We are three children. My sis, the eldest, is 28 years old and my brother is two years younger than me, making him 20. From an early age, I have learnt to share everything with my bro. We were kind of brought up as twins - being treated equally. But he was just spoiled more, being my parents' only son and the youngest to boot. That has never been a problem for my sis and I and we spoiled him also. However, recently things have changed. He always gets his way, whether it's my car, money or just the tv. When we complained to my parents, they tried to punish him if he forces his way. But I fear it was in vain. He just continues doing what he wants. Now they have started to emotionally punish him, calling him names and stuff, and my sis also participates in this. I've tried the reasonal approach but nothing seems to work.
Please help
2007-12-05 22:27:36 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One of the oddest things in famalies is how the older/younger relationship persists in life. My "younger" sisters sometimes ask for my advice although we are all in our 50's as they think of me as "older"
In you case you need to ignore the fact that your bro is the "youngest", because that in a not relevant.
At 28 and 22, it about time you started making plans to flit the nest. Before people do this, they never really grow up as they maintain a practical and emotional reliance on their parents. Young bro should follow you soon after. Once you are no longer living in each others pockets, your relationship will move onto an "adult to adult" level. Bear in mind what I said at the beginning and don't treat your bro as a child just because he is "younger"
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2007-12-05 22:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you living at home? Your brother is a 20yr old adult male, no one is more selfish. Let him finish growing up. Your folks aren't doing him any favors by spoiling him, but its wrong of them to call him names and its worse that your grown adult sister is joining in.
You on the other hand need to get your own place, then you won't have those problems.
2007-12-06 08:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Name calling never solves anything. Since he's been babied all his life, he doesn't know how to grow up. This isn't going to happen over night. You are going to have to teach him what is means to be a responsible adult. In my opinion, you got him into this way of life and now you will have to help him find his way out. Stop giving him his way.It's time for him to grow up!
2007-12-06 07:02:53 · answer #3 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents that you fear that the way they treat ur bro may change his behavior and make him feel insecure and lonely... talk to ur bro let him know that you love him and will be there and that he needs to grow up...
2007-12-06 06:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋