if they live about 10 miles from you.. I haven't visited my grandpa in over 2 months.. and I think about Him all the time..the guilt has really built up over the period I haven't bothered to see him.. even though my mum goes at least once a week.. I feel so ashamed if I do go to the Home to see him because I'm a rubbish granddaughter not even botherin to go in when my mum goes in.. and i just cant face up to him cause I feel so guilty..?
2007-12-09 00:50:31 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My dear, there are two critically important things to understand in this situation.
1. Your grandfather's time on this Earth is finite. When he's gone, you won't be able to visit him. Take the time out to see him when you can.
2. Your visits mean a LOT more to him than they do to you. He may not show it, and he may not be the most interesting company in the world, but just by you showing up and spending time with him means SO MUCH. Think of it this way, when you get into your 70's and 80's, do you want your children and grandchildren to come visit and play games with and tell stories to you? Or do you want to be left alone in "The home," visited once a year by the people you brought into this world?
Not meaning to guilt trip you. Each family is different. But seriously, he won't be here forever, and it (probably) is the highlight of his day seeing you. So make the effort. Happy Holidays =)
2007-12-09 00:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by yodamoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no time when to visit your Grandparents and if your grandpa is the only one laft you need to see him even more as he is the only one laft.The time to feel guilty is when he is gone and you never got to see him.See him all you can now and let him know you still love him.Don't stay a way because you feel guilty for not coming to see him.Hunny your grandpa is not geting any younger and seeing him now when he is alive is a lot better then seeing him dead.At there age you need to make time to see him.I know it's hard to see him like that remembering how he was when you were young.But you can't wait for the right time to see him.His life is coming to a end and you still have a lot of life laft.Give your heart a warm feeling and go see your grandpa he would drive miles to see you what is 10 miles your mother drives it.He needs to see you still love him even when he is old.Go see him fill your heart with joy not guilt it will eat you up in side.Make his day he does not have a lot of days laft.
2007-12-09 01:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live that close, once a week is doable. If you feel guilty, go when your mum goes, then there will somebody else there and the focus of the conversation won't be you and why you haven't come. Don't focus on the past, you can't change that. Focus on today or this week, set a definite time, don't let anything else be scheduled during that time - and go!
2007-12-09 00:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by Mollyismydog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandparents live 40 minutes from me in the same house they lived in when I was born and we grew up in a house 2 houses up the road. I don't see them often enough and I fell bad because they are 83 years old and havwe several health problems. They enjoy seeing my 4 kids and I'm sure would love to see them more. Anyway, you live 10 minutes from your grandfather!!! You should be able to visit him ATLEAST once a week.
2007-12-09 08:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by christina30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and tell him what you said here(about guilt etc) and don't be surprised if he loves you more for it.You don't realize how time is running out and no amount of regrets later shall ever bring present moments back.Young people often don't realize that grand kids are more precious to people than their own children and there is a scientific theory to back it up.Nothing is lost as yet and you can still more than make up for the days gone by.All the best.(note:-when you meet them,please convey my regards and good wishes to them,saying,it's from an unknown well wisher).
2007-12-09 01:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The pleasure of your company....even if you don't talk much....would mean a lot to your grandpa......to even think you bothered, would mean a lot to him.
Let him tell you stories of when he was a child...and take notes, because when he's gone and you want to start doing your Ancestry, it will be easier.
You're part of your grandpa, and your time shared with him will mean a lot to you one day...especially when you look back. So go and see him, at least once a month, more if you can.
2007-12-09 00:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Curious39 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should start going with your mum, atleast one a week or every other week. Your grandpa probably won't even ask why you haven't visited him, he'll just be glad to see you!
2007-12-09 00:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go at least a couple times a month. Don't worry about what you haven't done just start going now and your guilt will be gone.
2007-12-09 00:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my grandma a week ago... I havent seen her since may.. I recently had my baby and she never saw her. I feel bad and i want to cry all the time. My grandma lived 15 min away from me... Go visit ur grandpa.
2007-12-09 00:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by Karen G. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One day they will be dead, and then you'll be answering your own question with regret. Go see them, spend some time with them and take them a small gift, as a token of your admiration for them. The generation they are from has many stories to tell, try listening to them. You just might learn something. Take them a flower.
2007-12-09 00:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by Levi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋