im 14.. and my mom doesnt let me go anywere!! i want to go to the mall with a few friends today and she said no because their are going to be to many people.. i told her that it is a mall and there is going to people there... i wasnt beinng rude or anyhing... so im writting a letter.. so far it says.....
I don’t get why I can’t go to the mall with *name*. It’s not like I’m going to go up to people and start talking to them. I’ve already walked around an amusement park by myself, and you trusted me and the other people there. The mall is the same, if not a little safer. Mom it’s a mall, there are always people there.
what can i do to convence me to go!!!!
and i dont want to stay home cause... i need to get out of this house
all my firends are responsable
2007-12-09 02:38:25 · 7 answers · asked by im_suuweeet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
its not that your mom doesn't trust you...she doesn't trust society. pedifiles wait at the mall for young girls like you. your mom know's whats best for you and you should respect her decision. you want her to trust you but then you go and act like a little girl about it. in order to get what you want you have to be mature and go about things maturily. that note you wrote wont help it will just get her mad and more upset. trust me i've been in this situation before and the more i begged the more i got in deeper.
2007-12-09 02:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, we've all been 14, and there are a lot of 14 year olds out there all over the world, so we all know what you're saying .However, today's society has made it very difficult for parents to allow their kids the freedom they deserve !
I am speaking to you as a mother, I have two boys, slightly younger than you, and I am terrified to let them go anywhere on their own.
It really doesn't sound like a big deal going to the mall does it? It shouldn't be, but perhaps your mother has heard about something that has happened in the mall , or maybe she's not sure about your friends, whether they are mature or responsible ( you say they are, but your mum might not think so) .
Invite your friends over, let your mum get to know them properly, and if you all show her that you can be trusted to do the right thing in any situation then I'm sure she will allow you more freedom.
Please don't dislike your mum, she really must have her reasons, she's not doing this to hurt you, trust me on this . She loves you and wants whats best for you, it may not feel like that now, but you will understand one day . My mum was the same, and now I know why she behaved like that.
Don't be mad, ask your mum to go to the mall with you and your friends instead . Once you're all there, she may let you all walk around on your own for an hour or so .
She feels bad about it too, I'm sure.
2007-12-09 03:05:36 · answer #2 · answered by Paris69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your mom need to sit down and talk, maybe not right now cause she is mad at you. I am sure she has some valid reasons for which she doesn't want you to go and if you know what they are you might feel the same.Maybe she is unnerved with the recent mall shootings and stories of weirdos hanging at malls.
I am sure she will let you to the mall with your friends if you have a normal conversation with her instead of fighting with her.
2007-12-09 02:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 14 also :) i've the same situation like u.u shouldn't ask her permission in d last minute.u'd better ask it a few days bfor,so that if she wont let u go,u can make somthings that could make her happy.i mean,tryin to be a good daughter for a while...=)..u also should explain wif her face-2-face & try to convince her..& remember,dont ask permission when she is not in mood!hope this could help u!
2007-12-09 03:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by potaTomato 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jeez.. if you believe the media everyones a paedo!!!
hey malls in america, you really want to get shot at??
bottom line your 14, do as your told till your an adult!!
2007-12-09 02:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by tartanbeastie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes well. I'm 15 and I feel your pain, My parents don't let me do anything, EVER, so ... I'm like ready to just get up and out of here! oi .. :[ oh and as for your question, err. I'm just letting you know, you're not alone!
But let me know how it works out! :]
2007-12-09 02:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your mom, trying to convince her to let you go will just make her angry. do some studying for school.
2007-12-09 02:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by ty t 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋