My wife is wanting to quit work but I'm don't like the options given to me.?

Question

I admit I do not help with any work at home. My wife does it all and she does work full time. I work 4 days a week and have the option of working any overtime I want. My wife on the other hand does have to drive around 500 miles a week to/from work while my commute totals about 80 per week. She also makes a lot less than me. She sat down with me & gave me some options that I don't like but she is being stubborn. Either I start pitching in and helping on my days off OR she is quitting work and I can work 2 days of overtime a month which will make up for what she was bringing home. She says that it would beneift us more if she stopped working and I worked 2 extra days because it would cut back on insurance since the mileage would go down & with the cost of gas right now it is eating into what she makes. But she said she would keep working only if I help around here. I work hard at my job (physical) & I don't want to work at home on my days off & I don't want to work overtime. Am I wrong?

She is complaining about the housework because I won't pick up after myself. She said she is tired of socks being left everywhere and shoes being taken off in the middle of the floor. I admit I don't pick up after myself and I leave my candy wrappers or soda cans whereever but since she sits all day at her job it shouldn't bother her to be on her feet when she comes home.

Just so you know she is an account reconcillation specialist and has a degree in accounting. Since she put so much time and money into her degree I think she should keep working but I just don't see where her work is that hard.

I wouldn't say I'm lazy but my mom always picked up after me as a kid. I was raised in a home where mom did all the housework and never questioned dad on anything. He ruled the house. I miss the good old days. I still think the man should be head of the house and have final say over what the woman does.

Answer 1

omg you are a self centered immature jerk! god help you that you have to pick YOUR socks and trash...if you want a mother you shouldn't of gotten married and moved out of your parents house...get off your lazy butt and help around the house..marriage is a 50/50 deal and you're not pulling even half your share...

Answer 2

You can either get with the program and show your wife some respect or you may end up being the head of your household - sans your wife when she gets completely fed up and leaves you.

Brother - you have got to be kidding. Reread your post - if you could make the same amount of money working overtime two days a month that your wife is making now then it's quite nuts not to do that. If that is so objectionable to you, then the absolute very least you could do is NOT make your wife's life any more difficult by leaving your stuff all over the house. If she's spending 80 hours a week between the commute and work then she doesn't have time to do all the housework - she's killing herself and you sound like an ungrateful whiny boy who needs to move back in with his mother.

Geez, mister, grow up.

Answer 3

You are totally wrong. Both of you guys work and she still has to come home and work some more? How fair do you think that is? Also, when you work in the house cleaning up after yourself it doesn't take a full 8 hours. If both of you clean the house it will take about 1 hour of your time at the least and look at the benefits you will get. She will continue to work -- the poor thing and you will still have your time off and everybody wins. I think you are the stubborn one in this situation. She is giving you a good option. Stop whining and pick up after yourself and lend the woman you claim to love a hand around the house. I promise you it won't kill you.

Answer 4

I think you are completely wrong. She might not do the physical labor, but trust me, working a desk job is not easy either. Personally, I am having a very similar issue with my fiance and let me tell you, if things dont change he is out of there. First of all you should be helping around the house. She is not your maid, your cook,the dry cleaner, or your servant she is your wife. As a man, expecting her to do these things, plus work, well let's just say your not being much of man and I dont know how she puts up with you. She does have very good points, and honestly you working 2 more days a month is not so bad. I mean come on you work 4 days a week, she works 5 days a week, plus commutes, plus takes care of your lazy a**. I think she works a lot harder than you realize. You should appreciate what she does for you. I can tell you if things dont change, expect to be paying for a divorce.

Answer 5

You are being a child. Seriously. I've been working seven days a week for the past three months. I'm tired and my boyfriend does a lot of the housework because he knows this. Also he doesn't have the option of letting me quit because with all my overtime I make quite a bit more than he does. What exactly is two days a month. I'd be glad to just have one day a month off.

Answer 6

Yes, SLOB you are wrong!!!. Not only do you NOT help around the house, you make it harder on her by making unnecessary messes. It's not gonna kill you to help around the house, you can start by picking up behind yourself.

She is working hard too, 500 miles a week in rush hour traffic is a hard too. You should be glad she gave you an option, some women would quit their job and make you help around the house.

However, with the option she gave you it would be better money wise if she quit and you worked the two extra days, but that shouldn't stop you from picking up behind yourself.

Answer 7

The Middle Ages are long gone! Get your lazy butt up & start helping out. I don't think it's your wife's job to be your mother. How ridiculous! Actually, I blame your mother for raising such a lazy man! If you want peace in your home, the least you can do is pick up after yourself. You have no good reason to act like a spoiled brat! Your wife will eventually tire of being superwoman & will leave you. When your alone with no one to be your 'mommy' will you then start cleaning up after yourself because no one else will? Or will you be one of those nasty people that lives in garbage? Your choice...stop being an @ss & start appreciating your wife for everything she does! Seriously, when I read what you wrote, I envisioned you as Al Bundy! What woman would want to settle for that??

Answer 8

Of course you are wrong! You are only working 4 days a week! First of all I am confused why you aren't helping around the house as it is, especially in this day and age, and even more so when she is working twice as long as you are. She is only asking you to work 2 more days out of a month, which is practically nothing, especially when you already have three days off in a week as it is.

You need to step up to your responsibilities as a husband and choose one of the options she is giving you because in all fairness you really should be doing BOTH. Let your wife take it easy for a while.

And as a side note, if it makes any difference I am a man as well.

Answer 9

Be a freaking man!!
You sound like your a lazy person, save your wife the trouble, quite being selfish man and go ahead and work the two extra days a month, can that possibly hurt you?
Come on, it sounds like she really has her work cut out for her, do it at least until she can find another job that's closer.
And as your mom picking up after you as a kid, you need to grow up and get some discipline in you, your not at home with mommy anymore, your supposed to be a man, so be one.

Answer 10

Is housework really that hard for you? Don't be so selfish, take 30 minutes out of your day and give the lady a hand. She's effectively working 2 jobs if you do nothing to help her around the house.

It doesn't matter who used to pick up for you, what you do now, or what your wife does now. You're a grown *** man with a wife, start pulling your own weight before she divorces you and takes half of what you apparently work so hard to get.

Answer 11

She still works all day and then comes home to work too.If you don't think that cleaning the house is hard then you do it. She isn't asking you to scrub the toilet just that you clean up after yourself. Why would that be a hard thing for you to do?She is right about a lot of it. The gas and such.So you expect her to work all the time and come home and work after work and you sit on your butt and do nothing. Then let her stay home. You are asking way to much of her as a wife and and a person. Change places with her. Would you if you could. My husband is gone trucking and I'm a stay at home mom.He would not trade me for nothing.