I have been dating this guy for 2 months and we go out about every saturday night to his local bar. He does not drink but has ALOT of female friends that he works with. Last night at the bar a female came up to him and said that she missed his nightly massages that he gave to her and others while at work. Then I seen him blow a kiss to another girl across the bar. He also calls them baby. Should this concern me as far as getting into a serious relationship with this man. Yes you can say that this made me a bit jealous as I have never seen this side of him. He does get phone calls and text messages from other woman as well when we r together and says that they r just friends. We are both divorced and in our early 40s. Am I just being an immature and jealous girlfriend here? Or should I be concerned?
2007-12-09 02:30:13 · 14 answers · asked by debbie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most definately you should be concerned. Although at first you may think its just a jealousy problem and that youre taking it to far it may escalate in a couple of weeks. He most definately should not be calling them baby and giving them masages along with blowing them kisses. Being friends is one thing but being friends with benefits is a completely different situation. Talk to him about the whole situation calmly and see how he reacts. If hes sweet and understands and says he's going to try to make it easier on you but still be friends with them than he understands and is truely into you but if he answers with anger and gets put out that hes explained its just friends than there is something more. You should understand youre guy and give him a chance but if hes taking things to far its definately not worth dragging out this relationship. Good luck. Hope I helped!
2007-12-09 02:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not an immature, jealous girlfriend. HE is the one being immature. You SHOULD be concerned.
Regardless of whether or not you've been dating 2 days, 2 months, or 2 years-- is it ever going to be alright with you that your man is constantly flirting with other women?
In my opinion, this is VERY disrespectful. Don't settle for a guy that feels he can have his cake and eat it too. If he wants to be with you and cares about your feelings, he should be focusing his time on YOU-- not on other co-workers. His behavior is innappropriate and if I were you, would NOT be putting up with it.
Say something. If he feels you think this behavior is ok, he's going to continue to do it...and if it's already making you jealous, imagine how you will feel when your relationship is more serious. Tell him how this behavior bothers you. And DON'T put up with it. Be honest, not overbearing, and just explain to hm that it has you concerned and upsets you a bit. Maybe his flirting is innocent and he doesnt realize it bothered you? But if he continues to neglect your feelings and behave this way, LEAVE THIS GUY. You deserve better and he is not worth your time.
2007-12-09 02:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by autumn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure. 1-5 yes. 6, if your an anime geek, you ladies do especially in their character traits of usually cold shoulder characters who are bad ***. 7-8 true. 9, not true if your a Southerner lady. 10-12 true that, but 12, we do it too, especially if they have female features that look like someone hot we know, so we shake it off knowing they have a penis and know they aren't them. 13-18, who cares about that crap. 19, that is not usually why we do it, it is to make sure there straitened and in proper positions instead of inside this one area I have no idea what it is called. 20-22, that is not valid privelages because that is a social standard and not an individual right, so some of us aren't fake and perfer not to be so who cares about what others think as long as we are ourselves. 23 is a lie, I know lots of women who do that. Saying you don't, your either lying to everybody or lying to yourself or your ashamed of it. 24-30, eh, that's not a privelage, those are more social
2016-04-08 03:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by Beverly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you "lay down the law" you will never hear from him again. You guys are not teenagers. He has had a long time to develop his lifestyle and these many female friendships. You can either be one of them, or you can expect to be edged out.
2007-12-09 02:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The calls them baby and gives them nightly massages? He sounds like an ****** that is playing you. BEWARE
2007-12-10 02:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by verrico98 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You caught a real player there!! If you don't mind being one of many in the crowd go with it, otherwise I would be looking for someone else.
2007-12-09 02:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by Wiz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are just being a women that concern about your flirtly boyfriend actions. He need to show you more respect when you are around him.
2007-12-09 02:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by dbrh_soto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMMMMMMM................DUH!!! i would be worried. if he's blowing kisses and rubbing their back them then he's either drunk all the time or he doesn't know what he wants.
best advice is sit him down and tell him how you feel about what he's doing. if he doesn't stop then break up with him and tell him that would happen if he didn't stop...
good luck
2007-12-09 02:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd be pissed if I were you. Thats all just rude, disrespectful and way too immature for me
2007-12-09 02:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope your concerns are legitimate and unappropriate if your relationship is to turn serious
2007-12-09 02:34:20 · answer #10 · answered by sexy joker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋