Ok, I found some items around the house that have to do with or near my husbands stuff. I asked him about all the stuff and he swears he did not purchase nothing. Well to i point i believe him but yet i dont.
We now he is being really disrespectful to me and does not trust me any more.
I asked him what he wants me to do so he can trust me and respect me more all he says was NOTHING
I dont know what to do?
any suggestions
2007-12-09 02:48:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
cell phone, shipping reciept, phone cards,
now he thinks i put them there when i did not do that
so now he does not trust me and when he talks to me he seems so rude about it all.
2007-12-09 03:04:05 · update #1
i am trying to talk to him about whats happened
he keeps telling me i wont forget it and blah blah
i tell him you still dont trust me and still get mad at me so no i wont forget it
i keep telling him i am scared we are going to split.
i dont want to make him happy by leaving him
what should i do
2007-12-10 03:09:44 · update #2
He's lying to you and he is trying to take the focus off himself and put it on you. He is trying to make you think you did something wrong, when he is the guilty party.
2007-12-09 05:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something that you earn not request.
You have found what sort of "Things". You have not described what you found "Near" your husbands "Stuff",
How important is this Stuff, What has it got to do with you? Why do you want to know about it?
If it is personal than leave it alone. If there is indication of some outside liason, then you have reason to question,
Otherwise, let it be. What difference does ot make. Why are you pecking away at it.
Little things like this can become major problems is they are made more serious than they really are.
Trust is mutual. You have to trust someone for them to return the trust to you. Remember that it starts out at 100% and declines from there. Best, unless this represents some extra-marital affair, that you let it go because if you don't you relationship will continue to deteriorate.
2007-12-09 03:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by organbuilder272 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What stuff?
If you are talking porn material such as magazines and DVD's, get over it. This is not such a big deal. We men are very visual creatures. It has nothing to do with disrespecting you.
If you are talking about evidence of an extramarital affair, that's a different story.
By the way, you write a like a crack addict. Get an education.
2007-12-09 02:54:26 · answer #3 · answered by a_shrubbery_knight_of_ni 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Run Forest Run been there done that it definelty sounds like reverse phycology going on make for the hills. womans interwishen is a muther. why waste your time. he's not worth of someone like u
2007-12-09 03:49:20 · answer #4 · answered by dont know no more 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is making you feel like you are losing you mind. He is making you feel like you are untrustworthy to throw you off of whatever he is hiding. You should not trust him. Your alarm is going off for a reason . You are not crazy.
2007-12-09 02:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by heartsarebad 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the reason why he can't trust you is because maybe you don't trust him also. a person who does not trust anybody can't be trusted at all...
I think you're too paranoid over yourself that's why you're getting on his (your husband) nerves
2007-12-09 03:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by niCoLE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Without more details this one is hard to answer.
2007-12-09 02:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by I think I need a shower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOUR HUSBAND IS MAKING YOU FEEL GUILTY TO HIDE WHAT HE IS DOING. YOU BETTER TAKE A CLOSER LOOK AT WHAT HE IS DOING.....HIS BEHAVIOR IS ABUSIVE.
2007-12-09 10:52:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has something hidden in his head? If he doesn't want to communicate with you, it seems that you can only say goodbye to him.
2007-12-09 02:55:01 · answer #9 · answered by montagne de jade 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋