im 14.. and my mom doesnt let me go anywere!! i want to go to the mall with a few friends today and she said no because their are going to be to many people.. i told her that it is a mall and there is going to people there...
what can i do to convence me to go!!!!
2007-12-09 02:21:21 · 29 answers · asked by im_suuweeet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
and i dont want to stay home cause... i need to get out of this house
2007-12-09 02:25:55 · update #1
all my firends are very resposable... but idk
2007-12-09 02:27:13 · update #2
all my firends are very resposable... but idk
2007-12-09 02:33:20 · update #3
introduce her to your friends. if she trusts your friends she will trust that you will be in good hands.
if she doesnt trust your friends then you are out of luck.
2007-12-09 02:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably can't do anything to convince your mom to let you go. I know my mom wouldn't let me go. The reason your mom is letting you go is because there are so many holiday shoppers there and it would be very crowded. You wouldn't be able to move in stores. Also there could also be robbers at the mall who could steal money or whatever you bought. I think, personally that you shouldn't go to the mall during this time of the year unless you bring an adult. I get the fact that your 14 and are a young adult, but you wouldn't be able to do anything if something did happen at the mall. If you want to go that badly, just ask your mom to come. Really she is letting you go places, but not at this time of the year. It's too crazy and hectic. It doesn't matter that there are already going to be people there, but it's going to be too crowded and things could easily get stolen. Your mom is being a protective and smart parent by not letting you go to the mall without an adult. So just ask her to come or if you have any older sibilings ask her if they could come.
2007-12-09 02:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by HI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not crazy about going to a mall myself and i'm an adult. there are too many over stressed people shooting people at malls these days and terrorists have issued an alert threatening to do something terrible (like 9/11 ) was at a mall . i am personally not going into any malls this holiday season. my shopping will be online and i will give cash to some and let them buy whatever they want. maybe mom will let your freinds come over tonight for a pizza and a DVD ? or mom will send you to a holiday movie with the other kids ? mom sometimes has to make tough decisions. and while you would like to say yes to everything you must protect your kid. it's not easy to say no. love mom enough for caring and making a tough decision that is in your best interest. you will understand one day when you are a mom.
2007-12-09 02:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mildred S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is trying to protect you. There are all kinds of people at the mall and some of them are dangerous. 2 sisters disappeared from a mall here and have never been found.
Wait until you are older. You will understand when you are a mom.
2007-12-09 02:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm 49 (mom and grandmother) and I don't understand your mom's reasoning --- I hung out at the mall at your age with friends. Of COURSE there's going to be a lot of people there. Would she rather you be in some uncrowded place where you'd have NO HELP if you needed help? I would let you go if it was up to me. Doesn't she remember being your age? I'm sure she's even younger than I am.
2007-12-09 02:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, talk to her calmly. Make sure to let her know that this is important to you, and don't don't beg her. Write her a letter if you don't feel comfortable talking face to face. Give her a list of things that you have done good this week, or say that you will clean something in return maybe. Have your mom talk to one of your friends moms to reassure her you'll be safe. Bring your cell phone, and if you have to feel weird and text her every so often, just do it to make her happy. If she doesn't let you go, prepare far in advanced for another time, but make sure you were on your best behavior for about 5 days prior to that. :) Good luck, just be patient, mom's have a hard time letting go. And be willing to compromise!
2007-12-09 02:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is the best person to discuss this with. Perhaps she has sufficient reason for not allowing you to go. Perhaps it's to far away or she doesn't like the group you hang around with or there has been problems at the mall and she doesn't want you to get in trouble or worse--something happening to you---Try your best friend for that answer--YOUR MOM
2007-12-09 02:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her if she's worried that something will happen to you or if she doesnt like you going out. my parents were like this too. they kept me chained to my room until i was 18. it was no fun. tell her that there is no harm of you going out, and that you dont want your friends to stop inviting you places or talking to you because your mother always says no.
she will more than likely respond with "then you know they arent really your friends if they stop talking to you"
to which you will say "girls at 14 aren't thinking about the future mom, they are thinking about right now, and it's important for me and them to share some time outside of school together."
she is more than likely being selfish. tell her it will give her free time in the house without you there (if you're an only child....)
2007-12-09 02:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Asile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... Maybe she doesn't trust ur freinds or it can be the other way around, she doesn't trust u with them, well ask her if she will give u a time limit to be home, maybe for a few hours so so, just before dark, that's if she is scared of something happening to u, ohhhh, that might be what it is, tell her why she is scared of letting u go with ur freinds. and then tell her that u will be safe. Good luck and I hope she lets u go 2day..... later
2007-12-09 02:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by wildride07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 14,
I wouldn't let my 14 year old daughter go to the mall either.
Teengers do some stupid things.
Maybe you should just tell her you think you're responible enough to go, and if she still says no, then wait until you're 15 and ask her again.
2007-12-09 02:25:18 · answer #10 · answered by Megan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relies upon. How old are you? consistent with threat you're mom would not choose her to be a foul effect on you and do loopy issues. yet i think of in basic terms silliness and being goofy would not make somebody undesirable. Does your chum get in hardship plenty?
2016-11-15 00:30:03 · answer #11 · answered by konen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋