Pregnant and my x/fiance wants me to abort!!!!!!!!?

Question

im 5 weeks pregnant and broke up with my x/fiance 2 weeks ago becoz' he wasn't faithful to me. after my consultation with the doctor i called him & told him the news, coz when we were together that's what we talked about in most of our conversations, starting a family of our own, now he wants me to abort becoz' we are longer together, is it because he's shocked or he wants nothing to do with me? this is both our first pregnancy & it really kills me 2 even think he would suugest that, knowing how i feel about abortions. its been 4 days since we last spoke and i haven't heard anything from him. Pls help im really stressed.

Answer 1

Do NOT abort unless it's YOUR choice. I am 100% pro-choice, but only if it's the woman's choice. You're the one that has to undergo the procedure, and you're the one who has to live with any regret. Do not allow yourself to be coerced, badgered, or otherwise made to do it against your better judgement.

If you want to keep the baby, do so. If he absolutely wants nothing to do with it, have him sign away his rights and tell him to hit the road.

Only go through with the abortion if it'swhat YOU want.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

I'll be honest if you stress to much about this and the relationship then you won't have to worry about getting an abortion because you could miscarry. You have 3 choices to make 1) have an abortion, 2) have the child & keep it, and 3) have the child & give it up for adoption.

If you decide that option #1 is out of the picture then great that is a choice that you made because it is your body, not his. But then you have a harder decision to make what to do if you have the baby. Are you able to look after this child yourself financially? Do you have a good education, a good job? Support from your family? Are you covered for medical to have this child? Are you aware how much a child will cost you each month? Will you be able to get child support from the father. Sure it can be awarded but will you actually get it in your hands each month? If you aren't ready, if you are in school, then seriously consider giving this child up for adoption. There is thousands of families out there who want a child of their own but can't have on. Many adoptions are open so you will see how this child is being raised. you will pick the family and some expenses will be covered by them.

Answer 3

When I got pregnant the Dad said the same to me about getting an abortion along with "you did it on purpose", and "Im not the Dad" . But I didn't do it on purpose and of course he was the Dad. I was alone for my pregnancy and as soon as I had my baby I took him to court. (he then quit his job)The first 2 yrs sucked..but he did come around. She is 13 now and they have a really good relationship and when she was 8, I married the best man ever and she has a great relationship with her stepdad too. Of course it wasn't easy ( I was pretty poverty striken, no car, and very isolated and lonely)and there were some really dark times in the beginning but it all worked out better than I could have ever hoped. You and your baby will be ok too...with or without Dad

Answer 4

this is a decision only you can make. it's your body and you need to make this decision. that said, if you decide to have the baby, get some support. are you close with your family? do you have any close friends? if you decide to keep the baby, then start talking to your friends/family about it because you will need all the support you can get during pregnancy and once the baby gets here. it sounds like this guy may not really be there for you. i'm glad you left him. if he is unfaithful, then he is not worth your time. however, now you have a child together. know that he has rights to that child, but that most likely, you would be awarded custody, should the matter be brought before a court. be careful not to count on him, as he may just leave your life completely. best of luck to you. if you are in the USA, check out "Parents without partners" meetings. it's a support group that might be able to help you.

Answer 5

Well, since he is now your EX then he has no say in what you do. If you are against abortions then don't do it; have the baby but be prepared to raise the child by yourself and not get any financial support from your ex. He can be court ordered to pay child support but that doesn't mean he will do it. You could also have the baby and give it up for adoption if you are not able to take care of a baby on your own.

Answer 6

First I would tell him that abortion is not birth control. Then I would figure out a way to coparent. I assuming you live in the same town. So it shouldn't be a problem. After you are well enough to go back to work one of you could work days while the other works nights. That way one of you is always w/ the baby. You could take turns on the weekends. That way each of you gets a break once in awhile. You both need to but aside your fears and differences and do what is best for the child. I've known a lot of guys who ran away from fatherhood because they were afraid that mommy was going to treat them like a walking checkbook for the next 18yrs. You know what I've seen it happen too.

Answer 7

it could be both.. but think of it this way.. you're going to kill an innocent child & deprive him of the wonderful life that he hasn't even experienced yet just because of a stupid break-up? God won't give you this challenge if He knew you wouldn't be able to handle it, so dont worry about raising that kid alone. im pretty sure there'd be plenty of help along the way, though the path ahead may not be easy. besides, he should've known the consequences right even before you guys did it. now this just shows how immature he is. just be thankful in a way that you guys have broken up coz it'd be much harder for you (and your kid) in the future to deal w/ an immature guy like him for the rest of you life. actually, consider it this way, you did yourself a BIG favor by letting him go. it may not look like this right now, but by the time that you get over it, you will, and you might even be thankful that you made the right choice.

goodluck. you'll get through it. you just gotta be strong for both you and the baby. take care.

and CONGRATULATIONS! =D

Answer 8

You obviouisly know you cannot murder your own baby even if he tells you to. So do not do that. It really is that simple..no hystrionics needed. Just have the baby, and he will simply have to pay child support. Also.. make sure you do not repeat this part of your life. Raising a child to NOT do what you are about to go through is going to be very hard for you since YOU are the example your child will see.

Answer 9

congratulations on the baby ,and i am sorry he is such an idiot.you have plenty of options.if you both do not want the baby then you could put it up for adoption(or abortion).but if you do want the baby then you have options there.to have the baby and cut all ties with the idiot father.tell him to never come around and leave you alone,or you could have the baby and make him pay child support for the next 18 years.but if he don't want the baby then that option will bring lots of aggravation.but what ever you decide,in the end it is all up to you and only you.good luck

Answer 10

No matter what his reason was for saying that, he's a major jerk for even suggesting that you kill your baby.

Try not to let his attitude stress you out. You are going to be a Mother, and that's something worth being excited about! Don't let him bring you down, just because he's acting like a heartless creep.

Just keep your focus on your baby, and forget about that guy. He's not even worth the stress he's putting you through.

Have a great day!

Answer 11

It's YOUR body and (unfortunately) YOUR choice to do what you want with it and the new life growing inside of it... Don't listen to him... don't be swayed or intimidated. In the end you must face God not your ex.... therefore I would suggest NOT killing your unborn baby by abortion just because thats what your ex wants.

Either way since you have the choice (to play God) you should hurry up and *decide* what the heck you are gonna do... you're already 5 weeks along and everyday that goes by your baby develops more and more.. soon he/she will have brain waves and brain waves make us FEEL which means the longer you wait the more horrific the act of abortion comes.

PS your baby's heart has begun to beat already