She's been in my life for about ten years.
We've been friends for about seven of those, but I feel like I pull the weight of the friendship.
She's cute, but not gorgeous. I tell her of how pretty I think she is. Especially when she's down on herself.
I did tell her I had a crush on her once, so I guess she knows what I think and feel about our friendship.
So even though she can be kind and caring, she can also be manipulative, because she knows I will do anything for her.
I don't want anyone else, I want her... Why???
2007-12-09 02:58:13 · 16 answers · asked by Kari 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The friendship has been nothing more than platonic.
2007-12-09 02:59:11 · update #1
Apperently you dont like her.
you love her in a way.
You obsess over her because you love her sweetie.
2007-12-09 03:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move on. It's obvious that she knows you want more, but is using you for it. Think about it. Do you want a relationship where she gets whatever she wants by manipulating you?
Quit lusting over your friend and find yourself a girlfriend. Kissing your friends feet has got you no where in 7+ years, so it's not going to, unless she is the sort to decide she wants you when she sees someone else in that place. Even so, after all this time, I'd just find someone else. It's not love. It's not lust. You are unhealthily obsessed. Do yourself a favor and get back out in to the see and find a new fish.
2007-12-09 11:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by Toshiro O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have grown and reached beyond the material and sexual 1st interests. You have reached the most important part of loving someone. From what you have written it does not sound as you are obsessed; it sounds like you found someone who have a truly deep connection with, a truly endearment kind of love with which you want to care for her and be there always for her...be her only one. You are in love my friend. But, if she is manipulative, you can not allow that to happen. Do your very best to back off a bit and tell her why. Be upfront and honest! I care for you more than a friend and I would like very much to be with you and I don't appreciate you manipulating me in the ways you do. It hurts. I would do anything for you and manipulating me is simply unkind and unnecessary. If you do not feel the same perhaps we should back off a bit as friends so I can either clear my head and/or give you room to truly think about why we have been strictly plutonic for all these years and not moved forward. Maybe you don't feel that way for me and that's ok, but I truly need to know and I need to back off to clear my head a bit. It'll hurt one way or another but if you are uninterested in me "that way" we can remain great friends but I need to move on. I would like someone in my life much more than a plutonic relationship. etc etc.. you gotta do it my friend, or u may seal your own fate!
2007-12-09 11:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by ~BluemoonAngel~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are saying perfectly. I hate to be brutal but you need to give up any notion of it ever being more than friends. She may be a lovely person etc. But it is wrong of her to use your feelings for her in order to manipulate you. She may not even know she's doing it and you are being insecure and inassertive to allow her.
You want her because you are best friends and you can't have her which is a strong appeal. But for your sake move on and find someone else.
2007-12-09 11:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by Trouble 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you are in 'love'. And that is why you seem obsess.
Being friends first is the right way to be. You sound like a good friend to have. Don't sweat it so much. She is just being a girl. You just keep being that fine gentleman and you will win her love.
2007-12-09 11:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by LuvMe2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a male i know what you feel like and have had the same thing.males may like someone for looks or how they act even is you dont know you may just like someone for a simple thing but you just dont know it yet.when you get the feeling over here think about what she did and then you will figure it out. good luck!!
2007-12-09 11:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by coolthing36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky girl. Looks like she doesn't have to do anything to get what she wants from you. Why should she commit herself? You're gonna do all these things anyway. Right? This is not a put-down. This is fact.
2007-12-09 11:03:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then it is time for you to make a move on her. That's assuming that you both are of legal age, and consenting adults. If you make a move to upgrade your situation, and she goes along with this, this is fine. If she does not, then you know that there is nothing further there for you. Basically it is either move up or move on.
2007-12-09 11:02:57 · answer #8 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you love her and maybe you two should get a little closer that is if she wants to
2007-12-09 11:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by boscowood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may feel that no one is worthy or your love of that you feel unworthy to accept anyone else's love
2007-12-09 11:02:43 · answer #10 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋