her sons father is seeing son after 6 years of never seeing him after being put in jail for non child support. now he says he wants her back and is calling her and he don't have job and he dont get to drive and he is a bad lier all the time over silly things like i was shot in the war and never been in it. now he is wanting relationship with her and trying to get her back, but, has nothing to offer her and the son. how do you break it to the girl he is doing it cause he has no job and is just doing it more then likely for not having child support. the son will learn how to lie like his dad too. so is it a good ideal to take him back or run from it? and what is the best way to explain it to her?
2007-12-09 23:52:26 · 4 answers · asked by daisy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok. Honey. If she want's him just that bad. I know that you don't wanna hear this. But it's nothing that you can do. iv'e been there and done that. My mother was the same way with my dad. She had clues hiting her in the face left and right. And everybody told her to leave him alone. She didn't. it only bought them closer together. They married. Just so child support would be off him. Done on his point not her's. She was blinded by love. And he left her on there wedding night. So just have faith and let her learn on her own. Maybe she want end up the way my mother did. Taking 7 year's of her life to learn that lesson. Peaches.
2007-12-09 23:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be upfront with her... it would be a disaster for her to take back a man with that kind of history. He only wants her back because she can support his lazy as* and he'll have somewhere to go...he could give a rats as* about her or his son, because if he did, he'd be a different man. If you are her good friend, you need to just tell her in no uncertain terms... don't dance around the issue... you could be saving her from making a grave mistake. Best of luck to you...
2007-12-10 07:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by Racer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her some questions, and ask her to answer them honestly, with her head, not her heart. Is this best for her son. What will she get out of this, hurt , used, loved. Who is going to support him. Is he going to get a job. Is he going to be faithful to her and her son. Do you want your son to learn life from this man. If he leaves how is she going to protect her son. Just a few I thought of. For her sons sake I hope you can get through to her, the Guy doesn't sound very nice.
2007-12-10 08:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there was a child support issue then I assume they are separated. Why woudl this change? She must already know what he's like. I would suggest encourage her to go out and meet nice guys, that way she doesn't fall for his charms, as she'll always have nicer guys to compare him with.
2007-12-10 07:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by lampost blues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋