I have 2 children (boy 8, girl 12). I have a very vindictive ex. She would not allow me to have the kids this past weekend, my court ordered weekend. She says that my place gave my kids head lice (not the real question here, for I will deal with that situation by going to the proper legal channels) She has threatened to keep them away until after a hearing she requested. This may mean that my wife and I do not get the kids our court ordered holiday time.
Now the question. I have court ordered visitation with them today from 4p-8p. There are many many weather related (icy road conditions) school closings. Many school districts, including theirs is closed as well. There is no guarantee that the roads will improve, or that when I get up there she will allow me to have the kids.
I really want to go. Should I call my ex and ask her opinion? Any other suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
2007-12-09 23:04:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would do anything I had to do to see my children...
...as for the vindictive part...consult your attorney.
Good luck.
2007-12-09 23:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would call her and remind her that it's you appointed time and you will be there. If road conditions permit. Not now with bad roads, but other time why do you not push the issue and get your time the courts ordered. Children get head lice all the time its in the schools. Its a pain to get rid of but that's just part of having kids and being parents. She's using that as an excuse, and if you don't put your foot down it will work for her. If you are paying your child support, whatever your suppose to i don't think she can legally KEEP THEM FROM YOU. So why are you allowing her to do it. I can tell you this, if i were in that position no one would keep my from my kids. She has those same court orders and knows full well when its your time with them, isn't that contempt of court when you don't do as the courts order. Good luck.
2007-12-09 23:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. Phone your ex to tell her you're coming but don't ask her opinion (as asking could look like you're looking for an excuse not to go - daft but true).
This is your court ordered time so you have to show that you're both ready and willing to spend it with the kids. Even if she doesn't let you see them it's better to turn up than stay home because the court needs evidence that you're serious about spending time with your children.
2007-12-09 23:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by dakinijones 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have a stepson and his Mother has tried to keep him from my husband.
You NEED to show up EVERY TIME you are scheduled for time with your children. The roads may be icy now but they will improve.
As far as the legal aspect, I have BTDT MANY times and the best thing that you can do is send her a certified letter (which she will have to sign for) and state that since she withheld scheduled parenting time that you would like to make up that parenting time.
I did that for my Husband and he ended up with custody...
2007-12-09 23:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah, she can't withhold the kids from you due to "lice", who says they didn't get it at her house, lol! anyway, they got it at school, most likely! you only get it from kids, not a house... she needs to go back to school to learn about her lice facts! but, that's not a good excuse... as for the ice, she may not let them to w/ you... hmmm... and that's no excuse, either... good luck, keep a written record of all of this, is the divorce recent? if she keeps going against the court order, she can lose custody... this is part of how my brother got custody...but, my brother should not have custody, ugh! ...good luck!
2007-12-09 23:15:55 · answer #5 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋