my boyfirend of 8 mo. has asked me to marry him like 3 to 4 times now. everytime he does i question him on if he is for real. he says yes then says no i am just joking. he has even told me that he keeps asking because i do not answer him. the one night i did answer him we had been drinking and i dont know if he remembers or not. what my questions is do you think he is really wanting to marry me. please let me know what you think.
2007-12-09 23:39:48 · 24 answers · asked by maraloves 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes... Of course he wants to marry you.. but he is scared that you dont feel the same way. What you should do you, is figure out how you feel about the whole idea of getting married, then talk to him about it in a nice relax setting.
2007-12-09 23:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a really serious thing. You don't mention how old you are - but if your relationship has been great - he probably means it. If you're like 18 and still in school and what not, it can't really be for real forever kind of real because you are too young. Lets go on the assumption that you are of a sane age to get married.
Next time he asks you - sober of corse - say yes, yes I will. and see what he does. So far you have only seen the reaction to you not answering him. Why don't you answer him by the way. If you are not interested in marriage at this time, then you should tell him. Like I said, marriage and proposal are serious, and if you are not the girl for him, to be his wife, then tell him, because if you don't you will mess him up for the next time he is in a relationship and wants to ask her to marry her. you know??
If he says he's just fooling around, then just drop it, but if you think it's serious - just answer him seriously!! Good luck!
2007-12-10 07:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by wfhlembo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personally don't think anyone here can tell you for sure whether or not he's serious, but i think he first says yes and then that he's just kidding because you questioned whether or not he is serious. you questioning this could make him think that you would say no, and in order not to be stood up like that he just says "just joking" shortly after.
fear of being turned down, i guess... there's a good chance he is serious, if he already asked you several times! you should really have a conversation with him about this and tell him that you didn't want to make him scared that you might say no when you asked whether he was serious.
and by the way, i totally disagree with what the answerer just before me said about a proposal having to involve a big shiny ring and being ultra-romantic. that's not ALWAYS how it goes. this does not mean he loves you any less! perhaps he's just not a very creative mind =D
good luck!
2007-12-10 07:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he's serious but he wants to know how you feel probably because he's insecure. If you say yes, he'll know you wont leave him, but he can say he's joking so he doesnt have to actually go through with it. If you said yes then started to plan the wedding he'd probably get scared and angry, refuse to take part. Call his bluff, say yes and tell him he cant take it back once agreed, its a verbal contract only you can break! Start making him look at wedding venues, decide who to invite etc. If he's just playing with you its not a nice thing to do, and shows he doesnt really care hie's only thinking of himself. He needs a shock! Watch out for him, he sounds like a nutcase in the making.
2007-12-10 07:50:33 · answer #4 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he doesn't want to marry you, at least not yet. If he did, he would be making an effort to propose properly and not in some drunken confession.
It's not fair on you that he says things like that to you. It's like saying, would you like a piece of chocolate. Well I don't have any. HA! HA! HA!
It's like his teasing you because he knows that you want to get married. Maybe you'll stick around a little longer if you think that he wants to marry you.
But marriage is a solemn vow that shouldn't be taken lightly and should never be used as a carrot in front of horse.
2007-12-10 07:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he bought a ring? Have you guye even talked about mariage aside from him sputtering it out once in awhile>? Are you guys old enough or mature enough to get married? From the sounds of it you both are not ready. Marriage is work and alot of it. Id say he thinks he is being romantic by asking you all the time, which just sounds silly. Tell him to grow up or tell him to show you a ring next time he asks you and see what kind of response you get.
2007-12-10 07:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by puglyparker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to say whether he really wants to marry you or not; however, it's easy for me to see that the way he is approaching you is not very genuine or sincere. Who wants to be proposed to time and time again and sometimes when intoxicated? Depending on whether you are in love with him or not, I would approach him and tell him how you feel about the relationship and about marriage. Marriage is a huge step and the way he uses it seems to be a little questionable.
2007-12-10 07:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question isn't whether he truly wants to marry you, the question is whether, if you do get married, he will still want to be married to you in one, five, or ten years. I'm sure you can work out whether he's the impulsive type who might not think things through?
He might be a lovely and sincere person, but you don't want to end up paying for his tendency to get carried away.
You are married (hopefully) for a long time. There is no rush.
2007-12-10 07:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by llordlloyd 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't take him seriously. If he asks to later say it was a joke. Marriage is no joking matter. If you don't want to end up married to later divorce in less than 2 years. Be careful.
2007-12-10 07:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't be serious. Like someone mentioned earlier, he's immature. If he has to ask you that many times, he didn't try to make it serious enough. Not to mention that 8 months is too short. If he REALLY wants to propose to you, you'll know when he's being serious. Maybe an actual ring would be involved?
2007-12-10 07:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋