due to his arrogant, selfish behaviour, I could never like this man, however the relationship with my sister and her children has suffered, would you invite them round for christmas with or without her husband ?
2007-12-09 23:37:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
only for an afternoon visit.
2007-12-09 23:53:41 · update #1
You would need to invite your sister with her husband. The rift between the two of you will never heal until you accept or at least look as though you accept her husband too. She more than likely won't go if you just invited her and not her husband and may make th rift even bigger.
2007-12-09 23:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by LoveBeingAMum 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky one. If you invite just her and the children round, this will send out a bad message and she may not bother coming. You have to remember this is her husband, her choice of man and she has already proven that she will choose him over you, which I can understand as he is the father of her children and she loves him, but at the same time you are her sister and nothing should come between you. They come as a package and maybe you should be the bigger person here and invite them as a family, as a peace offering. And whenever he starts to get on your nerves, simply nip to the kitchen to refresh your drink, or find an excuse to walk away. At least if you make the effort, she will appreciate this and you will be the bigger person.
2007-12-09 23:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't invite them (husband as well) then you are being selfish. This is what you said you hate about your sisters husband but at the same time you have put your own feelings above that of your sister and her children. She's not going to divorce her husband because you have taken a disliking to him and it's horrible to say she should spend Christmas with you and not her husband due to your feelings about him. I think if anyone is being selfish here it doesn't sound like him.
2007-12-09 23:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by SR13 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, no! You NEVER invite a family member, but deliberately exclude their spouse! For that matter, you never do it to a friend, either!
Irregardless of how you feel about this man, he is your sister's husband. She has chosen this man as her husband and to be the father of her children. Whether you like him or not, you at least have to respect her decision. I know how you feel, though, because I've been through a scenario such as this myself. What I suggest is that you learn to 'deal' with the person he is, and do it for your sister and her children. If your sister one day decides that he's not what she wants in a husband, then she can be the one to end the relationship.
2007-12-09 23:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by Shayna 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well as hard as it is you have to stand by your sister and this means putting up with her husbands company for just one afternoon. It is the season of good will and you are the bigger person here by inviting him. They are probably having the same conversation Hun. He is probably saying "do i have to go". Either way, you have done the right thing and youre sister will love you for it. We don't always like our family`s choice of loved ones but it is their choice and we have to respect it.You don't have to put up with abuse from her Hubby by any means, he should be respectful, but try to rise above it with a smile and ignore him, that is sure to bug him more than a reaction, which is just what he wants.Happy Christmas.
2007-12-10 00:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear you. I can't stand my sister-in-law and we had about the same situation a few years back.
What I done, was forget about the confrontation. Act like nothing ever happened. We just do not have conversation anymore. We say Hi, Merry Christmas, Happy Thanksgiving, Happy Birthday and the best one, "Bye, Good to see you, be careful." That's it! Other than that, we don't speak. Much easier on everyone and my brother and I don't have any problems, because he knows that I do that for him and to keep peace. Give it try. Good Luck!
2007-12-10 00:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by Keeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-26 03:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by Bentley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fell out with my sisters husband big style last Christmas?
2014-12-14 23:08:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone who said you need to invite him as well. I understand your feelings though since I had the same problem, then one day they both came to visit and I found something we had in common so since then it has been OK with us although he will never be my best friend at least I can tolerate him now. So try to find a common ground and it may be that your sister is the only common ground you can find.
2007-12-10 00:27:09 · answer #9 · answered by April First 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question to give a correct answer, to keep the peace in your sisters family it's all or none, you should confront your sister and tell her what is going on and why, then your sister can talk to her husband and then figure out what to do, I wish you the best and hope all gos well.
2007-12-09 23:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋