved with or cheated on you with?

People visit or call a former lover just to say "hi" even though he/she is involved with someone new. What's the harm in that? People cheat on their spouses and bring their lover to family dinners or around their children. Many people have marriages/relationships where its ok to have outside sexual relationships. If these people are ok with these things, doesn't that make it ok?

Is it ok to keep secrets of events that occurred before a relationship or a marriage? What they don't know won't hurt them?

If you cheated on your partner and later found out that they also cheated doesn't that make it even?

2007-12-09 02:23:48 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

we finished on pretty good terms but all of a sudden he's being really nasty and offensive and yesterday he said i was minging although when we were together he told me i was beautiful-confused!!! lastnight i was feeling self conscious becuase of what he said!!!!

2007-12-09 02:22:09 · 57 answers · asked by BscHons 6 in Singles & Dating

im 14.. and my mom doesnt let me go anywere!! i want to go to the mall with a few friends today and she said no because their are going to be to many people.. i told her that it is a mall and there is going to people there...

what can i do to convence me to go!!!!

2007-12-09 02:21:21 · 29 answers · asked by im_suuweeet 2 in Family

Not that your the one. Not to say I'm right. Not to say today. And not to say a thing.. tonight

2007-12-09 02:20:58 · 12 answers · asked by nastyblues 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-12-09 02:17:38 · 16 answers · asked by forest lover 2 in Singles & Dating

It hurts my feelings and makes me feel unmportant to him. He says I will get every Sunday night and Monday night. But I dont think I should have to sit at home every saturday night and pine away for him. Especially when I have five other guys calling me who I keep putting off because I dont want to cheat on my boyfriend, but I feel like if I am unimportant to him I am wasting my time. If I tell him how I feel it will start a fight and I am so tired of fighting. I do love him, but I think he wants an exclusive relationship (IE I dont sleep with anyone else) and I want a serious relationship(which includes exclusive but also more). I dont know what to do. He says he loves me and I am someone he can marry but he doesnt know if he sees me in his future (This makes my head spin like the exorcist because it is such a contradiction) Can someone guy or girl please give me some heartfelt advice before I do something stupid. . We have been dating for six months. Do mens feelings grow?

2007-12-09 02:17:35 · 22 answers · asked by theotherwoman 2 in Singles & Dating